The ADHD Connection with Nicky Shipp & Carrie Overton

We're Nicky & Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together. In ep 25, we're discussing the seemingly irresistible need to APOLOGISE... • Afterwards – and even before! • The triple whammy! • Overthinking • Being 'too much’ • Saying the 'wrong thing' • Does context matter – or is it just an excuse? • Being 'the one with the map’ • Ruminating about how we’re perceived • Preambling... and the t...

Hiya – we're Nicky & Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together... Trawling the murky depths of FOMO – the Fear Of Missing Out... • Sensible decisions causing us emotional pain • Grown-up stuff triggering our inner child/ren • Needing our Tribe • Breaks in connection feeling like FOMO • Being unable to connect hurting like rejection / RSD • 'Rationally knowing’ not helping much! • Balanci...

Hiya – we're Nicky & Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together... Following on from our last episode, this time we investigate when and why we loathe being told what to do! • What is 'Autonomy Sensitivity'? • How saying "PLEASE" can have unexpected results…. • The impact of our 'boundaries' being crossed • 'Emotional landmines' • What might be lacking when we feel we're being told what t...

Hiya – we're Nicky & Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together... This time, we’re delving into the trials & triumphs of decision-making, from dithering & delaying to direct decisiveness! • The challenge of CHOICES: notably, arrays of make-up & extensive menus... • The range of emotions that even small decisions can trigger – including downright PANIC! • How being REALLY inte...

Hi – we're Nicky and Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together. This time, we’re exploring feeling stupid... •⁠ ⁠...even when there's NO reason you should know something •⁠ ⁠wanting to keep people happy, even if they’re unlikely to care either way! •⁠ ⁠how uncertainty affects us •⁠ ⁠"everyone else knows this!" • the power of our nervous inner child •⁠ under/valuing our knowledge & talent...

Hi – we're Nicky and Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together... In ep. 20, we dive into the issue of trying to keep all our sh*t together whilst still having enough bandwidth for our loved ones.... • The power of a pen! • Our 'capacity barrel' • Cheap post-it notes under the fridge • Being the 'brusher', 'telephone operator' or 'emotional breadwinner’ • Does the old lady actually want to c...

Hi – we're Nicky and Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together... This episode's a bit different from our usual style – a live coaching session, with Carrie's questions assisting Nicky in delving into her very-ADHD feelings of panic tied up with being (or the fear of being) LATE – something she proudly thought she'd pretty much sorted out! During the conversation, Nicky openly and vulnerably...

Hi – we're Nicky and Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together... So, picking up where we left off in ep.17... we briefly recap 'our Chimp', and how – with highly variable success – it tries hamfistedly to help us! Then we look at our suite of inner voices* (with a detour about motivation), and how we can perhaps spot the origin of our infamous ‘Inner Critic'. We touch on something called In...

Hi – we're Nicky and Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together... Since you last joined us, we've both been dealing with the anxiety of preparing for important events in our lives. So in this episode we dig into: wrestling with overwhelming logistics, unknown unknowns, fear of cataclysmic eventualities, hierarchies of need, trying too hard to think - and basically wanting to take EVERYTHING!...

Hi, we're Nicky and Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together – and, in this episode, we look at how our ADHD minds can 'cost' us... ...finding you have a LOT more (whatevers) than you thought . the Can't Be Arsed factor . the joys & drawbacks of Amazon . being REALLY great at losing things! . Comparing the (very, very boring) Market . unexpected fines . emotional distraction . postal pi...

Hi – we're Nicky and Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together... and, OK, we’ve had a bit of a gap! – to be followed by another one!! (…until, hopefully, March; for a couple of additional 'Life' reasons, there's been a bigger gap than we anticipated!) So, in this episode, we answer: "do we want to stop the podcast?", and explain the main reasons for the gap/s, notably involving weeks of sca...

Hi – we're Nicky and Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together... and, in this episode, we explore "shoulds" – along with what we PLAN versus what actually happens... including: • feeling we 'should' do something – and doing our best to avoid it! • having SO many things we want to do/so little time, or • at times, having no idea WHAT we want to do! • the Butterfly effect – aka: "Squirrel!" •...

