The Advisor with Stacey Chillemi

You know the moment. The one where something shifts and you are no longer responding — you are reacting. The snap. The shutdown. The people pleasing that happens before you even decide to do it. That is not a character flaw. That is your stress response running faster than your conscious mind — and until you understand exactly what is happening in that moment you cannot interrupt it. Scott Abbott...

You know you need the boundary. You have read the books, heard the advice, practiced the scripts. And the moment you try to actually set one your heart races, the guilt floods in, and you end up apologizing for having a need in the first place. That is not a boundary problem. That is a shame problem. Karen C.L. Anderson has spent her career working at exactly that root — the shame that drives peop...

You are exhausted by 8pm and wide awake by midnight. Your brain is racing, your body is restless, and the supplements that were supposed to help are sitting on your counter doing nothing. That wired but tired state is not a sleep problem. It is a systems problem — gut inflammation triggering anxiety, cortisol spiking at the wrong time, hormonal shifts flipping your sleep architecture overnight, an...

You are doing everything right. Eating well. Exercising. Sleeping as much as life allows. And your drive, your energy, and your performance are still nowhere near where they used to be. The explanation most men get is age. Willie Handler says look somewhere else entirely. Chronic stress and unresolved trauma keep the body locked in fight-or-flight — and a nervous system running in survival mode su...

You cleaned up your diet. Added the probiotics. Removed the inflammatory foods. And the anxiety, brain fog, and fatigue are still there. The missing piece may not be in your gut or your brain separately — it may be in the communication breakdown between them. Brooke McKeever founded Ultra Red Light Therapy around photobiomodulation — a non-invasive approach that works at the cellular level to redu...

Most people would have stopped. Chronic illness taking your energy. ADHD making focus feel impossible. Vision loss changing the way you see the world — literally. Michael Leung did not stop. He built. Not because he had some secret to toxic positivity or a formula for resilience — but because he found something worth building that was bigger than everything being taken from him. What he shares abo...

You have tried the journaling prompts. The personality assessments. The vision boards. And purpose still feels like something other people have figured out that keeps slipping through your fingers. What if the answer is not in your head at all — it is in your body. Inna Segal is an intuitive healer and bestselling author who works with the signals your nervous system is already sending — the physi...

You have been taking the supplements everyone recommends. The ones with the best reviews, the highest ratings, the doctor endorsements. And you still do not feel better — or worse, you feel worse than before you started. That is not bad luck. It is biology. Your genetics and epigenetics determine how your body absorbs, processes, and responds to supplements in ways that make one person thrive on a...

You are not anxious. You are caffeinated. The wired feeling, the heart palpitations, the afternoon crash, the sleep that does not fully restore — there is a good chance caffeine is driving more of that than you realize. Steve Frazier breaks down exactly what caffeine is doing inside your nervous system — how it blocks your brain's natural sleep pressure signal, spikes cortisol and adrenaline in wa...

Dr. Robert Beltran had the credentials, the training, and the expertise — and still found himself in chronic pain, depression, and addiction that conventional medicine was not able to fully address. What he discovered on the other side of that experience changed how he practices and how he thinks about healing entirely. As a triple board-certified surgeon who has lived both sides of the medical sy...

You fix the problem before they feel it. You make the call they should be making themselves. You lie awake worrying about a situation they have already forgotten. And somewhere in all of that protecting and rescuing you have been quietly teaching your teen that you do not believe they can handle their own life. Randi Crawford has spent her career working with the parents who love their kids the mo...

The numbers came back normal. Your doctor said everything looks fine. And you are still exhausted, foggy, bloated, and running on empty in a way that does not match what the labs say. Normal is not the same as optimized — and for hormone health specifically that gap can be enormous. Carolyn Zaumeyer specializes in exactly that space — the women whose symptoms are real and whose standard panels kee...

You are already behind before the day begins. Checking your phone, reacting to whatever lands first, moving through the morning on autopilot while your nervous system quietly ramps up for another day of stress. That scattered reactive start does not stay in the morning — it follows you into every conversation, every decision, and every moment where you needed to show up clearly. Alicia Meek is an...

It sounds too simple to matter. A bucket under the sink. A pile in the backyard. But the act of composting — of turning waste into something useful rather than throwing it away — has a measurable effect on the feeling of chaos and overwhelm that a cluttered, wasteful home quietly creates. Jesseca Banchy blends sustainability with wellness in a way most eco-conversations never reach — the emotional...

You know what you want. And you cannot bring yourself to say it. The freezing up, the overthinking, the worry about being judged or making things awkward — that silence is costing you intimacy you deserve and connection you are craving. Cassidy Bybee has built a multimillion-dollar platform with over half a million followers by being the person who says the things most intimacy conversations are t...

You have been telling yourself there will be a better time. When things settle. When the kids are older. When you have more clarity. And somewhere underneath all of that waiting is a quieter fear — that the window has already closed and reinvention is for younger people with fewer responsibilities and less to lose. Paul Shearman has stood on stages alone in China, the United States, and the United...

The chest tightness. The racing thoughts. The irritability that comes out of nowhere. It feels urgent and immediate — but most of it is not actually happening right now. Stress is almost always a product of memory, anticipation, or imagination running on autopilot while the present moment sits quietly underneath all of it. Saw K Myint draws from Buddhist psychology and her own journey through chil...

You wake up flat. The drive that used to get you moving is gone. Your mood shifts without warning and your energy crashes at the same time every day — and the explanation you keep getting is stress or age or just life. But for millions of people those three symptoms have the same underlying driver: hormones quietly running out of balance in ways that standard labs never flag and most doctors never...

The reason most people never start healing is not that they do not want to. It is that they believe healing means going back through every painful detail — reliving what happened until they can somehow make peace with it. Lawyer Johnson is living proof that is not true. Sexually abused as a child, he carried that wound through incarceration and years of silence before finding a path that did not r...

You snap at the wrong moment. You spiral into overthinking at 2am. You push through on fumes until your body finally forces you to stop. That is not a character flaw — that is a nervous system that was never given a reliable way back to steady. Michelle Dosanjh Johal built the FAST Framework specifically for the moments when overwhelm takes over — a four-step method that helps you feel rather than...

You know the thought is irrational. You have talked yourself through it a hundred times. And the anxiety comes back anyway — because talking to the conscious mind does not reach the subconscious belief that is actually running the fear. Mike Wood calls it the guard dog — the part of you that learned somewhere in your past that this situation was dangerous, and has been protecting you from it ever...

You are exhausted. You are also anxious. And somewhere underneath both of those you have gone a little numb — just going through the motions without feeling much of anything. That combination does not mean you are broken. It means your nervous system has been running an emergency program for so long it has started conserving every resource it has left. Amalya Tagakchyan is a licensed therapist and...

You are not anxious because something is wrong with you. You are anxious because your nervous system learned somewhere along the way that the world was not safe — and it has been running that protection program on high ever since. That is not a flaw. That is a nervous system doing exactly what it was designed to do, in a situation that no longer requires it. Willie Handler works specifically with...

You are not an addict. You do not have a problem — at least not the kind anyone has officially named. You just reach for the glass, the scroll, the work, the food a little more often than feels good. And somewhere in all of that reaching the parts of life that actually matter have gotten a little quieter. Cecily Mak calls it dimming — and she built an entirely different framework for addressing it...

You can see it. The line that appeared during that difficult season. The breakout that always arrives with a certain kind of stress. The dullness that comes when you have not been sleeping or when something is quietly off inside. Your face has been keeping a record — and Chinese face reading offers a framework for understanding what it is saying. Cindy Tusa is a nurse, licensed esthetician, and fo...