The Aligned Living Podcast - Conversations on living from congruence: body, heart, mind & soul.

In this episode of The Aligned Living Podcast, I explore the skill of receiving feedback, and why it can feel so difficult, overwhelming, confronting, or deeply triggering for so many people. Receiving feedback is not just an emotional skill. It’s a nervous system skill, a self-reflection skill, and a relationship skill. And if we want healthy, honest, lasting relationships, it’s important that we...

Iesha opens with a quote from Tiny Buddha: "There comes a time when you stop trying to make things right with people who won't own their part in what went wrong." And from there, asks: where is the line between taking responsibility for your own behaviour and taking on the other person's part too? Learning that clear delineation of what's mine and what's theirs is a skill. And there's a further sk...

In this episode, Iesha explores why saying “sorry” doesn’t always lead to relationship repair, and what’s actually required for trust to be rebuilt. She begins by naming that the word “sorry” is used in different ways, from simple human acknowledgment of someone’s pain, to situations where we recognise we’ve caused impact but have no intention of change, through to apologies that carry genuine res...

  Episode Summary In this episode, Iesha introduces a core foundation for aligned relationships and communication: understanding and being understood. She explores how this sits at the heart of truly relating to one another, and how one of the key ways this breaks down is through what she calls “filling in the gaps.” Before moving into a future episode on effective apology, she explores how misund...

We have signals of congruence when body, heart, mind and soul are all saying yes. And we have signals of incongruence. In this episode Iesha explores what we can do with those signals of incongruence besides normalise them or push through them, and that's avoid them. Avoidance is a bigger and more complex landscape than most people realise. Some of our avoidance strategies are things we'd never la...

There’s a common personal development narrative that says discomfort equals growth, and that everything you want sits on the other side of your comfort zone. In this episode, Iesha slows that idea down and looks underneath it, bringing the conversation back to alignment and feelings as feedback. Using examples (and a few sharp questions), Iesha explores how resistance can sometimes be your body’s...

Closure is one of those experiences we all long for - that moment when something painful finally moves from front and centre into the rear view mirror, settling into the rich, multicoloured tapestry of our lives rather than hijacking us daily. In this episode, Iesha opens a honest and tender conversation about what closure actually is, what gets in the way of it, and where we really need to look f...

In this episode of the Aligned Living Podcast, Iesha deepens into a crucial part of her coaching framework: Wholistic ecology. This is about recognising that all parts of our lives interact with each other, and they can drain or uplift the whole. Sometimes the journey to living congruently calls for small tweaks, and sometimes it calls for significant renovations and creations, but either way, who...

In this conversation, Iesha explores: ✨ Why she uses the word “birth” for grief and how grief, like birth, is a natural process with a beginning, middle, and an end (even if the end isn’t neat or tickable) ✨ What supports grief, and what shuts it down how surrender supports the process, and how fear, resistance, trying to hurry it up, and trying to control it can interrupt it ✨ Grief as both em...

In this episode of the Aligned Living Podcast, Iesha continues the theme of aligned relationships and introduces a practical communication skill she teaches often in her coaching work: “Two conversations.” This episode focuses on a common pattern in relationships where someone raises an issue, but the conversation gets derailed into something else - tone, timing, defensiveness, a list of other gri...

In this episode of the Aligned Living Podcast, I’m talking about other people’s advice and opinions - the kind you hear from books, friends and family, mentors, strangers, and the internet. I’m sharing a simple pattern of self-reflection you can run yourself through, so you can explore external input through your own unique foundations before you apply it to your life. I walk through why what work...

Your life force energy is precious. It’s what animates your body. It fuels your immunity, your health and vitality, your focus, and the actions you take each day. It can also be depleted. In this episode, I’m inviting you to make conscious choices about what you work on, because some situations will not shift to fit your yearnings, no matter how much hard work you put in. You can water a plastic p...

We’re often told that if something isn’t working, we just need to try harder… want it badly enough… or push ourselves a little more. In this episode of the Aligned Living Podcast, Iesha offers a different lens on success, one steeped in congruence, sustainability, and whole-life alignment. Drawing on over two decades of experience as a Wholistic Life Coach, Iesha explores why effort alone doesn’t...

