The Alive & Free Podcast

The demonic is very real.   And I'm sure if you've been a part of the church for long enough, you've heard of a bunch of different kinds of inner healing methods or styles... We've both experienced the demonic and the supernatural but we haven't built a "deliverance" ministry... This podcast episode answers "why?" In this episode, we share stories of the supernatural and talk about the differences...

**TRIGGER WARNING** Do NOT listen to this with children around and if you do not want to hear very nitty gritty details on our sexual experiences that we have healed from. We made this episode to discuss the times we have been taken advantage of, the times we have chosen into destructive sexual decisions, and the process we went through afterward to heal. This is for you if you feel stuck in shame...

After our last podcast episode on Sex, we received so many messages and comments from you guys. This episode is the first of many responses to those questions. So yes...we do listen to you :P In this episode, we get very vulnerable but also share how we've cultivated safety for eachother sexually, how we've navigated disconnect, and how we have pursued eachother. Whether you're married and wanting...

Don't live in shame. Don't live powerless to it. Don't keep silent. And don't miss out on all of it's beauty. In this episode, we have an honest dialogue about sex, our struggles, others' struggles, and how to get free from the shame that often keeps us stuck. Don't keep reading this description...just go listen already! Seriously, get goin' What are you still doin' here? ;) As always, these episo...

We all get triggered in relationships...or even when we are just alone by ourselves. What do you do when you can't shake that feeling that you're alone or nobody loves you? So many of us blame the ones closest for not being or doing enough... A lot of us escape to friends and people and can't be alone because being alone feels tormenting. Where does that feeling come from and can we do anything to...

Laura Duncan has coached men and women for a decade and teaches her compassion coaching method in our Coach Launch Program.   She has helped people get free from porn addiction, work through grief and loss, heal relationships, connect to God, get free from depression and suicidality, and heal with compassion.   In this episode, she, Sammi, and Spencer talk christianity and emotional health.   How...

Young Entrepreneurship is a hot topic nowadays... And Christians are trying to figure out their place in it all. Building our business has been so difficult and so rewarding... It has put pressure on our marriage and also revealed and refined us in some of the best ways. This episode is an invitation to you to grow in your beliefs, your capacity for risk, and the clarity of direction you might not...

If you don't think entrepreneurship is vulnerable or that making a business and going after your dreams is triggering, then you have got it all wrong.   We would have never created A&F if it weren't for the inner healing process we went through with God.     It was scary to try, there was resistance, and there were people that didn't believe in us.   But we decided not to settle for mediocrity in...

Is reconciliation possible for children and their parents?   What would healthy dialogues look like between children and parents that may have caused childhood pain?   How can parents respond to the pain from their children?   Are some parents not worth confronting and hoping for deeper connection?   We explore all of this and more in this episode.     Melanie and Amanda are a mom-daughter duo loo...

There is a lot of big news here...   So stay tuned...   But in this episode, we also break down the deep need for emotional health in the church.   Why is all of the pressure put on pastors to counsel marriages? Are church leaders equipped to help with people's trauma?   Is the Word ALL we need?   We discuss all of this in this episode.   For Men that want Resources, email info@aliveandfreeconsult...

We are so vulnerable and raw and had a rough day.   It was a rough day for us and for Alive & Free.     There is no such thing as a pain free life and we have chosen not to shove our pain and we've chosen not to be powerless to it either.   What do you do when the "hard" of life feels unbearable and how do you grieve and value emotions and also put on your adult hat and get things done?   This is...

In this Episode where I (Spencer) Interview my friend Matt, we talk about some really tough news he and his wife found out when their second son was born.   Their new son was born with Down-Syndrome...   And they were not expecting it at all.   9 months of dreaming, expecting, thinking about the future...totally and drastically changed...   But this became an incredible gift in their lives.   In t...

How do you find God and trust Him in the midst of high highs and low lows?   We are emotional health coaches but we're also normal human beings with pain and our own issues and we also run a company of 35+ employees.   In this episode, we have an laid back chat about the current issues we're personally facing and how we're processing life.   If you like this episode and want more like it, let us k...

