Table & Well Podcast

What do you do when you find yourself embedded in a narcissistic church culture?  Should the leadership be removed altogether or can resteration happen and the leaders continue to lead?  What would it take to change the culture?  Who is at fault when narcissistic leadership emerges?  Listen in to Tennison and Ginelle's in depth conversation around these questions and much more on this episode...

How do we get so caught up and miss what is actually happening right in front of our face?  How do we miss the people who are being hurt, disowned and even excommunicated by the organization that we have given your lives to?  How do we allow narcissism to run rampant in our churches and community?  Mars Hill Church was founded in 1996 by Mark Driscoll, Lief Moi and Mike Gunn, and in 2014 the churc...

 If living Whole-Brained is truly how God created us, why don't we?  Why does it seem so hard to live relationally?  What are we missing, or is this really just a unrealistic utopian dream?  Or does it simply come back full circle to maturity? Tennison and Ginelle conclude their conversation, this series, and this season on the Half Brained Church.  Join the as they unpack how living a Whole-...

If living Whole-Brained is truly how God created us, why don't we?  Why does it seem so hard to live relationally?  What are we missing, or is this really just a unrealistic utopian dream?  Or is it simply, we don't have the relational skills? Tennison and Ginelle continue their conversation about practical skills that, when practiced, will help you live more relationally aware and matur...

If living Whole-Brained is truly how God created us, why don't we?  Why does it seem so hard to live relationally?  What are we missing, or is this really just a unrealistic utopian dream?  Or is it simply, we don't have the relational skills? Join Tennison and Ginelle as they dig into and share practical skills that, when practiced, will help you live more relationally aware and mature....

Whole-Brained relationally mature pastors and leaders are unfortunately, hard to find today.  We, the people, have a very strong propensity to promote people past their maturity level.  We see their gifts and jump at the chance to have them lead us.  But in doing so we tend to sacrifice the importance of relational connections that God designed us to live in. In this episode, Tennison and Ginelle...

Living Whole-Brained is the way that God design us to live from the beginning.  And Jesus modeled this for us.  Everything he did was relational, however He did not forgo knowledge and spiritual disciplines.  Somehow, over time we have swung the pendulum to the completely opposite side.  We forgo the true relational aspects that we were created to live and thrive in and functionally live in the kn...

This disease of narcissism is devastating to everyone it touches.  What do we do when we see, feel or experience narcissism in our community.  How do we protect our communities from narcissism?  Can it be eradicated? Join Tennison and Ginelle  as they discuss the ways to protect your community from the disease of narcissism, the importance of a mature community, and the formula needed to eradicate...

Enemy Mode:  We have all heard this phrase.  This is what happens when you are trying to win or feel that everyone is against you.  Most of us have ventured into this territory.  However, did you know that there are 2 types of enemy mode, Simple and Peditory.  Join Tennison & Ginelle as they discuss and dissect these two very different ways to operate in enemy mode, the effects of each, and wh...

Self Justification is the go to response when corrected for people who have narcissistic tendencies.  Since they cannot metabolize shame relationally and their need to feel special is driving them, deflection is key.  Self justification can come in many forms, everything from, "You'll never understand in a million years!" to, "How dare you question me!" to " God told...

Join Tennison and Ginelle as they continue to unpack the relational infection known as narcissism.  What are the effects on the people who are under the leadership of a narcissist? This series is an adaptation of the book "The Other Half of Church" by Jim Wilder & Michel Hendricks If you have been impacted by what you have heard in this podcast and would like to support us in our mis...

Would you be able to identify narcissist behavior?  Most people believe that they can.  If so, why are there so many narcissist people leading churches, businesses  and communities?  Believe it or not we actually look for, find,  put in leadership, and hire people with major narcissist tendencies and call them strong leaders and follow them blindly.  All while there is a wake of destruction behind...

