Tell Me Something Messy with Brandon Kyle Goodman

Actress Danielle Pinnock opens up about caregiver burnout. From learning to schedule rest and say "no," to breaking generational patterns and normalizing therapy and medication, this messy, honest conversation is for anyone who's ever run themselves into the ground taking care of everyone but themselves.  📩 Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.com | And s hare your mess anonymously at Somet...

The Villa is in shambles and Brandon has thoughts . This week, Brandon recap the messiest Love Island USA episode yet — who got dumped, why America's votes don't add up, and whether Sincere is really "changed. Then, PEN15 co-creator and  The Sane One author Anna Konkle joins Brandon for a bonus hang that includes a Beyoncé story Brandon probably shouldn't be telling. Watch Tell M...

Anna Konkle (PEN15, Murderbot) pulls back the curtain on emotional incest — the covert, rarely-discussed wound of becoming your parent's confidant, spouse, and caretaker as a child. the family dynamics most people are too scared to name. Anna and Brandon get into her new book and unpack grief and forgiveness: how Anna cared for the father she'd been estranged from as he was dying, the letter...

Brandon recaps Love Island's most chaotic week, drags KC, weighs in on Oprah and NeNe, and brings back Dr. Joshua Gonzalez for the real tea on penis filler! 🏝️ Join us on  YouTube for a Love Island Recap LIVE on Thursdays after the show! 📩  Got something messy you want Brandon to weigh in on? Tell us anonymously a SomethingMessy.com. Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.com W...

This is a very special Pride episode of Waking Up With Ryan , the new podcast from iHeartPodcast’s Outspoken Network, launching July 7th.   How you spend the first five minutes of your day determines how the rest of your day will go. Waking Up with Ryan is a daily audio/video podcast featuring short daily “moments of awakening” (10-12 minutes) that interrupt the inertia of f...

Ever wondered how often you really need an STI test, whether PrEP is just "a gay thing," or what a pelvic floor even is? Brandon's best friend Devere Rogers is back, and they brought in urologist and sexual health expert Dr. Joshua Gonzalez to answer the questions most people are too embarrassed to ask. 🏝️ Join us on YouTube for a Love Island Recap LIVE on Thursdays after the show! 📩  Got so...

In this Messy Bonus, Brandon breaks down the Love Island, chaos — Zach & Bryce's now-iconic "girth check," Melanie's "watch them" energy, Trinity's one-liners, and why the show desperately needs a gay. Then Justin Sylvester of The Yestergays pulls up for the extras: a Juneteenth Black sitcom showdown, two messy mails that turn into the commandments for threesomes, a gem about meeting Eri...

In this Pride Month x Juneteenth crossover of Tell Me Something Messy , Brandon Kyle Goodman sits down with Emmy-nominated TV personality Justin Sylvester of  The Yestergays for a conversation that is hilarious, nostalgic, and deeply healing. They unpack the “Fairy Gayfather” effect: the gay mentors who introduce us to queer culture, chosen family, nightlife, language, safety, and...

It's giving six hours of sleep, Red Bull, and regret. Brandon is BACK after two Pride weekends in a row, and honey, the stories. Also, Brandon shares their thesis on the difference between gay spaces and queer spaces, and what it feels like to show up fully in your non-binary body when the world wants you in a box. Then it's Love Island time. Then for our bonus, Brandon revisits their chat with LA...

Happy Pride, Messy Mob!! Brandon is joined by Yvie Oddly and Ryan Mitchell for Part 1 of the messiest Messy x HIGHKEY crossover — and the range is truly unserious. We’re talking bathhouse recon, Pride anxiety, jealous bottoms, dog-owner slander, and the complicated grief of loving our mothers from a distance. Plus: a listener asks whether Pride is really for everyone, and the group get...

Brandon recovers from Pride hangover. Plus: a TV recap, why you shouldn't sleep on J. Lo movies, and some good ol' messy mess with Taylor Tomlinson. 📩  Got something messy you want Brandon to weigh in on? Tell us anonymously a SomethingMessy.com, and join us on YouTube  and Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.com Watch Tell Me Something Messy on YouTube!: https://www.youtube.com/...

Happy Pride, Messy Mob!! Writer, comedian Taylor Tomlinson came to play! Brandon and "Tay Tay" imagine a hypothetical "queer-platonic" marriage, debate location sharing etiquette, and Taylor shares one of the most surprising turns a hookup has ever taken in Messy's  history. Plus: a listener sends a letter about being rejected by their church community after coming out — and how to grie...

