The Authenticity Coach

Are you addicted to approval? Is your overwhelming need to please oppressing your expression of ideas, desires & dreams? If so, & you are feeling stuck & sorry for yourself, there is a solution. High achievers recover from their addiction to approval by increasing their tolerance for disapproval. As hard-working & committed as you may be, it will be grueling, if not impossible, to...

Do you want to change your career? Whether you have already decided to move to a different career or you are just exploring the possibility, this episode is for you. High achievers who are successful at shifting to new careers are astute at conveying 3 essential things. Learn to identify & implement the "3 Es" of effective career-change communication: your experience, your enthusiasm...

Are you adrift in your career? If you want to be intentional about setting the trajectory of your career, this episode is for you. This 4-question guide is your resource for gaining the clarity you need in order to stop drifting & start deliberately designing the direction of your career. 1) What drains you? And what do you love to do? 2) What are you known for doing ? And what do you want to...

Resilience is an extraordinary superpower. But are you using your resilience to empower your forward-moving thriving or to endure an ongoing miserable surviving? Healthy resilience supports recovery. It allows you to regain your energy & enthusiasm in order to be ready for what is next. Healthy resilience does not strengthen our coping skills to be able to return to the same harm again & a...

What should you do if you do not have a vision of where you ideally want to be? How do you advance if it is impossible or impractical to move directly towards your ideal career or life at this time? Shift your focus to doing what would make it better. Learn to ask yourself: What is best for me now? Recognize that choosing not to brutally push yourself does not mean that you are playing small. Givi...

Do you struggle to deliver difficult messages? If so, this episodes is your guide to being a competent & confident communicator. Diamond-caliber communication will be yours when you follow the 4Cs of color, clarity, cut & carat. See the color of what is really going on & weigh the true magnitude of the matter. Learn to speak with direct clarity & convey your point with well-cut precision. Be inten...

Are you being bullied by your inbox? Are you too bombarded by nonstop email messages, distracting tasks & urgent requests to focus on what really matters? If you want to stop being in a constant state of triage, this episode is for you. High achievers who achieve next-level success in profitability, scale or innovation -- & stay sane while doing so -- have systems that protect their energy...

What does it mean to be "authentic" at work? If you are looking to strike the right balance between authenticity & professionalism, this episode is for you. Learn practical standards that you can apply -- & you can help those you lead & guide to apply -- to be both authentic & appropriate in the workplace. Understand the difference between having to keep something about y...

If you do not have what you want, it may be time to ask yourself: Do you really want it? Do you want to do what must be done in day-to-day life in order to actually have & hold what you say you so ardently desire? Wanting is not only about having. True wanting is about being & doing. To receive & joyfully engage with what we want, we must be capable of handling it. Learn to determine w...

If you hate your job & you have decided that you will leave it, this episode is for you. Learn the three things that you need to do in order to get through until you can get out. Do not be one of those high achievers who finally comes out of a crushing role, only to find out that they are in no shape to participate in the life they had so desperately wanted. Protect your enthusiasm, energy &am...

No one is coming to save you. If you are overworked, overextended & overwhelmed, it is time to stop waiting for someone to come to your rescue or give you permission to make a change. To avoid disaster, you must save yourself. And the first step to coming to your own rescue is knowing your own limits. This episode will help you to calibrate the spectrum of your stress & see where you stand...

Do you tend to presume that others have positive, negative or neutral intentions? There is so much that we do not know about what others are thinking, feeling & doing, yet we make assumptions about people's intentions all day, every day. And the intentions that we impute influence our mindset &, in turn, determine how we react to & interact with those in our lives. Identify your ov...

Do you want to be the job candidate who interviewers love? For an interview to be successful, you need to be three things: likable, credible & compelling. Creating strong impressions in each of these areas paves the way for receiving sought-after job offers. The winning interview candidate has clear intentions & thoughtfully prepared soundbites. Learn how to design your custom game-plan. E...

Feelings of peace & fulfillment come when we do what is good for us. If these feelings are eluding you, this episode is your guide towards greater satisfaction. We begin with identifying where you are stuck. Do you need help knowing what is good for you, wanting what is good for you or doing what is good for you? If you would like to make good decisions, actually desire what you know is best f...

Are you keeping a secret or maintaining a confidence? Explore 4 sets of questions to help you to determine whether you are colluding in shame or upholding in trust. #1 - Does it directly involve me? Does it impact my ability to tell my story & receive the support I need? #2 - Does it compromise me? Am I somehow complicit in wrongdoing or at odds with a duty? #3 - Is it gray or clear? Can I art...

What's your Plan B? When you are sensing that your job, your relationship or some other situation that you are in may not advance to meet your needs & goals, you need a Plan B. You want to continue. You are committed. But the continuation of that commitment is contingent upon certain decisions & actions that are beyond your control. Learn what a Plan B is & when you should have one...

Are you constantly pushing for the impossible? If so, this episode is for you. Identify the ways in which you strive to be, do & have the impossible. Recognize the chronic disappointment & dissatisfaction this causes & how much of your suffering is self-inflicted. Learn how to get relief -- by stopping your relentless striving to do what cannot be done. Embrace your uplifting dreams. A...

Your focus, fears & fantasies are your prayers. When we consistently give something our undivided attention, when we desire something above all else or when we await someone or something to "save" us, we are, essentially, praying. In this episode, I share the 5 principles that my own experiences of heartache & hard times have taught me about prayer. Whether your religious beliefs...

Do you celebrate your accomplishments? If you don't, it's time to start! Celebration is not a frivolous waste of time & energy, nor is it a meaningless indulgence like receiving a participation trophy. Celebrating your wins can be as crucial to your on-going success as carefully planning your next course of action. Learn why it is so important to recognize what you have accomplished &a...

If you want to receive the increase in pay, the promotion or the headcount for hiring that you deserve, you need to stop the narrative & start to present the numbers. Repeated complaints about working long hours or being "crazy busy" seldom bring the increased compensation, new title or needed staff we are seeking. In fact, complaining may hurt our credibility. Whining, however valid...

How zealously do you represent yourself? Do you advocate for yourself with the same vigor as you would for your client, employer or someone you love? Or do you permit unwanted & unreasonable self-talk to interfere with your pursuit of your dreams & desires? Learn how to bring to your own cause the same compelling confidence, courage & sound reason that you tap so effectively to advise...

Are you miserable because you missed your chance? Do you beat yourself up over what you screwed up, failed to seize or did not even see? Are you bitter because those who got there before you received a boon & participate in benefits you can't have? If so, it's time to end the myth of the missed opportunity. That chance may, indeed, have passed you by. But new chances present themselves...

Is your profession right for you? Should you switch careers? There are 8 questions you can ask yourself to help you to assess whether or not you are on the right track. 1. How meaningful is the work? 2. Does the profession encourage you to become a better version of yourself? 3. Are your best talents & greatest skills being utilized? 4. Does this career pay you what you are worth? 5. Do you wa...

Anger is your ally. Anger, envy, worry, sadness, hurt & many other emotions & feelings are your loyal friends. They indicate when something is not right -- or is not right for you. And they invite you to take action. However unpleasant or unwanted, your feelings can be the richest & most powerful advisers that you could hope to have come to your aid. Emotions are energy -- & you ca...

There is much truth to the proverb "You get what you give." But what can you do when you are giving -- & you are not getting in return? This is the time to acknowledge the corollary to the "You get what you give" adage: You can give what you get. You have the right to give to someone only as much as you are receiving. If over-giving is causing you to feel disappointment, lo...