We're continuing the conversation from our last episode on the problems, humanity, and pain found in the christian church and what to do with that pain.   If you're a woman and you want help working through your past pain, triggers, relationship disconnection and wounds, then apply for our 100 Days to Come Alive Coaching Intensive- apply here:   https://www.yourheartfree.com/book-a-call   The trut...

What's wrong with the church?   A lot..   But should it have as much control over us or our emotions as it does?   Why are some church cultures so toxic and what can we do about it to make change and also show up powerfully?   Sammi and Spencer talk about the church hurt that they've processed through and some of the observations they've made about the christian church and what they believe could...

We've seen people often fall into two extremes of thought... Either "focus on what you want, relentlessly, and confidently expect it until you step into it...be obsessive and go after your dreams." Or... "Just be content...desire for nothing- in fact kill you desires and just be okay with no pleasure or desires fulfilled and definitely don't dream..." Is balance between the two what's healthy?   O...

Spencer and Sammi Interview Kait Warman, author of Thank You For Rejecting Me and Host of Heart of Dating Podcast.   Kait has been a dating coach, author, and speaker to christian singles for years now and has hosted several Heart of Dating Conferences for thousands of singles.   In this episode, we have a dialogue about what a healthy dating process actually looks like and Kait gets vulnerable ab...

Triggers can either destroy relationships or be the doorway to your personal freedom.   Triggers reveal past pain and past wounds and if left unresolved can control your relationships...especially your closest ones.   Sammi and Spencer discuss their own triggers as well as the most common triggers in relationships and what to do when you experience yours.   To download our triggers course for only...

On this podcast episode, Spencer interviews San Francisco Giants Pro Pitcher Tyler Beede on what it means to be an emotionally healthy man on a journey. It is rare these days for men to choose into confronting pain and hard emotions... The world tells us to suck it up and just get over it while women are begging men to have a heart and connect. Men's emotions run deep and there is a fight for our...

Sammi and Spencer talk about the pain of community, the difficulty of trusting people, and the struggle of building friendships with people. It's not easy to put yourself out there with new people.   It's particularly scary to get close and intimate with people. To let them see you- see the real you. And even scarier to feel misunderstood, betrayed, unseen, unloved, abandoned, or rejected. And It...

For a lot of people, it's easy to abandon their heart, their voice, their needs, and their desires in relationships. It can be scary to own your needs and desires. Many of us have been trained growing up in family to not trust ourselves or to believe that our hearts don't matter. This can destroy connection and intimacy in relationships. If you have ever had a tendency to lose yourself in relation...

We have so many clients that have had painful dating scenarios... A guy ghosts them on a date or after texting for awhile... They find out a guy is nothing like how they thought... Spencer has been verbally shamed for the way he has dated... Sammi has been secretly dated behind her back and we've heard so many other painful experiences from other women. In dating, we have all different belief syst...

Do you find yourself endlessly scrolling on instagram or tick-toc, or facebook?  Do you ever feel like you're having out of body experiences?  Do you feel like it's hard to stay present and feel pain or process disappointment and connect to the people right in front of you? If so, you're not alone. In this episode, Sammi and Spencer break down dissociation in relationships and when it becomes dama...

How many of us experience fear in relationships?   Or fear in general…   Fear makes us do all kinds of crazy things…   Especially if we are scared we won't have our needs met.   So what do we do?   We control.   I think if most of us admitted, we would say we all have dealt with control in one way, shape, or form.   And not all control is bad, but in relationships, control destroys our connection....

Whether we've "backslidden", we've felt disconnected from God, we've felt angry at Him, or we think He withholds good things from us, we all have opportunities to draw conclusions about who God is. What causes this? Is it our past pain? Our theology? Church leaders? Our parents? Or is that just how God really is? In this Episode, Spencer and Sammi explore why we have different beliefs and perspect...