Summer is here, and Brandon is clearing the calendar for reality TV. Starting with this episode, the messy bonuses are going all-in on the shows running our brains into rot all season — Bravo's Summer House reunion, Love Island USA Season 7 with Ariana Madix hosting, and whatever other reality TV chaos the universe coughs up between now and Labor Day. And to close out, bonus footage from our...

Sarah Jones came to the couch and left us speechless. The Tony-winning performer gets radically honest about how she's been "cheating" on every partner—not with another person, but with a fantasy version of who they could become. From there, we spiral into the messy truth about workaholism as a post-traumatic inherited response (yes, she connects it all the way back), and why Trisha Hersey's...

Brandon has questions, concerns, and possibly a group chat theory. Drake just gave us what feels like a 43-song therapy session, and Brandon would like to know who’s taking notes, who’s holding space, and whether snacks were provided. Also, if you didn’t vote, this may not be your safe space right now. This Memorial Day Weekend Messy Bonus also features a clip from Brandon’...

Dr. Vanessa Marin gives us the sex ed class boarding school owed us. Brandon and Dr. Marin, creator of the Sex Talks card game, get into scheduling sex, ejaculation myths, open relationships, the surprising problem with fantasies, perimenopause, why “just relax” is terrible advice, and a longevity study involving ejaculations and a sticker chart.  Watch Tell Me Something Messy on...

Brandon gets into Pam Grier’s three-day orgasm story and the art of surrendering to pleasure, intimacy, and your own body. Then they turn from sex and pleasure to friendship breakups — when to call it quits with your bestie, what couples therapy can teach us about friendship, and when a therapist starts sounding more like a life coach. Plus, Cheyenne Bryant, emotional red flags, and th...

Brandon welcomes author and Boy Problems podcast host Liz Plank into the messy living room for a raw conversation about feminine energy, why patriarchy keeps men from connecting, pretty privilege, performing masculinity vs. actually embodying it, and why every straight man should understand what it feels like to receive. Watch on YouTube! Watch Tell Me Something Messy on YouTube!: https://www.yout...

Brandon gets into Kevin Hart’s Netflix roast, Jamie Foxx’s appearance, and why people still care so much about interracial couples. Then Curly Velasquez is back with the best outtakes from his episode, including a wild mid-hookup story about a friend, kink talk, Amsterdam confessions, the parakeet claw grip technique, and whispered advice that goes fully off the rails. Watch the full e...

Brandon sits down with C urly Velasquez, co-host of The Super Secret Bestie Club and Vice President of Development at LatiNation Media, for a funny, spiritual, and deeply messy conversation about grief, sober sex, ancestral rituals, chosen family, and the ways our bodies remember what our mouths are still learning how to say. The conversation also gets into the idea that messiness is not new &mdas...

In this bonus episode of, Brandon reflects on his conversation with best friend Lyo Reneau before diving into Megan Thee Stallion and Klay Thompson breakup discourse and the mental health toll of public scrutiny. Brandon also reacts to  Dr. Cheyenne Bryant’s licensing controversy, shares why referrals and trusted support matter, and closes with just a little tax-write-off kiki with Lyo....

Brandon sits down with their day-one Lyo Reneau — a talent and culture strategist, master trainer, and certified room-reader — for a conversation about how to pull up for your people. From nightlife lore to surviving hard truths, they unpack how to build healthy friendship when nobody gave you the blueprint — and how to master the art of showing up anyway. Submit your anonymous m...

Brandon wanted to share this very pertinent episode about chosen family,  discovering your queerness and being okay with just yourself. We'll be back with new episodes next week! Submit your anonymous messy stories and game ideas at SomethingMessy.com Comments and suggestions email TellMeSomethingMessy@gmail.com  Video: youtube.com/brandonkgood Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.com &...

That's the message for today. Brandon breaks down their favorite recent watches, and struggles to remember Helena Bonham Carter's name.  Submit your anonymous messy stories and game ideas at SomethingMessy.com Comments and suggestions email TellMeSomethingMessy@gmail.com  Video: youtube.com/brandonkgood Substack: brandonkylegoodman.substack.com Watch Tell Me Something Messy on YouTube!:...

Brandon is back with another solo episode, this time sharing some absolutely wild customer service stories and more Messy Bowl questions.  Watch Tell Me Something Messy on YouTube!: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJyWqYQlC8AbKTb8uvbY6Wg See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.