Hi, we're Nicky & Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together... and, in this episode, we – not before time! – explore CONNECTION! As ever, the conversation is wiggly and wide ranging.... * a teeth-grindingly annoying digital disconnection! * the feeling of finding our Tribe * the effects of uncertainty and rejection * social anxiety/forming new connections * the joy of shared experience *...

Hi, we're Nicky & Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together – and, in this episode, we share and navigate some of our encounters with SHAME... • forgetting to press a button • clicking the WRONG button • reading out loud in class • expecting to have got something wrong • the need to be perfect • enjoying the journey and being human • two horse stories! • trying toooo hard • learning to r...

Hi, we're Nicky & Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together... and, in this episode, Carrie's husband Ben joins us to share the perspective from the other side of the ADHD fence! Amongst other things, the three of us discuss: * holidaying with an ADHD partner * how to navigate a square! * why google maps are on Carrie's Christmas Card list * talking things through out loud * over-enthusi...

Hi, we're Nicky & Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together – and, in this episode, we talk about sensitivity, including: * emotional sensitivity to perceived criticism * what we hear versus what was said * how we personally have become sensitive to certain topics * how even 1 comment can stay with us and have an impact * sensory sensitivity * touch - preferences or loathing of different...

Hi, we're Nicky & Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together... and, in this episode, we're digging into the mysterious way our memories seem to work – or not! * 80s' (or 70s'!) song lyrics and the power of music * There's just SO much to remember in life! * How often we lose our phones – and how we find them... * Books, films – and lost plots * Different ways of reading, incl. word by wo...

Hi, we're Nicky & Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together – and, in this episode, we talk about Procrastination… • chronic vs occasional procrastination • why DO we 'procrastinate'? • can we un-learn to procrastinate? • the effect of time/proximity • 'delaying to avoid' • the tipping point • Nicky finishing a song – just the 9 years in the writing! (If you want to watch the song, the Y...

Hi, we're Nicky & Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together – and, in this episode, we delve into the challenges of holidaying with ADHD... * 'how to holiday' or 'holiday rules' * holiday claustrophobia * balancing our needs with our partner's/family's needs * being able stop.... and then start again! * managing without our usual daily habits * holiday guilt - 'I ought to be doing x' * f...

Hi, we're Nicky & Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together – and, in this episode, we continue with the second part of Carrie's radio show, Wellbeing Weekly, and we discuss: •⁠ ⁠our podcast!! – how it came to be, how it's going, and a bit of our listeners' feedback •⁠ ⁠ADHD and 'Hunters and Farmers' •. ADHD challenges • an example of RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria) that arises for N...

Hi, we're Nicky & Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together – and, in a change to our usual show, this & the next episode feature us talking on Carrie’s radio show, Wellbeing Weekly, to give an overview of ADHD for her listeners. As ever, the discussion covers a lot of ground, including… • our own journeys with ADHD • early signs • how it has affected us differently • how, when and w...

Hi, we're Nicky & Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together – and, in this episode, we explore emotional overwhelm…. • the extremes of the ‘mood scale' • it’s often the little things that can trigger us • RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria) – overreaction and rumination • how we process challenging conversations – subtext, context and reality • the power of our self-talk • our ‘Chimp’ vs...

Hi, we're Nicky & Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together – and, in this episode, we discuss that feeling that our 'motor is running too fast'... why this is happening to us what it feels like/the importance of being aware of bodily sensations And strategies that can help, including the 'speedometer' concept the urgent/important matrix 'buffer zones' using a 'speed limiter' ...plus we...

Hi, we're Nicky & Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together – and, in this episode, we look at ADHD and 'Identity': The feeling of 'personality inconsistency' Masking A surprising 'a-ha' moment watching 'The Barbie Movie' What we think about small talk! How we've adjusted our personalities over the years Multi-tasking/multi-focus – is it really possible? How we use humour and its impact...

Hi, we're Nicky & Carrie, 2 ADHD coaches figuring it out together – and, in our first episode, we talk about what it means to us to be diagnosed with ADHD, how there are so many elements of ADHD that influence our lives, and ways of dealing with some of them... The AHDH Iceberg... Sometimes, we just need to STOP! Shame – and how our early life experiences can still affect the ways we act now N...