Integrity is usually talked about in terms of honesty, ethics, and how we treat others. But what if integrity also includes how consistently we honour our own alignment with ourselves? In this episode of the Aligned Living Podcast, Iesha invites you into a deeper, more embodied exploration of integrity - not as a moral standard to uphold, but as the structural integrity of your inner life. Drawing...

When you’re setting new intentions, imagining a different future, or feeling the pull toward change, how you approach that process matters just as much as what you want to create. In this episode, Iesha offers a wholistic life coaching perspective on turning intentions into aligned action - without burnout, self-pressure, or building on foundations that won’t hold. Rather than goal-setting in isol...

In this episode of The Aligned Living Podcast, Iesha explores why real, lasting change can only begin when we’re willing to fully acknowledge our current reality. So often, when we want something to be different, we stay mentally focused on the past or the future, replaying what shouldn’t have happened, imagining how things will improve one day, or waiting for time to “sort it out.” But while our...

There’s a popular belief that if you wait long enough, things will sort themselves out. “Time will take care of it.” “It’ll all work out how it’s meant to.” “What’s meant for me won’t pass me by.” While these ideas can sound comforting, they’re not how co-creating with life actually works. In this episode, I speak to the difference between waiting and aligning, and why staying committed to an inco...

The Wisdom of Your Feelings: A Practical Approach to Alignment In a culture that encourages us to push through, stay positive, manage stress, and override discomfort, our feelings can easily come to be seen as inconvenient, weak, or something to get rid of. In this episode, Iesha invites you into a very different relationship with your emotional life, one that honours feelings as meaningful, intel...

In the world of personal growth, “alignment” is a word that gets thrown around a lot, but not always in the same way. In this episode, Iesha offers a clear, grounded exploration of what alignment actually means from her perspective, and why it matters so deeply for a life that feels honest, peaceful and congruent. Rather than treating alignment as a mindset, a goal, or a set of perfectly-managed c...

In this episode, we explore one of the most grounding tools in conscious parenting: a Parenting Charter - a living guide that helps you raise your child with clarity, intention, and alignment. You’ll learn: ✨ How to parent with the end in mind Clarifying the skills, capacities, and qualities you want your child to grow into, and why this makes everyday parenting decisions so much easier. ✨ How a...

The Aligned Living Podcast with Iesha Delune In this first instalment of the Aligned Relationships episodes, Iesha explores two phrases many people use without realising the impact they can have: “No one is perfect.” & “Relationships are about compromise.” While both statements are true, they’re often used to justify staying in relationship dynamics that slowly erode alignment, honesty, vitali...

What really happens when someone doesn’t like you - or you feel that they don’t? In this episode of The Living Aligned Podcast, Iesha Delune unpacks the discomfort of disapproval and explores how to stay true to yourself when you’re met with judgment, misunderstanding or difference. Through two powerful client stories, she illustrates how self-awareness, emotional resilience, and clear communicati...

What if true confidence isn’t something you “get,” but something you grow - from congruence, awareness, and practice? In this episode of The Living Aligned Podcast, Iesha Delune unpacks the myths around confidence and offers a deeply practical, self-honouring reframe of how it really develops. So many people see confidence as a fixed trait, something you either have or you don’t, but as Iesha expl...

Can looking backwards be nourishing? In this episode of The Living Aligned Podcast, Iesha Delune reframes what it means to look back, transforming it from a practice of self-criticism into one of nourishment, learning, and emotional maturity. Many of us have been taught that “there’s no point looking back”, that the past can’t be changed, or that reflection will only pull us into negativity. But w...

What’s really going on inside you when life feels flat, reactive, or “off”? In this episode of The Living Aligned Podcast, Iesha Delune invites you to explore your inner landscape through three foundational ideas that reveal how alignment, or misalignment, shapes your day-to-day experience. ✨ 1. Two Types of Happiness Most of us have been taught to chase happiness through external fixes: the exer...