That Other Lifestyle

Jason returns from a brief break with personal updates and an anecdote about how constant phone notifications inspired a deep look at group chats in the lifestyle community. He explores how chat groups connect people between events, help newcomers, and coordinate logistics, while also amplifying drama, FOMO, and privacy risks. Topics include admin dynamics, etiquette for introductions and DMs, cou...

Join host Jason as he recounts a barefoot, late-night nudist-resort weekend and offers practical, no-nonsense advice for traveling with lifestyle friends — from choosing venues and managing invites to respecting rules, consent, and logistics. Learn tips on sleeping arrangements, food, decompression, policing the group, keep non-lifestyle guests in mind, and how to leave a space better than you fou...

Host Jason breaks down what makes hotel takeovers special — loud music, costumes, vetted communities, and the mix of party energy and safety that Risqué events bring. He previews upcoming events (Back to School, Pulsify on the beach, and Sultry Spirits in New Orleans), shares practical tips for booking, pacing yourself, and setting expectations, and explains why these gatherings matter to the life...

This episode peels back the glamour of the lifestyle and explores what happens when dates go sideways—illness, intoxication, jealousy, cancelled plans, and the emotional fallout that follows. Jason offers practical advice on stabilizing crises, communicating and repairing relationships, setting boundaries, and giving grace while holding people accountable so the community can handle setbacks with...

Host Jason digs into the stigma, stereotypes, and private struggles of people in the swinging and non-monogamous communities. Through candid stories and a frank, adult perspective, he explores why many in the lifestyle bite their tongues around vanilla friends, the misconceptions spread by outsiders, and the internal issues the community must confront. Expect blunt honesty, real talk about consent...

A late-night, first-person account of a Luminous hotel takeover where neon lights, shamanic play, and EDM create a modern ritual. The host reflects on the yearning for community, welcoming newcomers, the highs and burnout of living loudly in the lifestyle, and the quiet meaning found in small acts of belonging. Check out my Patreon Buy me a cup of coffee!   My links: www.thatotherlifestyle.com htt...

Jason breaks down the realities of making sex tapes in the lifestyle, focusing on consent, trust, and the risks of recording intimate moments. The episode offers clear, practical advice: when and how to ask, who should film, storage and privacy considerations, and what to do if someone later revokes permission.   Check out my Patreon Buy me a cup of coffee!   My links: www.thatotherlifestyle.com h...

Host Jason marks his 100th episode by exploring "Arcadia" — the intense, fleeting feeling of freedom, connection, and sexual abandon in the lifestyle. He reflects on addiction to the high, the pain of endings, and the rewards of deep friendships that let you return again and again. Jason also shares candid advice about consent and balance, announces upcoming events (Luminous and Sultry Spirits), a...

Steve and Rebecca experience their first hotel lifestyle takeover, navigating nerves, rules, and the pulsing chaos of the ballroom. From awkward encounters and unwanted advances to supportive friends and tense choices, the night tests their boundaries and connection.   Check out my Patreon Buy me a cup of coffee!   My links: www.thatotherlifestyle.com https://benable.com/ThatOtherLifestyle Single...

Jason examines how identity and labels shape the lifestyle world, comparing corporate job titles to the play dynamics couples choose for themselves. He explains common dynamics—soft swap, full swap, same-room vs separate-room, and group play—offers tips for crafting a clear elevator pitch, and stresses communication, boundaries, and sexual health. The episode centers on consent, respect, and the f...

Host Jason reflects on the moments that mark the end of a life as it was — from the Baton Rouge flood that washed away a home, to the first full swap that ended their vanilla marriage, to an unexpected layoff that upended routine. He explores how sudden change reshapes identity, relationships, and what it means to live in the lifestyle. Raw, candid, and often funny, this episode uses the idea of a...

Jason explores the "blank white page" metaphor as it applies to the lifestyle, how novelty, attraction, and writer 's-block-style hesitation shape first impressions, consent, vetting, and the stories we choose to write with new partners and couples. He shares candid tips on communication, safety (including STI testing), balancing desire with discernment, and deciding when to pursue or walk away, e...

