Talkin about Midlife

Embodiment, it is a word that we hear a lot. What does it really mean? It is our ability to sense and be present with our internal feelings, sensations and emotions. The skill of being able to sense this all of this is called interoception. Interoception is available to all of this but most of us don’t know this, it often takes a bit of practice. Sometimes when we have trauma or lots of stress, it...

We often hear the term self sabotage and it is generally referring to a behavioural response where someone is stopping their own growth, success or connection with others in relationships. Is it really a thing and do we understand what is going on in the person’s response? I often talk to my clients about the concept of ‘getting in our own way’. That is where our autonomic nervous system is acting...

Dr Kathryn Theodosis joins me for this fantastic podcast where we are talking about our amazing bodies, in particular our nervous systems. Kathryn is a chiropractor who works with clients to allow their nervous system and energy system to move out of a state of stress and fear and into one of greater safety and connection. This shift allows a greater sense of safety to be held by the nervous syste...

Today my good friend Richie Angelo joins me to talk about skin through the major rites of passage we go through. Richie is a beauty therapist who is a skin guru. She has incorporated further study into her practice and uses both kinesiology and energetic work to treat her clients. In this podcast Richie explains how our skin is more than just the boundary of our body, it is part of the detoxificat...

The midlife crisis is one of the most poorly misunderstood transitions and no surprises that menopause is too. In this episode I talk about the deeper meaning of both and go into explaining the challenges of all the rites of passage we have. I talk about: -What the developmental challenge of the individual rites of passage are, -What happens when you don’t address that -How you have to look at men...

Today I am joined again by my very fabulous friend and colleague Sasha Ostara. Sasha is a Somatic Intimacy Coach. Sasha and I both have a really strong aversion to the labelling of behavioural traits as masculine or feminine and instead prefer to categorise them as human qualities. in this podcast we talk about why we believe this and how our somatic training around the nervous system has helped i...

Hello and happy new year. 2023 is the year of the Rabbit and it is a yin year in chinese astrology. So given it was Chinese New Year yesterday I feel its worth mentioning this and that this year is supposed to me more of a YIn energy year. Here’s hoping. Today I’m talking to you about why we have to start with working with our nervous system when we want to connect with our sexuality. The autonomi...

This week I’m talking about Emotions and how a somatic approach to your inner work will support you to have a really healthy relationship with your Emotions. Emotions are not a ‘nice to have’ luxury item in our makeup, they are an essential aspect of it.  We don’t have them just for the pleasure of feeling; they help us to survive and stay alive.  They orient us to the world and give us...

This week I’m talking about pleasure and how experiencing the expansive energy of pleasure in our body can be a pathway through pain. When we have trauma and stress stored in our body it has a very constrictive quality to it. You would know this be either a tight jaw or pelvis, or maybe tension in the shoulders and the back between your shoulder blades. In this episode I talk about: - How it can b...

Today I talk to my friend Elizabeth Ann about Living with Chronic Illness. Elizabeth is a Music Therapist who herself has living with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome for many years now. We thought it was time to have a discussion about Chronic Illness which is so prevalent in our society now days and so poorly misunderstood. Elizabeth’s journey of Chronic Illness lead her to change her career and she wen...

Today I’m on my own. I decided to do a shorter podcast in honour of world menopause month and in fact this week the 18th October being world menopause day, about all the stuff related to menopause that no one talks about. Believe me there is a lot. Menopause is larger sold as a disorder. It is a natural part of life for people in female bodies and most people think its just a whole host of physica...

Today I talk with my friend and colleague Casey Hall, who is a stress management coach, about the power of slowing down. Casey is both a sensuality coach and holistic wellness coach and has studied and worked in the wellness landscape for many years. She is the best person to talk to about this subject because not only is it the centre of her work but its her life story also. She learned that slow...

