The 1Life Podcast with Behka White

In Episode 69 of the 1life podcast, Behka White, inspired by her mother's saying, explores the idea that life is meant to be fun and offers suggestions on how to incorporate more fun into our daily lives.   She emphasizes that fun is a choice and can be created in even the most mundane activities. Behka suggests scheduling playtime, trying new things, incorporating playfulness into everyday tasks,...

In Episode 68 of the 1life podcast, Behka White discusses the importance of self-advocacy. She shares a story about a girl who went to a nail salon and didn't get the nails she wanted because she didn't know how to advocate for herself. Behka emphasizes that self-advocacy is a skill that can be learned and provides tips on how to cultivate it: Know yourself: Understand your wants and desires. Lear...

In Episode 67 of the 1life podcast, Behka White discusses the concept of an abundance mindset. She shares an anecdote about a basketball club director who reassured parents that there were enough opportunities for all players to succeed, emphasizing the abundance of possibilities rather than scarcity. Behka explains that an abundance mindset involves believing there is enough for everyone and focu...

In Episode 66 of the 1life podcast, Behka White explores the topic of anger as a response to loss and tragedy. Drawing from her experience leading bereavement groups for teenagers, she observes that anger is a common reaction to grief, often directed at loved ones or even God. Behka shares her personal struggle with anger towards God following the death of her son, expressing how she felt betrayed...

In Episode 65 of the 1life podcast, Behka White discusses the importance of family history and traditions. She references research by Emory University psychologists Marshall Duke and Robyn Fivush, which found that children who knew more about their family history had a stronger sense of control over their lives, higher self-esteem, and a more positive perception of their family's functioning. Behk...

In Episode 64 of the 1life podcast, Behka White discusses the power of words, drawing inspiration from Don Miguel Ruiz's "The Four Agreements." She emphasizes the first agreement, "Be impeccable with your word," highlighting how words can create or destroy. Behka shares a story from the book about a mother who, in a moment of frustration, tells her daughter she has an ugly voice, leading the child...

In Episode 63 of the 1life podcast, Behka White discusses the final human endowment: self-awareness. She defines self-awareness as the ability to step back and observe our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, acting as a mirror to our inner world. Behka emphasizes the importance of self-awareness in making conscious choices and shaping our lives intentionally. She shares a personal anecdote about a...

In Episode 62 of the 1life podcast, Behka White discusses the role of conscience in happiness. She references a quote by Leo Tolstoy, suggesting that we either strive to live in harmony with our conscience or hide from its indications. Behka acknowledges that past mistakes can weigh on our conscience and lead to unhappiness. To find peace and happiness, she suggests a three-step process inspired b...

In Episode 61 of the 1life podcast, Behka White discusses the concept of independent will and its relation to happiness. She references Viktor Frankl's quote about the space between stimulus and response, emphasizing our power to choose our reactions. Behka highlights addiction as a factor that limits independent will and, consequently, happiness. She encourages listeners to examine their own "ind...

In Episode 60 of the 1life podcast, Behka White discusses the idea that happiness is found in creation. She references a quote from Antoine de Saint-Exupery: "True happiness comes from the joy of deeds well done, the zest of creating things new." Behka emphasizes that creation is a fundamental aspect of our spiritual DNA and encourages listeners to find joy in the process of creating, whether it's...

In Episode 59 of the 1life podcast, Behka White discusses the concept of happiness, drawing inspiration from the movie Pollyanna. She emphasizes that happiness is not a destination but a state of being, and shares her personal journey of learning to be happy. Behka introduces three core aspects of her identity that anchor her in happiness: being a child of God, a child of the covenant, and a disci...

In Episode 58 of the 1life podcast, Behka White shares a personal story about coaching her daughter in basketball. Her daughter was struggling with a new shooting routine, and Behka, feeling impatient and frustrated, showed her daughter how to correct the issue instead of allowing her to figure it out herself. Behka reflects on this experience, emphasizing the importance of allowing others to lear...

