Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Q: What do you do when you he breaks up with you by text? A: Friends, we are about to dive deep into the break up text. Today's caller got dumped by text, and I have a whole lot to say about it. The social media culture is changing a lot about how we do relationships, but some things just shouldn't be okay. And this is one of them, in my book. If you've ever been on the receiving end of a break up...

Have you ever wondered how porn impacts relationships? Porn has become a widespread epidemic in our culture today. And it's reaping havoc on relationships. It messes with your heart, alters your brain brain, and changes how you see the world around you. But it doesn't have to be this way. Today, I can't even tell you how thrilled I am to have Jonathan Pokluda join me to discuss his personal journe...

2020 has brought a lot of hard things...it's increased pressure and conflict in relationships.  Today's caller wants to know what do you do when you find yourself plunged into the season of FALL in a relationship? Fall is the season of conflict and communication - and it seems a lot of people are jumping right into it with all the stress and pressure this year has brought. Conflict in Relationship...

Today we're answering all your relationship questions in Part 2 of Q&A with Debra Fileta and Chad Johnson! A few weeks ago on my Instagram Page @TrueLoveDates (let's be IG friends!!!), I asked you to submit any relationship questions you had for us to tackle in a rapid-response Q&A session. SO MANY GOOD QUESTIONS came in! My friend, and one of your favorite co-hosts, Chad Johnson is joining me for...

Today we're answering all your relationship questions! A few weeks ago on my Instagram Page @TrueLoveDates (let's be IG friends!!!), I asked you to submit any relationship questions you had for us to tackle in a rapid-response Q&A session. My friend, and one of your favorite co-hosts, Chad Johnson is joining me today to answer your relationship questions from a his/her perspective!  So tune in for...

Today's caller is waiting for sex and proud of it. The only problem: she wants to know WHEN to share that fact that she's waiting for sex with the person she's dating. Especially with today's trend of online dating. Do you come out and tell them you're waiting for sex on the very first date, or do you ease into it? And that's exactly what we're covering on the podcast today! So let's just cut to t...

Am I too picky? Today's caller is wondering if she's too picky, or if she just has high standards? How can you tell the difference, especially when people are making comments that....maybe....you're too picky. I invited my friend, Pastor Ben Stuart author of Single, Dating, Engaged, Married, to join me as a co-host for today's episode as we talk through the difference between having high standards...

When should you say I love you? Today's caller was curious when is an appropriate time to tell someone you love them when you've been in a dating relationship. I know a lot of you have wondered the same thing, and questions in my inbox to prove it! So today we're tackling this important question!!! We're talking through some of the parameters behind When You Should Say I Love You, in today's episo...

What do you do when your partner's sexual history is more extensive than yours? In this episode, I talk to a man who is struggling with his girlfriend's sexual history, and the things she experienced before they met. I was so proud of him for his transparency, because it's something a lot of couples are facing but not many people are discussing. My Partner's Sexual History In this episode we talk...

When it comes to relationships, one thing we don't talk about enough is healing after divorce. It's a subject people tend to shy away from, and understandably so because there are no cookie-cutter answers. Every story and situation of divorce is so different and unique. But at the end of the day, just like any loss, divorce always includes heartbreak and the need for healing.  There are principles...

Am I toxic? What if I'm the toxic one in the relationship? Because I think the problem is me. That was the unique question that came into the podcast hotline, and I knew I had to answer it right away. Am I toxic? That's a question people don't often ask. It's not common for someone to identify themselves as the person in need of change in the relationship, and I was so grateful for this man's insi...

Is it possible to enjoy singleness, all while really wanting marriage? Today's caller wants to know the answer to that question. How can you strike a balance between enjoying what you're experiencing today in singleness, yet still hold on to the desire for marriage without letting in control your life? Is it possible to enjoy singleness AND want marriage simultaneously? Enjoying Singleness We're t...

There's a lot of controversy these days. From wearing masks, to Covid, to politics, and everything in between. And when there's a lot of controversial topics in life, there tend to be a lot of controversial topics that come up in conversations! What do you do if these topics come up in dating? Should you bring them up, or not? Today's caller wants to know how to handle these conversations and cont...

