The Bed Head Chronicles

Welcome to the bed head chronicles.  Today I want to talk about being able to draw upon past experiences and those moments when you feel overwhelmed, you feel helpless in a way, you feel scared to death about being able to handle something that you're going through, or being able to get through a certain struggle.  And you look at -- all of us have experiences to draw upon.  We all woke up this mo...

Welcome to the bed head chronicles.  Today I want to talk about listening.  Some of us may have people in our lives that are going through something that's really hurting them.  Or something they are struggling through.  And, sometimes we may think, "Why can't they get through this?  Why can't they see that they need to do this or they need to do that, and it will relieve them of their pain?"   We...

Welcome to the bed head chronicles.  Today, I'm following my amazing athlete on a hard run session.  Yes, it is a beautiful day, but these guys are quite fatigued by this point in time this week.    Some have raced last weekend.  Some just had a big week in training.  So, what do you do when you've got a big task ahead, but you don't feel great?  You do the best that you can with what you have.  A...

Welcome to the bed head chronicles.  Today, I want to talk about those moments when we get deeply anxious -- where, even to the point of a panic attack.    Last night on our chat with our Team Sirius Tri Club, someone asked about what to do when you're having a panic attack on the swim portion of a triathlon.    Now, when I talk about this, this can relate to anything.  This could be when you're h...

Welcome to the bed head chronicles.  So, this morning, I want to talk about how expectations can kill us.  In the year 2000, I was preparing for the Olympic trials in Sydney, Australia.  I had set a goal that every single day, I was going to visualize the entire race from start to finish.  Visualize the perfect race of me executing beautifully every moment and crossing the line, winning the race a...

Welcome to the bed head chronicles.  Yesterday I spoke about perspective.  Today, I want to elaborate on that as I was thinking about yesterday's session with my athletes and they were absolutely crushing it.  Basically, I was giving them goals that were way beyond what they thought they were capable of.  But, for me, my perspective as a coach -- I can see their potential.  And I can make a really...

Welcome to the bed head chronicles.  This morning, I want to talk about perspective and how we all have a certain way of looking at things, the meaning we give things -- and sometimes we can get really upset if someone else doesn't share our perspective.  But it's very important for us to always consider all the possibilities of what something could mean to anyone around you. I guess, for example,...

Welcome to the bed head chronicles.  Today, I'm going to include my amazing athletes, and we're going to talk about the single most important thing.    And they're used to my bed head.  I show up this way every single day.  The single most important thing that they tell themselves to get the most out of themselves every single day -- to be the best they can be every day.  Better than they were the...

Welcome to the bed head chronicles.  People often ask me, how do you have the courage to get on social media with your hair all over the place, no makeup, just getting out of bed?  I am proud of the woman I am today, and I have someone I want to thank for that -- Tony Robbins has been my single, most powerful, beautiful mentor.  He's changed my life in every way.    And Tony Robbins has given his...

Welcome to the bed head chronicles.  Today, I want to talk about the parts of ourselves that we're not necessarily proud of.   I know I often talk about being our best selves, being better than we were the day before.  And, I think, often, what we want to try and do is just suppress or hide away those parts of ourselves that make us feel some kind of a shame, or we know that it's not our best self...

Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.  Today, I want to talk about relationships as that place where we go to give love.  Imagine thinking about your marriage, your relationship, your friendships as a place where you go to give love, to give joy, to give support, encouragement, joy, whatever it is rather than thinking about what we want to receive from this other person.  What we want to receive fro...

Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.  Today, I'm going to call today kindness and thoughtfulness things which I try to live every day.  I want you to experiment with every single person that you encounter today that you greet them with a smile, with appreciation, with gratitude, and with love.  Even if it's someone that has caused you trouble before or brings up really, you know, negative feelings...

Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.  Today, I want to talk about how to best manage a situation of high stress, high stakes -- a situation that could cause you to be truly anxious, fearful, scared shitless.  I'll use a sporting analogy -- imagine that you are in overtime and you have the last shot that's going to win or lose the game.  At that moment -- these are the ways that you can sabotage you...

Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.  Today, you are not seeing my bed head.  But you are seeing the site where my wife and I, on mornings where it's warm enough, come out to do a process called 'Priming' that we learned from the amazing Tony Robbins.  With this process, you start with some breathing exercises to get centered and to get relaxed.  From there, you think about three things that you're...

Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.  Today, I want to talk about how to get yourself out of a really dark space of suffering. We all get there, sometimes, and it's crazy how sometimes, even though we want to feel better, we decide to throw on everything possible that can make us feel worse;  to almost torture ourselves to feel even worse than we already do.  It's crazy.  So, on that same note, wha...

Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.  Today, I want to talk about how we speak to ourselves in turmoil.  When we made a mistake on something we're working on or we forgot to do something that was important or was struggling to get through something that's hard.  The things that we say to ourselves, obviously, are going to affect how we feel and what we are able to accomplish.  When we are in a powe...

Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.  Today I want to talk about getting out of your comfort zone.  How many of you have truly gotten to the point where you were so uncomfortable, but you didn't know if you were going to survive the experience?  And you put yourself there, not something that is presented to you and you have to get through it.  But something, something that you decided to get so unc...

Welcome to the bed head chronicles.  Today is the best it gets.  This is jet lag bed head.  So, forgive me, but please love me anyway.  Today, I want to talk about worthy opponents.  This doesn't just mean in sport or in business, but I'm talking about those people that come into your life that caused you pain in some way, shape or form.  And I truly believe as I've spoken of it before, that peopl...

Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.  My bed head is truly at its best this morning.  So, yes, I just woke up and I woke up thinking about the questions we ask ourselves over and over and over again throughout the day.  Tony Robbins calls these our primary questions.  I know, years ago, my primary question was "What's wrong with me?  What am I missing?  What do I need more of?" It was always this q...

Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.  I woke up this morning thinking about how hard it is to end a chapter in your life not knowing what's next.  And I was thinking about this in relation to athletes, and when it's time to retire from the sport and how difficult that is.  Especially for athletes that have been doing sport their entire lives, and the mind wants to continue but the body is saying no...

What stories are holding you back?  Find the gift in the struggle.  Yes, we're all going to be hurt.  We're all going to be rejected at some point.  I, further down the line, just a couple of years ago, called my father.  I said, 'Dad, I want to thank you.  I want to thank you because when you rejected me, it gave me a drive, a determination, a fire that I don't think I would have ever had if you'...

Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.  This morning, I woke up thinking about a mindset shift that changed everything for me as a professional triathlete.  It was in the year 2000 and I had just choked at the Olympic trials.  Choked in that I really was kind of a shoo-in for the Olympic team by the way that I had been racing, and I choked.  I had a horrible race and I ended up just being an alternat...

Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.  Yes, I just rolled out of bed.  I've got bed head.  But it doesn't matter what we look like on the outside.  It's about what we have to offer from the inside that matters most.  Today, I want to talk about relationships, and I want to talk about the love languages.  There's an incredible book by Gary Chapman, The Five Love Languages.  We all have different ways...

Welcome to the Bed Head Chronicles.  I literally have just woken up.  So, excuse the appearance, but as always, one of the reasons why I do these is it's not about what you look like on the outside.  It's about what we have to share from the inside.  I woke up this morning thinking about a Maya Angelou quote and it is: 'There is no greater agony than burying an untold story inside of you.’ And I t...

And welcome to the bed head chronicles.  Bed head at it's worse today.  Today, I want to talk about how a few years ago, Tony Robbins always used to always tell us about your primary question.  What is that question that you ask yourself, like, hundreds of times throughout the day.  Like mine, about 10-15 years ago, was "What's wrong with me?  What's wrong with me?  What's wrong with me?"  That is...