The Anxious Love Coach

Do you feel like there's a lot of mental gymnastics to relationship anxiety work? Does this feel overly complicated? Let's take a step back from the details and acknowledge the bigger picture. The work here is to develop faith and trust in yourself.  You can't think your way out of a feeling problem. I'm not here to talk you off a ledge. I'm here to give you the tools either walk away, or take the...

 Is it possible to be with one person for life and still feel something deep and warm between you? I'm sharing stories and wisdom from a 43‑year warm, loving marriage. Are you stressed by wanting things in your relationship to be equal and fair?  What if doing more at home or in the relationship brings greater spiritual fulfillment? What if the reward outweighs the work?  What if you and your part...

Sharing our "come to Jesus" difficult discussion this week. On: incompatability that surfaces while married, negotiating differences and wants, and how not martyring yourself and nurturing your individuality is key to staying connected. Upcoming: Both Feet In, my signature relationship anxiety course, is now available as a membership for course members. We will meet 2-3x/month to apply the tools f...

A postpartum fight with my husband leads to some excellent healing and bonding. There is a power to forgiving ourselves, and our partners. This does not condone what happened or open ourselves up to being hurt again, but transforms that energy into clarity, love, and peace. Forgiveness emphasizes that you can have peace while still keeping boundaries, holding people accountable, and making meaning...

Sometimes the thing we fixate on in our partners is actually something we do, too. What if we responded to our partners the way we want them to respond to us? Magic could happen. Many of my episodes use my personal stories as reference for lessons and teachings, and today's episode is no different, if maybe even more personal. I'm unscripted and opening up to you about a breakthrough that we've ha...

What do you do when values or visions clash? Can you reconcile? Can you "go along" without abandoning yourself? In this episode I opened up about a fight P and I had this week, yayyy! And how we kinda got back on the same page.   Links: Unwavering 2026 has started but it is NOT too late to join us! ➡️ Unwavering is a year-long mentorship designed to get you to stop reacting to every intrusive thou...

Parenthood has been a SEASON. In this episode, I shared how having grace for your partner is essential in a marriage, and what that looks like — and how those with rOCD might desperately have a tough time both giving and receiving it.   UNWAVERING: A Year to End the Drama in your Relationships kicks off with a welcome call on January 20th. The first trimester starts February 7th with Anxious to Sp...

In this episode, my friend Cherry and I talked about a recent conversation where she humbled me in my marriage and how INCREDIBLY helpful it is to have sister roles like that in your life. Cherry also shares how to make bomb a$$ friends.   Links: Patreon - support my work and come pick my brain during my monthly hotseat coaching for $7/month! Unwavering: A year to end the drama in your relationshi...

This question came from my Patreon and I want to talk about it! If your guy is in his 20s and figuring himself out and you're feeling anxious about it... you're not crazy. Here's why and what you can do about it. Patreon - pick my brain monthly and get discounts on (almost) everything Unwavering: A year to end the drama in your relationships I'm hosting a workshop on Dec 19th to set your intention...

In this episode I share a personal story with my husband's porn usage, what to do if your partner's usage bothers you, how I see porn now, what makes it worse, and how to get him to want to stop. Join me for the entire year in UNWAVERING: End the drama in your relationships You'll get: Access to my three best-selling 8-week group programs in spring, summer, and fall Plus an exclusive community ONL...

Hey! In this episode I shared my story with breakup urges in my relationship with my now-husband and partner for 14 years. Boy do I know the panic of the thought "BREAK UP!" I also shared how I stopped experiencing these altogether, and how you can work with me in 2026.   Join me for the entire year in UNWAVERING: End the drama in your relationships You'll get: Access to my three best-selling 8-we...

Hot take: relationship anxiety is the fear of being "stuck" or powerless. There's no shame in falling into the trap of thinking we'll be victims to the circumstances in our lives— but once you see it... you don't have to choose it. You can choose to stay empowered no matter what your decision is. Listen in. Links: Spark Reset: Feel something again for a man you already love Yin Language Patreon -...

