The Ace Couple

Never Been Kissed by Timothy Janovsky has one of the best metaphors for oriented (, demi) asexuality that we’ve ever read. As a New Adult novel, it takes the conversations of sexual orientation a little further than YA books we’ve read with a demisexual character- which we appreciate very much!

On Reddit there is no shortage of straight people who think that marriage is a trap, they hate their partners, and they cheat on each other for “self-care”. We have no choice but to ask... ARE the straights OK!?

Christofascists HATE asexuals, and this isn’t new. For years, they’ve been saying that platonic marriage goes against God and should be illegal. And ironically, because of Obergefell v. Hodges (the landmark Supreme Court case that legalized same-sex marriage)...it might be.

Conservative Christians think marriage should be “conjugal” NOT “consent-based”. Religious lobbyists say marriage was the first institution created by God before man created government and is, therefore, based in religion and procreative sex, not love and autonomy.

The religious organizations opposing platonic marriage believe that sex is the #1 most important component to marriage. In their own words, procreative sex is more important than personal bodily autonomy. This is compulsory sexuality, amatonormativity, and rape culture.

83 religious, right-wing organizations signed a letter to Mitch McConnell condemning the Respect for Marriage act and citing “platonic marriage” as a “startling expansion of what marriage means”. Today, we break down the letter. Next week, we examine these organizations closer.

We lost a friend due to acephobia and other microaggressions that started to arise and spiraled out of control during a D&D campaign.

Time for an anonymous Q&A! We asked for questions via the NGL app and you delivered! We do our best to answer them all, but a few of them are complicated enough that they could be an entire episode on their own!

The Spectator published an Anti-Ace, Anti-Trans article. We share what they said and why it’s important to learn what their strategy and talking points are. We need to know how to fight back, because they’re playing the long-game while we’re stuck in damage control.

We recently celebrated our 8 year anniversary which means we successfully staved off the alleged “seven-year itch”, but what is even is that? Is it real? Is it just an allosexual thing? Did the movies make it up? Let’s talk about it!

Parvati Holcomb is our favorite character in the The Outer Worlds. She is Asexual and as her captain/confidant, you can play as an AroAce. This is groundbreaking rep for Aces in video games (and we don’t just say that because her potential girlfriend works at “The Groundbreaker”)

We are by NO means anti-kink-at-pride, however, there are some staple lines in The Discourse that we see over and over that run counter to our experience. So, here’s our asexual perspective along with some added nuance to properly complicate the conversation. We know this is a hot-button issue and we really, truly come in peace. Please do not assume what our stance is without listening to the whol...

Euphoria is a lot. We can’t claim to be fans of the show, but season 2 questioned whether or not the main character, Rue, could be asexual. However, the way it was handled caused a lot of online harassment aimed at the Ace community.

Popular Animator and YouTuber Jaiden Animations announced that she is AroAce! Rarely do we get real-world representation from someone with this big of a platform, so we talk about her video, the internet’s reaction, and what this means to the community.

Happy Pride Month! We’re kicking it off with an extra special episode featuring the fantastic Tyger Songbird! We talk about Tyger’s experience growing up in the Bible Belt, Black Asexuality, the necessity of diverse representation, and SO much more!

May is EDS & HSD Awareness Month! We often speak about the intersection of asexuality and disability, but Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome happens to be one of Courtney’s many maladies and her experience actually runs counter to the “disabled people are desexualized” narrative.

May 23rd is our 8 year anniversary! Please join us on a trip down memory lane as, for the first time, we reread the “365 I love you’s” that Courtney wrote and gave to Royce on our 1st anniversary. Reminiscing both sweet and silly ensues.

Did Shawnee ban roommates? Are unmarried couples, QPRs, & queer family structures under attack? Shawnee is the first city we ever lived in together, so we give a local perspective on the matter, including a history of racial and economic discrimination present here.

Heartstopper is making waves in young, queer love. We aren’t quite the target demographic for this story, but there is still much to applaud and potential for AroAce rep in future seasons. The writer, Alice Oseman is AroAce which is enough for us to lend our support.

Today we’re comin’ atcha with 5 stories from r/AmITheAsshole that all somehow revolve around the topic of asexuality. We have Ace people, Straight people, people, and “Allies” who have submitted themselves for our judgment via reddit.

What the heck is Radical Monogamy? Is it a thing? SHOULD it be a thing? Citing a variety of articles, we discuss our personal thoughts, the polyamory discourse surrounding ace-allo relationships, and we reimagine polyamory as D&D spell slots. (Plus that one time Courtney was almost on Viceland)

A decade ago, Courtney, along with over 8 million other Americans tuned in to watch an episode of House entitled “Better Half”. In the closet and considering how to come out, she was delighted to see an asexual couple make an appearance...until it all went wrong.

Happy International Asexuality Day! In honor of IAD, we’re launching a new community project: A-specs Committed to Anti-Racism. Here’s why this project is important and how to participate. Plus, tune in for a book giveaway!

Everything’s Gonna Be Okay came on our radar in the same way Sex Education did: A singular scene that the Ace community kept sharing. Unlike Sex Education, however, this show became a fast favorite of ours for it’s nuanced take on both asexual and autistic representation.

Let us introduce you to The Ace Couple Pets! Our family consists of a grumpy old-man dog, a somehow even grumpier opossum, two large snakes, and an entire mouse circus.