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In this episode, Jackie talks about disengaged family systems.  Disengaged family systems have a way of powerful shame around emotional needs our need for love and connection.  This family system has a powerful impact on the children raised in them and continues into adulthood until the wounds have been faced and the beliefs that stem from this family system are challenged.    

In this episode, Jackie talks about enmeshed family systems. Jackie talks in more detail about what enmeshed families are, what they look like, and what they feel like.  The short-term and long-term problems associated with enmeshed families and how to begin the healing journey.      

In this episode, Jackie talks about structural family therapy concepts and the types of families identified by Salvador Mnuchin:  healthy/adaptive, disengaged, enmeshed.  This episode is an overview of the types of families and structural family therapy concepts.   

In this podcast episode, Jackie talks about attachment styles, what they are, how they form and how they can impact us in our adult relationships.  This episode is another lens to view ourselves and our relationship patterns in a way that can help us understand and change what needs to change for us to heal our attachment wounds and form secure and healthy relationships. 

In this episode, Jackie talks about the often hidden and unknown condition of childhood emotional neglect.  Our parents may understand the importance of providing for our physical needs as children, but when our emotional needs are neglected and not attuned to, we grow up feeling off.  We may question our feelings and our needs, we might struggle with self-esteem, and are unable to take appropriat...

In this final episode in the series on developing a solid sense of self, Jackie talks about how we develop a solid sense of self.  Jackie looks at what researchers in neuroscience are saying about how a self is developed and what trauma research tells us about healing in order to develop a solid sense of self.  

In this episode Jackie talks about self-care and how to approach caring for the self in a way that supports building a "self" and reinforcing the value and worth of who we are.  Self-care can be misunderstood or substituted as a hobby or a bubble bath or golfing.  Those may be things we enjoy and like to do, but is that self-care?   --

In this episode, Jackie continues talking about developing the self.  The need to find the lapse in our story caused by adversity or trauma and finishing what is left unfinished in us.  Jackie borrows from great thinkers, writers, and psychoanalysts, and what they have discovered and written about this process.   

In this episode, Jackie takes a lot of writings from Dr. Gabor Mate to help us understand ourselves from the perspectives we don't typically look at ourselves or our stories from.  

In this episode Jackie continues her series on developing a solid sense of self.  In this episode, Jackie explores some of the reasons we may not have developed a solid sense of self and how we can start to work on understanding our story and becoming more of ourselves. 

This is episode 2 in a series on "self".  In this episode, Jackie talks about what goes awry in developing a sense of self, what it can look like when we don't have a functional sense of self and why having a functional sense of self is so critical in having a healthy and meaningful life.    

In this episode, Jackie kicks off a series on developing the self, barriers to developing a self, what self-care even means and how to recognize when our childhood trauma story surfaces in our adult life.  

In this episode, Jackie, circles back to episode 228 and talks about the courtship dimensions seven through twelve.  These dimensions were identified by Dr. Patrick Carnes and are part of developing and maintaining healthy and meaningful relationships.    Click on the link below to listen to Episode 228. https://thanksforsharing.podbean.com/e/episode-228-courtship-dimensions

In this episode Jackie talks about the 100 deadliest days of Summer on highways and roads throughout the United States where fatalities from car accidents see a sharp increase.  Why does this happen? Does heat have an impact on conflict and violence and how does this relate to recovery?

In this episode, Jackie talks about the reversal of Roe and our ability as humans to not see what is right in front of us.  This ability impacts the plight of women in many ways and with the reversal of these constitutional rights that recognized a woman's ability to make choices for her body and her life.  With this reversal what will be the impact going forward? We do not know because we have no...

In this episode, Jackie talks about the vulnerable moments that we share.  Where we show up for people, celebrate with people, grieve with people and let others know they are not alone.  

This episode follows the verdict rendered in the Depp v Heard defamation lawsuit.  While the outcome of this case has been decided by a jury, there is much for us to learn as we look at how public verdicts are rendered and the fallout that happens when the public gets it wrong.  

This episode was prompted by the ongoing discussion playing out currently through a celebrity defamation lawsuit.  Nobody watching or listening is able to provide accurate diagnostic information, which makes it even more important to shape the conversation about how this court proceeding is being viewed and talked about.  When issues regarding domestic violence make it into the spotlight, often th...

In this episode, Jackie talks about the most recent of a long stream of gun violence and innocent lives lost.  This is a disturbing issue in the United States with seemingly no end in sight.  Jackie talks about the importance of understanding our grievance stories and how this understanding can lead to meaningful conversations and prompt a robust national conversation focused on change and progres...

In this episode, Jackie talks about a model of change that breaks down the process of change into four steps.  Which can be helpful when undertaking an overwhelming task like change.  In addition to understanding there are models for change, it can also be helpful to know there are also expected obstacles universal to those who undertake such a task.  Knowing what these obstacles are can help us r...

These are two terms that are often used in therapy and that are often used by the general public.  But what do they actually mean?  What is the difference between being trauma-informed and doing trauma work?  In this episode, we talk about the difference and the importance of being trauma-informed, both as the client and the clinician, before moving into doing trauma work.    

In this episode, Jackie talks about a local controversy that arose in SLC related to a description of a college course taught at a liberal arts college located in SLC.  Situations such as this can escalate emotions and quickly spread fear and disinformation.  Or it can cause us to pause, take a step back, listen, ask questions, and use critical thinking skills to sort through the emotional informa...

In this episode, Jackie talks about the first six of twelve of the dimensions of courtship as outlined by Dr. Patrick Carnes.  We do not spend enough time talking about how healthy relationships come about.  Is it by chance? Is it luck? Do some people know a secret that so many others do not know? Healthy relationships don't happen by chance or by luck.  And if your history of relationships doesn'...

In this episode, Jackie wraps up discussing the book The Tao of Fully Feeling. This is where the dots are connected and we begin to see the path forward for ourselves.  A path that involves forgiving ourselves for our part in carrying the dysfunction forward.  We can now begin to see how our relationships can be different.  How we can make amends, we can take responsibility for our actions, withou...

In this episode, Jackie continues to work through the book The Tao of Fully Feeling.  The author has reminded us throughout the book of our society's need to rush forgiveness as a bypass for feeling and operating in reality.  In this episode, we look at extenuating circumstances that our parents may have been dealing with.  We aren't exploring these circumstances as a way of "letting them off the...