The ADHDads

Do your relatives misunderstand your neurodiverse kids and mistreat them? Do you ever feel like you need to protect your kids from your relatives? On today's episode, the Dads talk strategies, scenarios, and scripts to help you navigate the holidays with solid boundaries with family and neurodiversity. Some things to consider saying in your script: We all are excited to have a good time togeth...

Distancing language is any type of language that creates a sense of emotional or interpersonal distance between the speaker and the topic being discussed. It can be used intentionally or unintentionally, but it can often have negative consequences, such as making the speaker seem less empathetic or trustworthy. Here are some examples of distancing language: Using the passive voice: Instead of sayi...

This week the Dads discuss victim mindset, AKA victim mentality. A trap that’s often easy to fall into, the victim mindset often could be translated as inaction. When one chooses to point the finger of blame at any external source, the loss of power and choice is, in truth, an illusion, because it’s still a choice. It’s still a commitment to something. The Dads take a dive into the world of empowe...

On today’s episode of The ADHDads, we loosely discuss the topic of giving grace. The Dads both recently experienced some adversity, and we’re well aware that it is very easy to either lose our cool, or freeze up, when confronted with discomfort or pushback. But what does it look like to follow up our own failures with love? It starts with grace. Understanding Grace Definition: Grace is the act of...

Today on another episode of The Dad Den series, we welcome good friend and single father Anthony Mendoza. Mendoza has been a co-parent for his son’s entire life, and he wears the badge of father with great pride. He is a coach and social media influencer, and he strives every day to be a better person. He lives with the mindset that doing our best is not just a desire, but a calling. Mendoza’s fai...

Today the Dads welcome Keriann Long, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Coach, to discuss dating and relationships. What does compatibility mean in dating, and how does being a father change how one seeks a compatible partner? We discuss the importance of expressing your wants and needs in dating, the timing of expressing them, and what those needs and wants could look like. Communicating...

Today the Dads welcome Richard Ziegler to discuss the call to fatherhood, and sometimes the demands of life making that call sooner than we anticipated. Richard openly and honestly shares his story of redemption, which started when he was only a teenager. At the age of 16, he took his first kids under his wing through adoption. How, might you ask, is this kind of story even possible! Join us as we...

Today the Dads talk about failing with finesse . Failing with finesse is the art of failing gracefully and professionally. It means accepting responsibility for your mistakes, learning from them, and moving on. It also means being mindful of how your failure affects others and taking steps to minimize the impact. Here are some tips on how to fail with finesse: Own your mistake.  Don't make exc...

On today’s episode of The ADHDads, we have the honor of spending time with an everyday expert: our friend and fellow father, Alex Lee. We’ve all heard the saying, “It takes a village.” What does that mean in today’s digital age of distant connections? The Dads talk about how coming together in a mastermind community is part of creating that village, where we can learn from each other, challenge ea...

September is Healthy Aging Month , and the Dads share in today’s episode their whys in their journey to aging healthy. From early childhood thoughts and beliefs about physical appearance and external influence, to showing up for their families today in the healthiest ways, it’s a deep talk on why physical and emotional fitness means so much to us. The ADHDads have partnered with Coach Ray from Epi...

Shell Mendelson is an ADHD career coach who has trained with Richard Bolles, author of What Color is Your Parachute? She helps adults with ADHD navigate career decisions and transitions. She has an invaluable resource coming out in the form of a workbook titled A Course for ADHD Adults and Teens: Unlock Your Career Path . Mendelson has been on numerous podcasts and helps individuals unlock their p...

This week the guys talk about “asking for help.” Why do we have such a hard time as men asking for help? Are you a Han Solo kind of guy or more of a Yoda? Do you tend to lone wolf it like Boba Fett? What kind of support and army do you have behind you when it comes time to do battle with yourself? Are they people who build you up, or tear you down? Listen to CJ’s story of sobriety, mistakes, and l...

