The Adult Chair Podcast with Michelle Chalfant

Am I in a toxic relationship? I unfortunately get asked this question all too often. I find that what feels "normal" is actually toxic but due to low self esteem or loss of self, we find ourselves living in not so healthy or even unhealthy, toxic relationships.  In today's show I go over 6 signs of toxic relationships. I explain what to look for in toxic relationships and how to know if you are in...

  What would you think if I told you that joy could be part of codependency? Well it can! Codependency and I have been friends for too many years to count (most of my life). However, in my discovery of this, I have found joy in learning who I am as an Adult and taking my childhood back. I might even say that I find it now as a gift as I now get to discover who I am and it's an exciting journey to...

I'm back from my summer break! Welcome to the first show of our new podcast year. I am so excited about our guest today.    I have spoken for months about Myofascial Release Technique and am finally having our in house expert on the show! Diana Schneider, Advanced Myofacial Release Therapist is on today talking all about what the technique is and how it can help you.    This technique has been a b...

This is the last show replay for the summer. It's a wonderful show where I work with a client on breaking her negative patterns. There is a lot to be learned from this show. The only way you're going to heal is to own your life. That's the overriding message of the show today and it comes thanks to the story of a fabulous client we'll call "Carolyn." She's graciously offered her story for this wee...

Yuck...Shame! Who wants to look at or feel their shame? I realize that so many of us avoid our shame because we don't know what to do with it! What if I told you, I could give you tools to help heal and transform your shame?  Well today is your lucky day as I am giving you steps to work with, get to know and transform your shame. I also recorded a guided meditation to go with this podcast in order...

We are made up of many parts that create our whole. We can't help but have parts like the doubter, blamer, the "I am a fraud" part etc. We all have parts that we don't like (or even hate) but we don't know what to do with them....until today. Today, I share with you what we do with these parts that you don't like. I offer you a 7 step process on how you can transform these inner parts and find fre...

Today's show is a follow up to Healthy Relationships Part 1. This show has even more examples on how to create healthy relationships as well as how we can transform our current relationship, especially if the other person is being difficult.    I give you new tools and ideas for transformation of any relationship. Another show with lots of information and ideas that you can begin to implement toda...

Today I share with you how we create Healthy Relationships from The Adult Chair. Unfortunately, so many of us aren't taught how to have healthy relationships. In fact, most of us enter into relationships with a lot of baggage which can activate our triggers, and leave us feeling helpless and not sure what to do to help or improve our relationship. In today's show I offer tools and tips on how we c...

Feeling drained or fatigued? Maybe you pick up on other people's emotions and can feel what they are feeling? This "phenomena" is not random, these are qualities of an empath.    Many of us are walking around with anxiety, depression, aches and pains and are not aware that these too are common "issues" empaths can have. This was how I spent the first half of my life, until I learned about empaths...

Ouch! Did someone call you a control freak?! I get it...been there with that label. We think that we are getting so much done, life feels like it's in order and things are just, "better" because of how we see and operate in the world. It's just "who we are." I had to sit with that one when someone told me years ago that I was a control freak. I contemplated..."It isn't who I am?" "Who would I be w...

How do you feel about anger? What do you do with your anger? Do you shove it down and override it with being "nice" so you "don't rock the boat"?  Many of us grew up with unhealthy anger modeling. Maybe you had a narcissistic and angry parent in the home. Perhaps when you had anger in your home, you were told it was unacceptable or even bad.  Whatever the case may be, anger is a healthy and much n...

Today I had the pleasure of having a conversation with Suzy, someone that has had a life of enmeshment, codependency, abusive, attempted murder by her husband and more. She now lives with greater peace and balance than ever before and she says a large part of her transformation is due to The Adult Chair. Her story is as unbelievable as it is inspirational. Grab your Kleenex when listening to this...