In this episode I talk to my friends and colleagues Jackie Verinder and Timmy Noad who are both Breathwork teachers about Breathwork. Jackie and Timmy have a great story about their own journey to breathwork and how it has helped them release trauma from their body, connect with their emotions and feelings, grow into emotional adulthood and how it has improved their overall sense of wellbeing, sel...

Grief is one of the toughest emotions that most of us have to feel and work through. In our culture we seem to have lost our way when it comes to expressing grief. We have really narrowed our understanding of what being human really means and that includes the emotions we let ourselves feel. Establishing a relationship with our grief and being able to stay present with it in our adult selves is on...

Becoming a parent is a huge transition for all of us one that is often poorly supported. We often receive lots of guidance with regard to caring for the baby but little regarding the rite of passage of becoming a mother or father; the identity change and how that impacts on our sense of self. Today I talk to Carla Crivaro, a sex, love and relationship coaching who works with men and omen to achiev...

Many people, regardless of gender, come to midlife and start to wonder about their sexuality. It might not be conscious thoughts but often a yearning or longing for something more in their intimate life. Both with themselves and their partner, if they have one. That more, is often better sex or a more sacred connection with their sexuality. Today I talk to my friend and colleague, Suzanne Najarian...

How would you describe your relationship with Money? Yes you are reading it correctly, we have a relationship with money. How does your nervous system feel when you think about money? Did you know that money and sex have a relationship? Today I talk with Tamara Lee who is a Money Coach about Money and how we can improve our relationship with it. Tamara is a Sex, Love and Relationship Coach who spe...

Divorce is an extremely complex transition that many of us go through, that can really rock our foundations and sense of self. for many people, post divorce can be a time of immense growth and identity change. Having the support during this period creates both a safe and comforting space for us to grow. These transitions are portals calling us to the next phase of our life. Today I talk with my fr...

Where does creativity come from?  This question has always sat with me.  I am a very creative person and I have been painting, sewing, dancing, drawing since I was a young girl.  I’ve rarely stopped.  I’m always curious when people say to me ‘I am not creative’.  The curious part of me always thinks, what no, it is in there somewhere we just have to find it. So I invited o...

The world is in a really weird place at the moment and the last two years has shown us we still have a very long way to go to build a sustainable future for ourselves. Systems are breaking down and need to work differently if we are going to build sustainable change for broader societal issues. How do we learn to think broader than ourselves and what is going on for us right now. Today I talk to t...

The transition to menopause is complex and multifaceted. It is a death and rebirth, a shift in all the different aspects of ourselves. There is a lot of stigma around sexuality and ageing, so for many women there is a great fear that their sexuality will disappear. In this episode, Dr Laura Monk and I talk about the pathway that menopause provides to discover your authentic sexuality. Laura is bot...

Self love is a concept that I am not sure everyone has their head wrapped around. Sometimes when we think of self love we think of a narcissistic type of self love. That is not what I am talking about. I am talking about really loveing who you are as a person, all the parts of you. Loving your sexuality, your sensuality, the masculine and feminine aspects of yourself. In this episode I talk with m...

I’ve wanted to do this podcast for quite some time and have been quietly searching for a Doctor who is a menopause specialist and who takes a holistic and systemic view of the Midlife and Menopause transition. I looked at practitioners all over the world and found Dr Fatima Khan who funnily enough works about 2.5kms from my house! Fatima is a highly skilled Peri-Menopause and Menopause Specialist...

This episode is a fantastic conversation with Shelby Leigh that sits in the intersection of our work; Trauma resolution and education and transitions or rites of passage through motherhood and midlife.  Shelby is a former licensed psychotherapist, now coach and consultant - She teaches trauma awareness to coaches, therapists, healthcare professionals, and organisations worldwide.  ...

Today I talk to my friend and colleague Kendra cover who is a women's intimacy coach about stepping into womanhood. What does it look like and how would we know what it feels like inside of us. In this podcast Kendra and I discuss: - The rites of passage that women go through and how poorly supported they are, - How women feel their value comes from the roles that they take up in their lives. That...