What’s the myth that you’ve told yourself about how you came to be? What’s your grand story? Join us as we take a deep dive into the stories we tell ourselves, and what that narrative does about our outlook and our own introspection, as well as the survival of our relationships, and how we can help those relationships thrive rather than be swallowed up in despair. You receive a text from your spou...

This week the guys talk about the importance of connecting with our partners, even in times of trial and chaos. Connection and intimacy doesn't have to stop because life gets crazy. Tune in to see what kind of tools and techniques the dads use in times of hardship. We want to have strong connections built for when things fall apart, and that doesn’t mean trying to figure it out when it all hit...

We have an incredibly inspiring guest on the show today: Grace Casper. Grace became a child of divorce at age eight. By age 10, she had already written her first manuscript draft for her book. Ever since, she’s had a mission to help families through the process of divorce. She is now 24 years old and runs Divorce Tips from Kids , which involves active social media engagement, sending out emails to...

Ayanna Davis is a phenomenal woman, artist and illustrator, author, fashion designer, and autism advocate. She spent most of her life unaware that she was on the Autism spectrum. As you will hear, the evaluation process for Ayanna was quite thorough, and it provided her with the opportunity to understand herself and her natural gifts more. She has devoted her efforts to understanding autism and ut...

This week CJ brings an exercise to talk to our spouses. Too often we go into heated discussions without establishing healthy boundaries. We talk about how to establish rules for fighting within a relationship. How to have healthy discussions and practice empathy while communicating. The difference between healthy and unhealthy consequences in a relationship and the difference between rules and bou...

Rules versus boundaries: what’s the difference between the two? Do we have an understanding of rules and boundaries in relationships, and are we applying them correctly and safely? Today, the dads discuss recent news about weaponizing therapy terms like boundaries, and how stating a boundary can be used as a weapon of manipulation and/or control. It can be an abusive tactic, when using our insecur...

This week the Dads discuss emotional safety and what it means to them in their own families. Dynamics can often be different but tune in this week to see how love, validation, and curiosity are often the most powerful way to connect with and create emotional safety for our loved ones. We want our kids to turn to us in times of hardship, but they need trust with us in order to share a safe emotiona...

John Kovaleski is the creator of the comic strip “Daddy Daze”. It details John’s experience as a new and divorced father. It started in 2018 and although John’s son has grown out of infant phase, his comic strip still details the struggles, rewards, lessons, and hurdles that come along with parenting. He’s had write-ups about in him USA Today, Huffington Post and we brought John on today to see wh...

Summertime is here! This can be a challenging time for parents, or one where epic memories are created. Tune in to see how the dads manage their Summer Schedules. Learn from the mistakes, and get inspired by some of the tools we use for our neurodiverse kiddos! If you plan on making it out alive, we suggest you develop a plan of intention! Winging it will only carry you so far, so make sure you ha...

This week the Dads talk about big life transitions. How do we show up for our loved ones when life throws us big curveballs? Moving or changing schools can be a big undertaking, for not only our little ones, but for us parents. As both Dads have recent experience with this, they are dedicated to talk it out and share some powerful moments that help them navigate these moments with the kids. You wo...

Jeremy Roadruck is the founder of the podcast “ Success Beyond The BS .” He is a life coach who is helping men overcome life’s hardships. He helps them define their goals and intentions, and helps couples rebuild trust, love, and communication. He’s been featured on many media outlets and is also a speaker, teacher, and author. Today he joins the Dads to discuss how martial arts has played a pivot...

Coach Ray King is an online fitness coach. He helps men get back to a healthy mindset with not only their fitness but also their mentality, and he helps polish and fine tune life skills to help create better men, fathers, and leaders. He is here today to share his story. The theme today is “My Mess Is My Message.” Tune in to hear one father’s story of redemption on how he took a crumbling marriage...

The Dads dive into how to handle crisis mode during unexpected emergencies or trauma. As CJ’s oldest battles Kawasaki in the hospital, he discusses what has been helpful for maintaining calm within the family unit during periods of uncertainty and high stress. Those curveballs in life come out of nowhere. How will you show up during the tough times? We would love to hear your input. Have you exper...