After so many requests to talk about jealousy, here it is! A podcast that covers all things jealousy. What it is, what it isn't and 8 ideas to help you to find balance around jealousy. In today's show I cover how important it is to raise our awareness around jealousy, how to stay out of story and assumptions and change your state if you are stuck. I also share client examples of jealousy and how t...

When setting a boundary, often times the person we are talking to gets triggered and falls into a defense then everything goes south. What do we do when this happens? In today's show, I talk with you about how we can "dismantle others defenses" and "diffuse triggers from others." It's an empowering show with lots of tips on setting healthy boundaries and what to do when the other gets triggers by...

Abuse can be tricky, it can be subtle and ease into our lives. We can be living with it and might not even be aware of it. Abuse comes in many forms and not just the obvious physical abuse. Codependency, narcissism, control, trauma, enmeshment, addictions etc. can all play into this dance of abuse. On today's show, Christine Gutierrez and I have a vulnerable and open discussion about abuse. Christ...

When most of us here the word PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder), we think of someone that has come out of the military. While this can be very true for our military personnel, PTSD affects many others and they may not even know.    So many suffer from chronic anxiety, depression, insomnia and more and are unaware that the root issue could be PTSD. This is exactly what happened with me.    In t...

On today's show I have Natalia Juarez discussing how to have better breakups. Listen to this episode to learn the role attachment issues, love addiction and love avoidance play into our breakups. Learn when it is time to end a relationship AND MOVE ON. Discover how we are the point of our attraction and WHAT TO LOOK FOR within ourselves when we keep attracting "bad" relationships. So many great to...

I get asked this question all the time, "What do I work on next?" "I realize I have so many things to work on and don't know where to begin!"    In today's show I offer ideas on what to work on next, what direction to take while on your path of healing, and how to stay in the flow while doing it.    Whether it be codependency, anxiety, relationship problems, working with self-esteem or any healing...

So many of us live life from The Adolescent Chair. We rush and busy ourselves to the point of exhaustion. We stress ourselves out and wind up living with anxiety, depression and other ailments. We lack presence and feel like if we keep doing we will find our answers and that maybe when we get enough done, our problems will go away, our pain will be erased, and our stress will be gone. What if find...

Do you ever feel stuck in life? Like you can't catch a break with some people and you keep getting the short end of the stick? Have you ever thought that you are missing something and that you actually have limiting beliefs or filters that are causing you to keep attracting in bad jobs, unsuccessful relationships, unhealthy friendships, not enough money etc.? Limiting beliefs and filters can keep...

On today's show I spoke with Certified Eating Psychology Coach, Jessi Jean all about binge eating, emotional eating and more. Jessi shared with us her own journey and offered some tips on what you can do right now if you feel out of control with food. So many of us struggle with food and Jessi's teachings and masterclass have helped thousands around the globe with eating/food issues and food addic...

I am thrilled to have on the show today, relationship experts and the creators of Imago Relationship Theory and Therapy, Harville Hendrix, Ph. D and Helen Hunt Ph. D! We covered a range of topics from why we fall in love, to how childhood wounding affects our current relationships to what we do if our partner isn't interested in improving the relationship and so much more. It was a delight to have...

When we are triggered, we lose ourselves so quickly and fall into a defense. Oftentimes we regret our reaction later on. In today's show, Michelle gives some tips to help us stay in our Adult Chair when we are triggered and remain present with whatever is coming up.    Triggers can be such a gift when we understand that they are windows into our unconscious beliefs. It's a way to gain a deeper und...

It can be hard to live with self-love when we have loud inner negative parts. In today's show, Michelle discusses steps to transform these inner parts from the Adolescent Chair. Once these parts are transformed, we are able to live with greater self-love and compassion. https://theadultchair.com   https://Molekule.com   promo code: adult

We all have many inner voices but there is one in particular, that can be overly critical and hard on us, it's called the "inner critic." In today's show, I share with you what the inner critic is and how to transform that voice using some simple and easy to use tools. You will also receive some "homework" that will help build up your inner supportive voice to help you stay in your healthy adult e...