The 1Life Podcast with Behka White

Welcome back to the 1life podcast! I’m Behka White, and this is Episode 144: Showing up for Christmas. In this episode, we talk about how the holiday season acts as a magnifying glass for all your emotions—whether it's joy or stress. We'll explore why it can feel hard to show up as your best self and introduce the simple, powerful STOP practice to help you manage your power, stay grounded, and cho...

Welcome back to the 1life podcast! Have you ever wondered what truly matters at the end of it all? In this episode, "The Real Point," Behka White shares an encounter from her work as a hospice chaplain. You'll hear a profound piece of wisdom from a grieving widower that transcends cultures and generations, revealing why our relationships—especially our most intimate ones—are the ultimate purpose o...

In this episode, Behka reflects on Psalms 139:14, stating, "I will praise thee, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works." She emphasizes that God's works are marvelous, and humans, as His creations, are fearfully and wonderfully made, full of light, truth, goodness, strength, potential, and genius. She explains that being "fearfully made" signifies that our body, mind, an...

Well hello there, and welcome back to the 1life podcast! I'm Behka White, and this is Episode 141: The Gap. In this episode, we discuss how a 13-year-old's struggle with a new responsibility highlights that life is a continuous exercise in stretching and growth. We explore the concept of "gaps" as sacred spaces for learning and becoming, and how Jesus Christ performs miracles in these gaps. Drawin...

Welcome back to the 1life podcast. I’m Behka White and this is Episode 140 - Ship it. Today I’m sharing a composite book review, challenging the idea of born genius and highlighting the 10,000-hour rule for expertise. I'll also discuss Seth Godin's quote, "Ship often. Ship lousy stuff, but ship," and how it relates to overcoming imposter syndrome and refining your craft.

Welcome back to the 1life podcast! I'm Behka White, and this is Episode 139: "The Stairwell." In this episode, we reflect on the powerful poem "Meet Me in the Stairwell" by Stacey Randall, shared by my friend Rabbi Steve in commemoration of 9/11. The poem offers a profound message of God's presence and unwavering love, even in our darkest moments. Join me as we explore the comforting truth that no...

In Episode 138, Behka commemorates her son Josiah's birthday, who would have been 18. Josiah, born with a rare genetic disease, lived for only 42 days. Despite being told he wouldn't survive, Josiah showed a relentless will to live, leaving a lasting impact on the family. His 42 days were filled with lessons about life, death, pain, love, grief, and family bonds. To honor Josiah, Behka reissues th...

Welcome back to the 1Life podcast! In Episode 137, Behka celebrates Mother's Day and reminds us that motherhood, like life, is beautifully imperfect. She shares a funny, relatable story about a parenting 'fail' involving her son and his ukulele. This anecdote illustrates the point that no parent is perfect, and those imperfections don't ruin our kids. Behka emphasizes that we all have a perfect Mo...

In Episode 136 of the 1life podcast, Behka discusses the concept of "Enduring to the End." She connects this idea to her personal experience with her son Jonah's passing. Behka shares that when Jonah was very ill, she considered turning off his oxygen to end his suffering, but ultimately decided not to. She describes how choosing to let Jonah live his last day led to a day filled with joy, love, a...

In Episode 135 of the 1life podcast, Behka discusses her role as a hospice chaplain and the concept of Medical Assistance in Dying (MAID) in Colorado. Professionally she supports her patients' decisions, and personally, she holds a differing belief system.    Behka believes God determines the day of birth and death, and choosing to end life prematurely interrupts an intended progression. She also...

Episode 134 focuses on a parenting tip centered around letting children solve their own problems. Drawing from her experience as a mother of nine, Behka discusses how the natural instinct of parents is to "swoop in" and fix things for their kids. However, she argues that this approach weakens children's problem-solving skills and fosters dependence. The episode emphasizes that children often have...

Episode 133 delves into the meaning of "Carpe Diem," which translates to "seize the day." The podcast emphasizes the difference between passively letting the day happen to you versus actively choosing the kind of day you want to have. It highlights the power we have in how we respond to external circumstances and encourages listeners to intentionally define their day with qualities like gratitude,...

