The Bold-Faced Truth Podcast

E ver find yourself cruisin' through Facebook, just minding your own business, and then BOOM! You see someone who is thinner than you posing in her bikini in her exotically sexy, annoying vaca pics and you instantly start comparing yourself to her. Or maybe it's that one guy you used to work with sharing about his amazing work promotion for his new, totally awesome company, and your mind starts GO...

Y ou've been in the same industry for 20 years and you're dying to make a change but you're scared shitless to throw in the towel. Wouldn't that mean you wasted two decades? You're not totally sure you're getting your Master's because it's what YOU really want or if it's because that's what dad wants… or because it's what a younger version of you wanted. Shit. What if you just don't want that path...

M ost folks (maybe even you) who have a love affair with achievement and accomplishment, find that their tenacity and attachment to perfection has created a ton of significant success in their lives. Maybe they even wear the "over-achiever" label as a badge of honor. Sound like you? Maybe your constant striving and achieving has enabled you to succeed in school, your career, or in your community....

T ell me if this sounds familiar: You get a Bachelor's degree, but it doesn't really feel like enough, so you apply for a Master's program. You attain the Master's but turns out, it doesn't feel like enough either, so you start your own business. You set the goal to make six figures in your business, but when you achieve that marker, it somehow  still  doesn't feel like enough. Maybe the key to ha...

->>APPLICATIONS NOW OPEN FOR WORTHY. P erhaps some of the most challenging relationships we have in our lives are those with our own parents. Although we love them deeply, they are oftentimes the ones who present the most "issues" in our worlds and who tend to drive us the most batty. You feel me? I've worked with many students and clients who have the hardest time figuring out if they should seve...

W e've all heard of our inner child, right? That wounded inner child who is still reckoning with incidents occurring in our childhood. But, have you ever heard of your "outer child"? Tell me if this sounds familiar: You are going back home to visit your family and the minute you get around your parents, it's like you're 16 all over again. You're angsty, everything is unfair, and you just want to b...

->>APPLICATIONS NOW OPEN FOR WORTHY. I wish I had a dollar for every time someone told me something that happened in their childhood that  cleeeeearly  still affects them and then they say something like, "But, I'm totally over it though. It's not that big of a deal." Sure, sure it's not. I would have, like, so many dollars. Here's the deal: We never root for our trauma. We never really like the i...

>>GET ON THE VIP LIST FOR WORTHY. I used to flippantly refer to myself as a Perfectionist and oftentimes I would elude to it being somewhat of a badge of honor. As I got older and my anxiety increased, I realized that being a chronic perfectionist was actually STEALING my joy instead of making my job easier. But, how does one just stop being  a perfectionist ? Perhaps you find yourself in the same...

>>GET ON THE VIP LIST FOR WORTHY. S o, you're stuck. Not moving. Not taking much action.  You know all the things you  should  be doing to get where you wanna go, yet you don't actually do it.  Or maybe you have no idea what you want to do and that is leaving you feeling stuck as fuck. (Side note: I feel like there should be a glue or tape company called "Stuck as Fuck") And, it's likely if you're...

>>GET ON THE VIP LIST FOR WORTHY. Recently a listener wrote into the show, asking what to do when you find yourself feeling stuck. You know that racket, no? Stuck in a relationship... stuck in a soul-sucking job... stuck in a friendship that doesn't serve you. The list goes on. Perhaps you know exactly what you want, but you feel stuck in taking any action. Or maybe you have no idea what you want...

I f you're anything like me, you probably love having a nice plan for your life… Some nice stability, order, structure… some might even say you've got a tight grip on control. [guilty face] I know that space quite well. But, what happens when your solidly formed plans get thwarted by something you could never have seen coming? How do you allow room for grief that your life is going in a totally di...

L osing a job. Getting a tough diagnosis. Kids moving out of the house. Starting a business. Becoming a parent. All of these are examples of life transitions that can completely sideswipe us with emotion. Sometimes you intentionally plan for a transition, like moving to another country or changing careers, and other times, you may get forced into a life pivot out of nowhere leaving you floundering...

D ealing with a major life transition can be one of the most emotionally taxing and exhausting things we go through as humans. Not to mention that our society doesn't look fondly on processing emotion and expects you to "put on a happy face" because "the show must go on". Sometimes we're working through an intentional life transition, like choosing to start your own business, and other times we ge...

E ver wonder what it  really  takes to maintain happiness in a long-term relationship? I mean… don't passions just naturally fizzle and fade for every couple? Aren't happy couples just for fairy tales and movie magic? Think about it… It's HIGHLY likely you know very few couples who have been together for a long period of time who actually still really  like  each other. I believe there is a reason...

E ver wonder what it really takes to keep love alive long-term? Ever see happy couples and wonder what-the-hell their secret is? (I mean… Considering you're ready to strangle your spouse… ). In the twenty-five years we've been together, Mr. Smith and I have consistently and repeatedly been asked what our secrets are to not only a long-term marriage but a  happy  one. Plenty of people stay together...

Y ou and your partner are arguing about the same damn thing… yet again. The same cycle. The same hurt. The same fights. The same pattern. It feels like you're banging your head against the wall trying to understand each other, yet you end up consistently feeling lonely, frustrated, and unheard. And maybe you feel like you couldn't be more clear with what you are desiring for the relationship, yet...

I f you've hung around these parts for a while, you'll know that one of the cornerstones of my philosophy is that you can deliver damn-near any sort of information (no matter how difficult) to another person as long as you handle yourself with grace and kindness. I talk much about speaking up for yourself, saying "no", establishing boundaries and kicking people-pleasing to the curb. But, are there...

U nless you've been living under a rock, you have undoubtedly heard the notion of "setting boundaries", but have you ever wondered exactly what that means? Or maybe you drummed up the nerve to tell someone (like, your mom, boss, or bestie) how you really felt about something only to be blatantly ignored? (Or worse… not even taken seriously.) How do you actually go about establishing boundaries tha...

I f you've hung around these parts for awhile, you know that I love to GO OFF about how to establish and enforce a boundary. Of course, this is super helpful when you have a solid understanding of your boundaries, but what's one to do if you have no fucking clue what your boundaries even are!? I mean… how do you even figure that out? Where to start? If you've ever found yourself wondering the same...

O ur Spiritual Self is perhaps one of the most sacred and precious pieces of our personal identity. Yet, so many of us have had the ideas, concepts, and beliefs of our families of origin impressed upon us without much room for questioning or critical thinking. And if one dares to question the ideology, they are often met with severe shame and chastisement. I have met so many folks who are beginnin...

E ver wonder how folks who end up in a cult actually, um…  end up in a fucking cult ? Certainly they must be highly gullible or dying for approval or just simply not that smart, right? Not exactly. Let me ask you this… Have you ever had a relationship you stayed in a bit too long because it started out so great and you kept fighting for it  waaaay  past the point of toxicity? Or have you ever stay...

If you've hung out with me for any length of time, you'll know that I am often encouraging folks to stop identifying with monikers that feel disempowering. For instance, if you want to get more shit done, you probably should stop calling yourself lazy. Or if you want to knock it off with the people-pleasing already, it's time to stop saying, "I'm such a people-pleaser". When we start statements wi...

I f you've been hanging out with me for any length of time, you are likely a person who gives a shit about growing and developing and becoming the person you truly want to be. But, what does that actually  look like ? What does it really  mean  to actively work toward a more evolved version of yourself? What if you are so stuck in a cycle of working, taking care of everyone else, putting out fires...