The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast

Why is "The Attracting Lasting Love Podcast" talking about spirituality? What does that have to do with finding a life partner? Everything. In this episode, Roy shows that true spirituality and healthy, conscious relationships go hand-in-hand. In fact, without learning "the basic insight that launches true spirituality," you are doomed to co-dependent, disappointing relationships. Don't miss this...

If you're human and don't live in a cave, you get triggered all the time, right? It happens to all of us. The issue is, what do you do when you're triggered? Well, most of us become aggressive, passive, defensive or argumentative—making matters worse.   But in this episode, Roy outlines a 5-step "conscious trigger response" that will allow us to end drama and reconnect with the people we care abou...

In this episode, relationship coach and #1 best-selling author, Roy Biancalana, explains that curiosity is the key to attracting a healthy, sustainable relationship.   Let's face it: most people are sabotaging their love lives in ways they aren't aware of, but when we cultivate curiosity, we can experience the "aha!" moments that bring those self-sabotaging behaviors to light so that we shift them...

What is it that makes us attractive to our ideal partners? That is such an important question, and in this episode, Roy discusses the physical, emotional and energetic issues that can allow us to be our most attractive selves.   What will be surprising for some is that what makes men attractive is not the same thing as what makes women attractive. There is powerful wisdom shared here, so don't mis...

We don't like to admit it, but we all have something called, "A Core Story of Deficiency." It's believing that we are, for example, not good enough, unlovable, or unworthy, to name just a few.   In this episode, Roy interviews Scott Kiloby. Scott has developed an amazing inquiry process that allows a person to unwind their core stories and avoid the relationship drama that they cause.   Roy doesn'...

The fear of rejection is probably the most common fear among single people, and if it's not overcome, it will sabotage your love life and keep you single.   In this powerful episode, Roy shares some life changing perspectives on why rejection isn't personal and how to overcome the fear so that you can enjoy the pursuit of intimacy.   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy's...

Decisions always come up in relationships: Should you go out with them? Should you go on a second date? Should you take your profiles down? Should you have sex? And so on.   In this episode, relationship expert and coach, Roy Biancalana, offers some wisdom and guidance on how to make relationship decisions that lead to healthy, sustainable, intimate relationships.   He shares that these decisions...

Believe it or not, in this episode, Roy teaches us how to talk! We all know how to talk in a way that creates drama and conflict but very few know how to talk in a way that creates clarity, connection and intimate communion. In very practical terms, Roy shares a simple technique—speaking unarguably—which will radically transform not only an intimate relationship but any relationship. This is part...

We all know that communication is the life-blood of any relationship, but in this episode, Roy challenges the listener to pay more attention to the motives behind their words rather than what actually comes out of their mouths. You will learn that there are really only two "love languages": Fear and Trust. We are either speaking from fear, which makes us conceal in order to control, or we are spea...

Most people say they want a relationship characterized by authenticity, transparency and honesty. But what does that really mean? In this episode, the host, Roy Biancalana, invites the listener to be a "revealer" rather than a "concealer" by describing 5 devastating results of not being authentic. This is part one of a three part series.   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:  ...

Do you ever feel like trying to find your life partner is like trying to find a needle in a haystack? If so, you're not alone. In this episode, Roy talks about two ways to find your "needle" (your life partner): You can either sift through all the hay, which will messy and take forever, or you can magnetically and effortlessly draw your "needle" out of the haystack without you having to sift throu...

I tried so hard to come up with a title for this episode that would cause you to listen—because it's that important. I hope I succeed, because I interview Jim Dethmer, one of the world's leading voices in the field of living, loving and leading consciously. We talk about the root of suffering and drama, what it means to be the creator of your experience, and how to let go of uncomfortable feelings...

In this episode, Roy explains something most of us know—that we are our own worst enemy. The mind functions like our "inner relationship coach." It's our Matchmaker, Translator, Secret Service Agent, Psychologist and Psychic—giving us advice and wisdom to aid in our pursuit of intimacy. However, even though our minds mean well, its wisdom backfires, sabotaging our ability to attract a healthy, sus...