Are you seriously dating someone or even got engaged during Covid?  Life looks a little different than we expected right now, with wedding ceremonies, showers, and celebrations and parties cancelled or drastically altered to fit social distancing norms. Today, I talk to my friend Emma Mae, who just got engaged during this crazy season. We talk: Wedding Prep During Covid How she knew he was the one...

How do you know you've healed from the past? Welcome to SEASON 5 of the Love + Relationships Podcast!! I'm so excited about this new look, and these brand new episodes! Healed From the Past? We all know the past can be paralyzing. It can wrap it's deadly tentacles around your life and keep you from moving forward. But it doesn't have to. When you deal with the past, you can be freed from the past....

When it comes to dating, should a woman initiate? You guys know what I think about this topic (it-s a non-issue, and it doesn't matter who initiates as long as the relationship is made of give-and-take thereafter), but I decided to ask my friend, Chad Johnson, to give me his male-perspective on the issue in Part 2 of our conversation. Should a Woman Initiate? Let me just warn you, things go down i...

What on earth does a godly man really want in a woman? I mean, do godly men even exist these days?!? Welcome to SEASON 5 of the Love + Relationships Podcast!! I'm so excited about this new look, and these brand new episodes! Today's caller wants to know, what is up with the godly man saying he wants a woman of character, and then chasing after the supermodel woman?? It's a loaded question, friends...

Today's caller wants to know if there's such a thing as good jealousy in a relationship vs. unhealthy jealousy - and if so, how do you know the difference? Welcome to SEASON 5 of the Love + Relationships Podcast!! I'm so excited about this new look, and these brand new episodes! Dealing With Jealousy in a Relationship If you've ever struggled with jealousy in a relationship, then you don't want to...

What if I told you that your identity is one of the number one things that impacts the quality of your relationships? Welcome to SEASON 5 of the Love + Relationships Podcast!! I'm so excited about this new look, and these brand new episodes! Because what you believe about yourself determines the kind of relationship you believe you deserve. But so many things can get in the way of what we believe...

Welcome to SEASON 5 of the Love + Relationships Podcast!! I'm so excited about this new look, and these brand new episodes! The past year of the podcast has brought listeners from all across the country and world, and our very first caller is Terry from Fiji! Terry and his girlfriend are committed to saving sex for marriage, and he wants to know some practical suggestions and tips for physical bou...

We've been taking the last few weeks here at the Love + Relationships Podcast to highlight the TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED EPISODES! Whether you need to re-listen to this episode, or you've never heard it before, I know it will challenge and encourage you as it has for so many others! Coming in at #1 most downloaded episode of all time... How much does physical attraction matter in a relationship?  What...

We're taking the next few weeks here at the Love + Relationships Podcast to highlight the TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED EPISODES! Whether you need to re-listen to this episode, or you've never heard it before, I know it will challenge and encourage you as it has for so many others! Coming in at #2..... There's a lot of casual dating going on these days...and it's starting to get confusing. Is it okay to d...

We're taking the next few weeks here at the Love + Relationships Podcast to highlight the TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED EPISODES! Whether you need to re-listen to this episode, or you've never heard it before, I know it will challenge and encourage you as it has for so many others! Coming in at #3..... What do I do with my raging sex drive while I'm single? I get that question a lot. But the problem is: n...

We're taking the next few weeks here at the Love + Relationships Podcast to highlight the TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED EPISODES! Whether you need to re-listen to this episode, or you've never heard it before, I know it will challenge and encourage you as it has for so many others! Coming in at #4..... [Want to be on the Love + Relationships Podcast?  Email debra@truelovedates.com with your voice memo que...

We're taking the next 5 weeks here at the Love + Relationships Podcast to highlight the TOP 5 MOST DOWNLOADED EPISODES! Whether you need to relisten to this episode, or you've never heard it before, I know it will challenge and encourage you as it has for so many others! Coming in at #5..... How far is too far when it comes to physical touch before marriage? I'm sure you're not shocked to hear tha...