Jason uses Bigfoot and other cryptids as a playful metaphor for couples everyone knows exist but rarely meets, and explores how visibility, images, and reputation act like marketing in the lifestyle community. With personal anecdotes, allergy-fueled honesty, and event notes, he explains how to craft a compelling personal brand, change perceptions through repeated evidence, and use presence to attr...

Host Jason shares a short story about Sam and Brenda, a married couple navigating jealousy, alcohol, and the local lifestyle meetup scene. The episode follows their tense night at a beachside bar where flirting, misunderstandings, and old wounds surface amid a crowded community gathering. My links: www.thatotherlifestyle.com https://benable.com/ThatOtherLifestyle Single Men's Guide to the Lifestyl...

Jason marks the podcast's two-year anniversary with a candid episode about a recent lifestyle cruise, personal reflection, and reconnecting with what he truly wants from the lifestyle. He shares stories about community, consent, the realities of cruise culture, and the bittersweet moments of feeling both connected and alone. He also opens up about mental health, a recent OCD diagnosis, and the imp...

This episode explores the often-overlooked practice of aftercare in the lifestyle—what it is, why it matters, and how to give and ask for it. Jason breaks down physical, emotional, and mental aftercare needs, offers practical check-ins (like simple "You good?" texts or water and hugs), and explains how aftercare differs from repair and accountability. Listeners will hear real examples—from cuddlin...

Host Jason explores how personal stories in the lifestyle—good, bad, and funny—shape community norms, communicate etiquette, and help people find compatible play styles. He reflects on the oral tradition of sharing origin stories, dating adventures, and the way narratives influence attraction and behavior. The episode also covers ethics around storytelling: avoid naming or shaming, understand the...

Host Jason explores the "witching hour": that late-night moment at lifestyle parties, cruises, and events when the vibe shifts and people look for last-chance encounters. He shares stories, types of people you’ll meet, and the emotional realities of endings, rejection, and desire. Jason gives practical advice: discuss boundaries with your partner before the event, be clear about intentions, practi...

A fictional episode in which a newbie couple explores the lifestyle with a dinner date that escalates into boundary-crossing and confusion; highlights the importance of consent, communication, and respecting limits. My links: www.thatotherlifestyle.com https://benable.com/ThatOtherLifestyle Single Men's Guide to the Lifestyle Course Risque Lifestyle Parties SDC.com STDHero.com Hellowisp.com

Host Jason uses the hotel mezzanine as a metaphor to explore social tiers in the ethical non‑monogamy community from the high‑visibility "shiny people" and secret side rooms to the lobby of newbies and burnouts. He reflects on inclusion, burnout, and how popularity often masks real connection. The episode validates different ways to engage, warns against chasing status, and encourages listeners to...

Good morning, good afternoon, good evening.  Jason connects Charles Dickens’ A Christmas Carol (via the Muppet version) to the lifestyle world, using the ghosts of past, present, and future as metaphors for memories, party energy, and long-term consequences. He shares personal holiday stories about raves, parties, shame, joy, boundaries, and community, urging listeners to come in, connect, and car...

Jason uses a map-and-sea metaphor to unpack sexual dynamics in the lifestyle: desire, power, connection, and risk. He stresses clear communication, consent, and rejecting shame while exploring examples like FFM vs FMF, full swap nuances, and bisexuality. Practical takeaways include naming preferences, setting boundaries with partners, avoiding escalatory pressure, and choosing whether to keep expl...

Jason walks through everything you need to know to plan and host a lifestyle meetup, from choosing a venue and talking to managers to promotion, vetting, and managing the crowd. He covers public vs. private events, budgeting and ticketing, safety and discretion, dealing with problem attendees, and tips for welcoming newbies and building lasting events. This episode is a practical, honest, and incl...

Host Jason sits down with Bella, a retired sex therapist, and her husband Prescott to share their origin story in the lifestyle, how they worked through jealousy, and the tools that strengthened their relationship. The episode covers practical advice for dating app profiles, privacy and validation tips, speed dates and travel strategies, and communication exercises like the “what if” game and jeal...

Host Jason returns from a spontaneous hiatus and shares a personal, candid journey through the lifestyle, using elevators and a stolen sailboat as metaphors for transitions, uncertainty, and self-discovery. The episode also serves as a primer on the lifestyle: foundational principles like consent, body positivity, and sexual freedom; practical advice on testing, communication, labels, and finding...