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End the war within yourself with Stefi Preiss   In this episode, I bring one of my dearest friends and mentors, Stefi Preiss, to discuss a practice that helped me step out of relationship anxiety and commit to my partner (now husband and daddy to my baby!) with my whole heart. We discuss what a polarity looks like, how it can create healing in ourselves, our families, and ultimately — the world (e...

Hi podcast listener! I'm back with a fresh episode after having a baby boy. This episode includes my birth story (which went tremendously well), as well as some changes I'm making moving forward, including to the title of this podcast. Work with me 1:1: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/work1-1 Join me on Patreon (special discounts + a monthly support call where you can ask me anything and source t...

A question we've had come up in our self-study course and also in our DMs– what do you do if your partner watches porn or follows a bunch of hot women on social media? (This speaks mostly to a pattern I see coming from women in relationships with men, but as always, not always.) In this episode, I share some thoughts on (particularly the excessive use of) pornography … as always, take what empower...

When you're experiencing relationship anxiety, hearing "trust your gut" or "listen to your intuition" can be one of the most triggering things you can hear. Is your intuition telling you to leave, or is it ROCD? Tune in with Chelsea Joy Horton, OCD specialist with her masters in dance movement therapy and counseling. Together we share the more accurate measurements of determining how to trust your...

There are hidden costs of reassurance seeking, the act of trying to find certainty about your relationship. If you tend to constantly be searching for the perfect piece of advice (even from me!), you're addicted to the illusion of certainty as a means of feeling safe. Listen to this episode for things you can do instead to reignite the spark in your relationship and not dampen it through reassuran...

I uncover the psychology of resistance to sex with our partners, along with the techniques I use to release this resistance and open up to intimacy in the bedroom.   Links:  Join me for my monthly Q&A on Patreon: patreon.com/AnxiousLoveCoach Watch Your Language Masterclass: anxiouslovecoach.com/watch-your-language-masterclass Conscious Communication Course: anxiouslovecoach.com/consciouscommunicat...

How does one know that the relationship they are in is toxic or abusive? I often add the disclaimer to relationship anxiety content to disregard my insight if you're in a toxic or abusive relationship. In this episode, I lay out my nuanced thoughts on this, knowing full well there are limitations even to this line of thinking. We discuss power dynamics, manipulation, unconsciousness, malicious int...

Every worry you're "settling" if you stay with your partner? You're not alone: this thought process isn't your fault and it has good reason for being there-- but there are a ton of ways it isn't helpful when looking at relationships, especially for someone that struggles with relationship OCD. In this episode, we will debunk the myth of "settling" and empower you with some better language to use a...

I am thrilled to welcome back Luci Lampe, a dear friend and mentor. If part of your relationship anxiety stems from lack of sexual desire — you're going to want to listen. We also discuss how neediness can be an incredible gift to awakening sexually. I've been committed to a daily self-pleasure practice through diligently taking Luci's course "Come As You Are" and have seen incredible results. I'v...

My most "meta" episode yet... If your suffering about your relationship is caused by comparisons to illusions (rose-colored memories of your ex, Disney, Tiktok), then can we flip the dynamic on its head and re-invigorate the relationship by using illusion to our advantage? Warning: I'm about to ruin attraction for you in this episode. Who we are: Natalie Kennedy   @Anxiouslovecoach   Email List -...

I'm sharing a vulnerable story and a recent personal loss... and what it has taught me. I want to share how loss, pain, grief, and disappointment are portals to the divine... if you will let them be so.   Email List - Stay in touch I'm going on maternity leave in January! I'll be in touch via email for a while. Please subscribe! As thanks, I'll send you my free relationship anxiety meditation to h...

I discuss living apart from my husband and the importance of maintaining a separate identity outside of your partnership. When we lack separateness, one or both partners can end up feeling trapped and lacking desire for one another. We cover: why separateness is important for a relationship and what that can look like, how to cultivate it, and what to do if you experience separation anxiety.   Ema...