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In this episode Jackie continues her series on developing a solid sense of self.  In this episode, Jackie explores some of the reasons we may not have developed a solid sense of self and how we can start to work on understanding our story and becoming more of ourselves. 

This is episode 2 in a series on "self".  In this episode, Jackie talks about what goes awry in developing a sense of self, what it can look like when we don't have a functional sense of self and why having a functional sense of self is so critical in having a healthy and meaningful life.    

In this episode, Jackie kicks off a series on developing the self, barriers to developing a self, what self-care even means and how to recognize when our childhood trauma story surfaces in our adult life.  

In this episode, Jackie, circles back to episode 228 and talks about the courtship dimensions seven through twelve.  These dimensions were identified by Dr. Patrick Carnes and are part of developing and maintaining healthy and meaningful relationships.    Click on the link below to listen to Episode 228. https://thanksforsharing.podbean.com/e/episode-228-courtship-dimensions

In this episode Jackie talks about the 100 deadliest days of Summer on highways and roads throughout the United States where fatalities from car accidents see a sharp increase.  Why does this happen? Does heat have an impact on conflict and violence and how does this relate to recovery?

In this episode, Jackie talks about the reversal of Roe and our ability as humans to not see what is right in front of us.  This ability impacts the plight of women in many ways and with the reversal of these constitutional rights that recognized a woman's ability to make choices for her body and her life.  With this reversal what will be the impact going forward? We do not know because we have no...

In this episode, Jackie talks about the vulnerable moments that we share.  Where we show up for people, celebrate with people, grieve with people and let others know they are not alone.  

This episode follows the verdict rendered in the Depp v Heard defamation lawsuit.  While the outcome of this case has been decided by a jury, there is much for us to learn as we look at how public verdicts are rendered and the fallout that happens when the public gets it wrong.  

This episode was prompted by the ongoing discussion playing out currently through a celebrity defamation lawsuit.  Nobody watching or listening is able to provide accurate diagnostic information, which makes it even more important to shape the conversation about how this court proceeding is being viewed and talked about.  When issues regarding domestic violence make it into the spotlight, often th...

In this episode, Jackie talks about the most recent of a long stream of gun violence and innocent lives lost.  This is a disturbing issue in the United States with seemingly no end in sight.  Jackie talks about the importance of understanding our grievance stories and how this understanding can lead to meaningful conversations and prompt a robust national conversation focused on change and progres...

In this episode, Jackie talks about a model of change that breaks down the process of change into four steps.  Which can be helpful when undertaking an overwhelming task like change.  In addition to understanding there are models for change, it can also be helpful to know there are also expected obstacles universal to those who undertake such a task.  Knowing what these obstacles are can help us r...

These are two terms that are often used in therapy and that are often used by the general public.  But what do they actually mean?  What is the difference between being trauma-informed and doing trauma work?  In this episode, we talk about the difference and the importance of being trauma-informed, both as the client and the clinician, before moving into doing trauma work.    

In this episode, Jackie talks about a local controversy that arose in SLC related to a description of a college course taught at a liberal arts college located in SLC.  Situations such as this can escalate emotions and quickly spread fear and disinformation.  Or it can cause us to pause, take a step back, listen, ask questions, and use critical thinking skills to sort through the emotional informa...

In this episode, Jackie talks about the first six of twelve of the dimensions of courtship as outlined by Dr. Patrick Carnes.  We do not spend enough time talking about how healthy relationships come about.  Is it by chance? Is it luck? Do some people know a secret that so many others do not know? Healthy relationships don't happen by chance or by luck.  And if your history of relationships doesn'...

In this episode, Jackie wraps up discussing the book The Tao of Fully Feeling. This is where the dots are connected and we begin to see the path forward for ourselves.  A path that involves forgiving ourselves for our part in carrying the dysfunction forward.  We can now begin to see how our relationships can be different.  How we can make amends, we can take responsibility for our actions, withou...

In this episode, Jackie continues to work through the book The Tao of Fully Feeling.  The author has reminded us throughout the book of our society's need to rush forgiveness as a bypass for feeling and operating in reality.  In this episode, we look at extenuating circumstances that our parents may have been dealing with.  We aren't exploring these circumstances as a way of "letting them off the...

In this episode, Jackie continues her discussion of The Tao of Fully Feeling.  In this episode, we start looking at what we can do.  Once we have become more aware of our dysfunctional childhood and our maladaptive coping skills, once we have grieved the loss and expressed what was repressed, where do we go next? In this episode, we look at how we can reparent our inner child.  Offering him/her wh...

In this continuing discussion about the book The Tao of Fully Feeling by Pete Walker, we talk about blame as part of the grieving process.  And how blame is not the stigmatized emotion that we are taught to banish and opt for self-responsibility.  Instead, it is an organic, natural part of ourselves that leads to self-protection, healthy boundaries, and ultimately true forgiveness to our parents f...

There are four key ways that children protect themselves from being overwhelmed by the emotional pain of prolonged abuse and neglect.  We call these defense mechanisms, and they typically have an expiration date.  They can be effective in protecting children through traumatic childhoods, but at some time they will stop working.  At this point, we can develop new, advanced defense mechanisms or we...

In this episode, Jackie talks about chapter 5 in The Tao of Fully Feeling.  Often when we think of grieving, we think of being sad, maybe crying.  Or we think of the stages of grief developed by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross.  In this chapter, author Pete Walker expands on essentials to grieving as we explore childhood trauma.  

In this bonus episode, Jackie talks about how the learnings from Pete Walker's book The Tao of Fully Feeling may have messages for the current strife and social fears we are experiencing in our world today.   

In this episode Jackie continues her series discussing the book The Tao of Fully Feeling by Pete Walker. In this episode we cover chapter 2 & 3 from the book and talk about the Fundamental Dynamics of Emotional Nature and the Gifts of Grieving. 

In this episode, Jackie talks about the introduction, and chapters one and two of Pete Walker's book The Tao of Fully Feeling.  This is the first book of our TFS Bookclub.  In this episode, we cover how we lose our ability to fully feel.  What the cost is to us and how we cope when we cannot fully feel.  We also talk about how starting to feel will connect us with grief and loss. Two ways we avoid...

In this episode Jackie answers a question from a friend and one that many people have when they start therapy and are in the process of doing their own work.  It is a valid question when there are painful and traumatic things we have experienced in the past.  Why go there if there isnt a good reason? Well, there is a good reason.  The past never stays put in past.  We arrive in adulthood with unfi...

In this episode, I am honored to have special guest Mark Nepo talking about Heartwork: being a spirit in the world. Beloved as a poet, teacher, and storyteller, Mark Nepo, the New York Times bestselling author of The Book of Awakening, has been called "one of the finest spiritual guides of our time," "a consummate storyteller," and an"eloquent spiritual teacher."  His many books have been translat...