This episode explores the importance of humor in life. Sharing a personal anecdote about a chaotic Christmas decorating experience with young children, Behka highlights how humor can transform stressful situations. The key takeaway is that life can be tough, and humor makes it more fun. The episode encourages listeners to actively seek out humor in their daily lives, promising that if they do, the...

In this episode, Behka explores how a powerful quote from basketball star Paige Bueckers, "The past can't hurt us, it can only make us stronger," can apply to our own lives. We discuss how our past experiences, both good and bad, can be used as tools for growth and improvement, rather than letting them hold us back. Tune in to hear about reframing your past and making productive adjustments for a...

Episode 130 discusses an engineer's perspective on life, which is to examine how things work, even if they are already functioning well, in order to understand them better and be able to fix them if needed. This advice is applied to life, suggesting that reflecting on what is working well in relationships or other areas and understanding the reasons for that success can help improve areas that nee...

Episode 129 focuses on the concept of asking "What CAN I do?" when facing limitations or difficulties. It uses the speaker's personal experience of recovery from a hysterectomy as an example. During recovery, the speaker felt depressed about what she couldn't do, but then remembered John Wooden's quote, "Don’t let what you cannot do interfere with what you can do." This prompted her to focus on th...

In Episode 128 host Behka White discusses how life presents us with challenges, or "shapeless masses," which we can choose to see as either stumbling blocks or stepping stones. Using David from the Old Testament and a poem called "Bag of Tools" as examples, it emphasizes that we have the agency to decide how we respond to these challenges. God gives us what we need, not necessarily what we expect,...

Episode 127 uses the "crab mentality" to illustrate how people in an unsupportive environment can hold each other back from success. It emphasizes the importance of surrounding yourself with people who encourage and uplift you, rather than those who pull you down. The episode encourages listeners to be architects of their own environment and to seek out relationships that foster growth and success...

Episode 126 focuses on the importance of raising children to be good humans rather than focusing solely on their achievements. Behka White shares a story about a man who prioritized raising his sons over raising cows. The episode emphasizes that children need opportunities to learn, grow, fail, and succeed with humility. It encourages parents to find activities that ignite their children's passion...

Episode 125 features a story about a high school volleyball coach who inspired her players to be optimistic and resilient. The coach, Nancy Zehnder, was known for being tough but also fiercely loving and supportive. She started each practice with a thought or quote and pushed her players to work hard and support each other. The episode concludes with a poem about two frogs in a cream bowl; one giv...

In Episode 124, Behka White shares a story about a man who, due to a stroke, had difficulty communicating during his sermon. He shared his regret for not serving a mission in his youth and encouraged young people to serve. The main message is that it's never too early or too late to serve God, and we need to show love and belief to the young people in our lives.

Episode 123 encourages listeners to reflect on the past year with gratitude and curiosity. The host suggests questions to consider, such as what you're most grateful for, your most important growth, biggest challenge, biggest disappointment, and what you learned. These questions prompt reflection on personal experiences and lessons from the year.   The host shares her own responses, highlighting g...

Episode 122 is about applying the three foundational principles of meditation to life. The three principles are breath, posture, and forgiveness. Deep breathing slows the heart rate and brings calm. Posture affects how we feel and approach the world. Forgiveness means forgiving ourselves and starting again. The quicker we forgive ourselves, the easier the road will be. The host, Behka White, invit...

Episode 121 of the 1Life podcast explores the difference between winning and success, using the example of a basketball game between CBU and USC. The host's daughter played for CBU, the underdog team that ultimately lost. Despite the loss, the host emphasizes the success found in the effort and improvement demonstrated by the players. The episode highlights the importance of focusing on the proces...

Episode 120 of the 1Life podcast focuses on the motivation behind charitable acts. The host references 1 Corinthians 13:1, emphasizing that actions without love are meaningless. The host encourages listeners to consider their motivations for charitable acts, questioning whether they are driven by genuine love and concern for others or by personal gain. The episode concludes with a call to action,...