In Episode 57 of the 1life podcast, Behka White discusses how to process negative experiences in a healthy way. She shares a personal story about a traumatic bunny birthing experience her family had, emphasizing the importance of learning from such events rather than being bound by them. Behka then introduces three-step process for processing negative experiences. Behka applies this tool to the bu...

In Episode 56 of the 1life podcast, Behka White discusses the concept of embracing imperfection, drawing inspiration from Brené Brown's quote, "It is in the process of embracing our imperfections that we find our truest gifts." She shares a personal story about creating a quilt from her late son Jacob's baby clothes, highlighting the imperfections in the quilt and how the process of creating it be...

In episode 55 of the 1life podcast, Behka White talks about heroes. She shares a story about her uncle Darrell, who struggled with addiction but found recovery through a 12-step program. He dedicated his life to helping others overcome addiction and inspired many people, including Behka. Behka emphasizes the importance of recognizing the heroes in our lives and learning from their examples.

In Episode 54 of the 1life podcast, titled "Chicken or Goose?", host Behka White explores the contrasting behaviors of chickens and geese as a metaphor for human social interactions. Chickens, she explains, follow a pecking order, with dominant individuals pecking on subordinates, sometimes to the point of death. They also avoid flying, despite being capable of it. Geese, on the other hand, demons...

In Episode 53 of the 1life podcast, host Behka White introduces the concept of "reframing" as a Monday mindset. She shares a personal anecdote about a friend who reframed a stressful driving situation with humor, highlighting the power of perspective. Behka then outlines a three-step process for reframing negative thoughts: Catch it: Identify the negative thought. Check it: Challenge the thought's...

In Episode 52 of the 1life podcast, host Behka White discusses the power of affirmations. She references Exodus chapter 3, where God calls himself "I AM," emphasizing the significance of this phrase. Behka highlights how negative self-talk can be harmful and suggests using "I AM" followed by positive attributes to promote self-worth. She cites research indicating that affirmations can decrease str...

In Episode 51 of the 1life podcast, host Behka White discusses crucial conversations for beginners, drawing from an experience with her daughters. She emphasizes the importance of healthy conflict resolution and provides five steps for navigating crucial conversations: Behka reflects on how her daughters successfully navigated a conflict using these principles and encourages listeners to model hea...

In Episode 50 of the 1life podcast, host Behka White discusses the concept of a "reset button" for life, particularly when facing stressful situations. She introduces the idea that self-care can act as a reset button, helping individuals stay balanced and resilient in the face of challenges. Behka shares a list of healthy coping mechanisms emphasizing the importance of self-care practices such as...

In Episode 49 of the 1life podcast, host Behka White discusses Gary Chapman's book "The 5 Love Languages" and how understanding these love languages can help people communicate their affection more effectively. The five love languages are words of affirmation, acts of service, physical touch, quality time, and gift-giving. Behka shares personal examples of how she and her husband express and recei...

In Episode 48 of the 1life podcast, host Behka White discusses the concept of quality of life. She shares a personal story about her son Jacob, who was born with a rare genetic disease and lived for nine months. Despite his physical limitations, Jacob brought immense love and joy to his family. Behka reflects on how Jacob's life taught her that quality of life is not about physical ability but abo...

In Episode 47 of the 1life podcast, host Behka White discusses the power of gratitude. She emphasizes that gratitude is a way of being that is independent of our circumstances. Behka shares a personal anecdote about two elderly women she knew, one who lived in gratitude and contentment despite her hardships, and another who lived in bitterness. This experience taught Behka the importance of choosi...

In Episode 46 of the 1life podcast, host Behka White discusses the importance of showing up in life. She emphasizes that being present is key to success, even if we are not always at our best. Showing up allows us to learn, connect with others, and seize opportunities. Behka encourages listeners to embrace the idea that 80% of success is simply showing up and to apply this mindset to their daily l...

In Episode 45 of the 1life podcast, host Behka White discusses the concept of self-renewal, particularly focusing on spiritual renewal. She defines the spirit as the nonphysical part of a person, the seat of emotions and character, and emphasizes the importance of nurturing this aspect of ourselves. Behka references Stephen Covey's 7th habit, "Sharpen the Saw," which advocates for a balanced appro...