How does shame and narcissism intersect?  What happens when people are not taught how to metabolize shame?  Join Tennison and Ginelle as they continue their conversation on the relational infection.  In this episode they will continue to unpack this disease and the motivations behind the actions and motive of the narcissist. This series is an adaptation of the book "The Other Half of Church&q...

Narcissism: The relational infection.  Narcissism may not be what you think is actually very easy to overlook and encourage. Sometimes it is hard to recognize until it is too late.  The church, in its current structure, is the perfect breeding ground for narcissism to grow, thrive and return if the relational connection of its people is not strong.  Join Tennison and Ginelle as they begin to unpac...

Healthy correction is an important factor in character development and shame is an important part of healthy correction.  We have talked about the differences between healthy shame and toxic shame and how each of them can be and have been used and how God has designed shame to be used and felt. In this episode Tennison and Ginelle finish their conversation on healthy correction by taking a good lo...

Tennison and Ginelle continue their conversation on healthy correction.  In this episode they discuss a topic that is rarely ever talked about in a positive light. It's avoided, and has been used to abuse and manipulate, but used correctly, is actually very powerful and needed for healthy correction.  Shame!  Shame is an emotion that God has hardwired into in our brain, so we must learn how t...

Correction is a word that carries a negative feeling whenever you hear otr think about it. Correction is necessary to shape and mold character.  However if it is not done in a healthy way, it will cause more hurt, and division in your relationships.  Join Tennison and Ginelle and they begin to unpack what healthy correction looks like and why it is so important.  This series is an adaptation of th...

Join Tennison and Ginelle as they continue the conversation on healthy group identity, who forms its, what it is, and how it is formed.  Today's episode will focus on the how of healthy group Identity.  It starts with group identity statement that say, "We are a people that....." As these statement are created and walked out by they elders in the group, the rest of the group sees an...

Join Tennison and Ginelle as they continue the conversation on healthy group identity, who forms its, what it is, and how it is formed.  Today's episode will focus on the how of healthy group Identity.  It starts with group identity statement that say, "We are a people that....." As these statement are created and walked out by they elders in the group, the rest of the group sees an...

Healthy group identity is something that is very important to having a strong community and something that is not normally talked about.  Join Tennison and Ginelle as they begin the conversation about healthy group identity, who forms its, what it is, and how it is formed. This series is an adaptation of the book "The Other Half of Church" by Jim Wilder & Michel Hendricks If you have...

Join Tennison and Ginelle as they discuss some very easy ways that churches and community build their group identity around very toxic and potential destructive things.  These usually start as a "great way to minister" to a group of people, but if gone unchecked you can begin to identity yourself as your malfunction, (who we are when we are not acting like ourselves).  When this happens...

Forming a healthy and strong group identity is not easy.  We need a strong group identity to remind us who we are and how it is for us to act.  A lot of the time the group identity that is formed in both churches and communities is a very shallow one.  Shallow group identity do not bring lasting transformation.  They don't remind us of who we are or how it is for us to act They are very dange...

Join us as we continue our conversation on Group Identity.  What if Jesus was constantly creating Identity statement for His followers to grab ahold to?  What if the Sermon on Mount was one big identity statement?  How would that change how we read it? Tennison and Ginelle will discus these questions and more in this episode. This series is an adaptation of the book "The Other Half of Church&...

Join Tennison and Ginelle as they continue their conversation on Group Identity.  In every relational interaction we have, we  are always asking two questions; Who are we, and How is it like my people to act?  The answers to these question come from the group of people you belong to, and your relational experiences with those people.  These actions, responses, expressions, happen pre-consciously,...

Join us as Tennison an Ginelle continue the series, The Half Brained Church: How the Church Has Lost it's Ever-Loving Mind.  This episode begins a new topic on the journey of whole brained christianity; Group Identity.   What is it?  Why is it so important? How is it formed? Did Jesus create a Group Identity? What happens when Group Identity is shallow or toxic?  These questions and more will...