The Be Ruthless Show

Suicide is a unique kind of loss that is widely stigmatized. Loss isn’t discussed enough in this world, and suicide loss even more so. Today’s guest on The Be Ruthless Show has a lot to say about this topic, and more! Sarah Gaer is a suicide loss survivor and holds a Masters Degree in Clinical Mental Health. She has spent the past 10 years working in Suicide Prevention focused on men in their midd...

How should I act when my friend gets out of rehab? Or when they’ve suffered a loss? An injury? These are things we don’t discuss - but should! On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I share my 3 most important tips on how to show up for someone after they’ve been through something intense. ========================================================================================================...

Addiction is a topic that is under discussed with plenty of stigmas. Gambling addiction is even less discussed. On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, Patrick Chester and I dive deep into this much needed discussion. Patrick Chester is a 50 year old father of two boys and husband. He spent 15 years living in the darkness that is gambling addiction. Patrick spent many years building a solid re...

How Bout Them Cowboys!!! And, of course, LETS GO BLUE! Big Football Weekend, and also a big emotional weekend for me. On top of being sick last week, my back has been acting up…. which immediately triggers my anxiety. The what if’s. The could it be’s. The not knowing is, by far, the worst. So yesterday I wound up at urgent care - I have a follow up with a specialist on Friday, and my mind - and bo...

Disability. I don’t even like the word let alone what it stands for. And most people think of something physical when they hear the word disability, but there are emotional disabilities as well. They’re just invisible. My guest on today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show addresses physical AND emotional disabilities as well as the stigmas that come with them. Shanice Green is a Transformational and...

I survived my first Thanksgiving in Michigan without Jim… It was so amazing being with my family and friends, and it was also extremely emotional. I’m beyond grateful for The Griefhab Community. It’s my safe place. It’s my people. It’s my sanity. It’s also my way of helping others get the support that I so desperately needed and couldn’t find. And I need you - to help me share Griefhab. So no one...

Joining me on today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show - Kitt O’Malley. Kitt is the author of " Balancing Act: Writing Through a Bipolar Life, " a mental health advocate, a public speaker, and a former psychotherapist who lives with bipolar disorder. Her personal experience and clinical background inform her advocacy and enable her to help herself and guide others toward mental health recovery.&nbs...

I’m on my way to (or already in) Michigan, depending on when you read and listen to this😂  My first Thanksgiving in Michigan without Jim. Holiday travel. The chaos of family, or cooking - or both! It’s an overwhelming time for most, so for those already struggling… it can be even more overwhelming. On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I share important ways for you to keep your sanity...

On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I share five of YOUR questions - That’s right. Five questions from the weekly Ask Sam Calls that I know so many people need to hear. Questions about relationships. Questions about self care. YOUR questions. ==================================================================================================================== Come join Team Ruthless and find...

I talk all the time about clients interviewing us to find the best fit. But we need to interview them, as well!! I fired a client last week - Not because I didn’t like her. Not because I didn’t want to work with her. Because I need to protect myself. On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss the clients who aren’t safe. I discuss the importance of documentation - for both our clients p...

Northern Colorado’s Thompson School District has invited mental health co-responders to assist school resource officers in the FIRST co-responder school program in Colorado. THIS. IS. HUGE!!! I’ve talked for 9 years about the differences in mental health care between Michigan and Colorado. This is common in Michigan - and we’re just now seeing the FIRST in Colorado. On today’s episode of The Be Ru...

It’s been a week!! I know, it’s only Monday. But I’m talking about the past week. I was at the vet 3 times with these 2. Thankfully we’re all fine now. But man - Life is hard. Being a widow is hard. And people everywhere are struggling. So I’m offering some support groups through the holidays - For anxiety For loss For You! On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss these groups as well...

Stress looks different for each and every one of us. And different things are stressful for different people. No matter what causes you stress - the important thing is having healthy outlets. People. Activities. Self care. It’s International Stress Awareness Day, and on todays episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss why this day matters - and more! ==============================================...

Happy Halloween, Everyone. Wanna hear something different? I’ve never loved Halloween. I know, I know - I hear the reactions all of the time. That’s what I talk about on today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show: not loving something that the majority of the world loves. Or enjoying it in a different way. There’s nothing wrong with me - or with you - for not liking certain traditions that the world...

Leading With Legacy is officially available on Amazon!  This is a collection of 20 stories, from authors selected by the readers! I promise these stories will move you, uplift you, and inspire you! On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I speak with Leading With Legacy co-author Angela Germano. Angela is currently an award-winning middle school Language Arts teacher, Communication profes...

Dak is Back!! And The Cowboys beat The Lions - which is more than just any game for me. It’s the memories of this rivalry between me and Jim. The trips we don’t get to take. The future that isn’t. So my emotions were all over the place - and I’m not sorry. Because we’ve all been there! And hiding it makes it so much worse. On todays episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss feeling the feelings.&...

There are so many things that I go through that no one sees. I lived alone for years before Jim and I reconnected. But living alone without him now - it’s an entirely different kind of living alone. And the more clients I work with, the more I realize that it’s not just me.   It’s universal.  So on today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I share some things you’d never know without peop...

It’s National Domestic Violence Awareness Month - and I want to emphasize that emotional abuse is equally harmful. It doesn’t have to leave a bruise to be wrong. Unhealthy. Not everyone knows what that looks like. Not everyone knows what signs to look for. On todays episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss five things we can look for in relationships. ============================================...

It’s National #StopBullyingDay and it’s also Bullying Prevention Month - and I’ve got so much to say about this topic. Because there are many different types of bullying. And speaking up isn’t something everyone is taught. So on today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss what to look for, questions to ask, and ways to get out of uncomfortable or unhealthy situations. ======================...

It’s World Mental Health Day - and while I absolutely want to celebrate this, I also want people to understand what it means. It’s not on any calendars. There aren’t any traditions associated with today like turkey and Thanksgiving. So let’s decide what it means. Let’s make it what we want it to mean! On today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss a few different ways you can check in with...

Men’s Mental Health There are stigmas surrounding mental health in general, and there are also stigmas surrounding men and mental health. Joining me on today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show is Michael Ceely,  a licensed psychotherapist and owner of Ceely Counseling .  He serves clients  in Florida at Men's Counseling Florida and in Wisconsin at Madison Online Therapy . Michael is...

It’s Mental Illness Awareness Week, and I hosted a 5k walk in Fort Collins yesterday to raise awareness. I met the most amazing people. We talked about living with someone who isn’t willing to accept their mental illness, and the toll that takes on their loved ones. And we’ve all been there - with a physical illness or injury we haven’t wanted to admit! I refused to admit I was sick as a kid and b...

I cannot say enough about todays guest on The Be Ruthless Show. Barbara Legere is the author of Keven's Choice, A Mothers Journey Through Her Son's Mental Illness, Addiction and Suicide and coauthor of the bestselling book The Epiphanies Project. As an advocate for those suffering from substance use disorders, mental health issues and grief, she has been featured in Salon, The Huffington Post, and...

The Washington Post reported that officers killed those they were called to help in at least 178 cases over 3 years. When I think of the police, I think of people protecting us… But these stories are on the rise. And I want everyone struggling to get the help they deserve! So on today’s episode of The Be Ruthless Show, I discuss what to do if you need to make that call: - what language to use and...

Today’s guest on The Be Ruthless Show is Charlie Beswick, and I am extremely honored to have her with us. Charlie Beswick is mum to 17-year-old twins, Oliver and Harry. She is the author of best-selling book Our Altered Life, a brutally honest account of how she came to terms with a life she never expected. She is also an award-winning blogger and her family's story has been featured international...