Even though Gary Chapman's blockbuster book, "The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts" is extremely popular, it's actually based on a dangerous premise. The commitment to speak in another person's "love language" won't produce "love that lasts," as the subtitle suggests. Instead, it will create co-dependence, power struggle, score-keeping and drama. Listen to this episode with an op...

None of us like drama and conflict, and yet not many of us understand its root causes and how to put an end to it. If you want to learn how to end conflict—with partners, parents, siblings, children, co-workers or friends—and create connection and harmony, then don't miss this episode.   Additional Resources Roy may have mentioned on the show:   Roy's Website: https://coachingwithroy.com   The Rel...

Would you like to feel alive, happy, passionate, energized and full of love and joy almost all of the time? Well, in this episode, Roy explains how to make that your "new normal." Roy shares that although we all want to feel alive and happy, we don't have to go searching for those feelings as if it were missing. Rather, the beautiful energy we seek—love, passion, joy—all of it is fully present wit...

In this episode, Roy offers practical, mindful wisdom on what to do when you're an emotional wreck. He discussed the two major mistakes that most people make: They either AVOID their feelings via distraction or some other sort of numbing activity, or they ATTACH to their feelings and hold on to them. But there is a "middle way" — feeling your feelings — and Roy explains how to do that without over...

In this episode, Roy discusses the issues surrounding making smart sexual choices. No other issue can lead to such pleasure or pain, and so it's a critically important issue to discuss. Roy talks about the three waves of the sexual revolution. The first occurred in the mid sixties when we evolved beyond sexual repression to sexual expression. The second occurred because of STD's and AIDS, causing...

If you love "aha" moments, then this is your episode! Roy discusses the REAL reason you're still single, and yes, it's not what you think. Yet this real reason is sabotaging your love life and keeping you from attracting a healthy, fulfilling relationship. If you want a happy ending to your love story, then dive in. But beware. You need an open heart and a strong "seat belt," because you're in for...

In this episode, Roy interviews his wife, MaryMargaret Biancalana. The two of them share the hilarious story about how they met and how each of them took the risk of being incredibly authentic with one another—from the very beginning. Additionally, they engage in a deep discussion about their "incompatibility" and how they handle their significant personality differences. Finally, Roy asks MaryMar...

Chemistry and compatibility are the two essential components of a meaningful intimate connection. But while most everyone understands chemistry, the host, relationship expert, Roy Biancalana, believes compatibility is radically misunderstood. In this podcast, Roy will talk about what's important and what's not when it comes to compatibility in an intimate relationship. Most people put far too much...

"The Law of Attraction works and that should scare the hell out of you." That is the provocative but very important message of this podcast. Even though the LOA is all the rage and almost every dating and relationship expert sings its praises, using the LOA as your relationship strategy will backfire and actually ruin your chances at creating a healthy, sustainable, intimate relationship. The host...

In this episode, the host, Roy Biancalana, discusses the conscious approach on how to start a new relationship and create a connection that will last. You will learn where to go to meet someone special, how to approach them (or get them to approach you!) and what to say in those initial, crucial moments where first impressions are made. Once a person is "ready for something real" (the topic of epi...

This podcast is NOT for engaged couples or those thinking about getting married, though its message would apply to them. No, this podcast is for anyone interested in knowing what it takes to attract lasting love. Because we will never be in a relationship that is healthier than we are, this podcast explores what it means to be in "relationship shape," and how to get yourself ready for something re...

In this episode, Roy takes everything he's learned, both personally and professionally, about how to do online dating successfully and packages it into a single episode. Roy presents a mindful or conscious perspective on the "5 P's" of Internet Dating: Preparation, Principles, Practices, Profiles and Pictures. There's a gold mine of info offered here, and if you're doing or thinking of doing onlin...