Strawberry Letter

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been worrying about my marriage and how my past actions may threaten it. A few months ago, my friends and I went on a guy’s trip. We always go on trips together and the wives get together and take trips too. While I was on the trip, I ate good and drank a lot. We went clubbing and since I love to dance, I was salsa dancing with the ladies and may have been a little t...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I met the love of my life.  This beautiful woman was so perfect I could not believe she was still single. Well after dating her for six months I figured out exactly why she is not married. She has a bizarre nasty habit. It all started to go downhill when I took her around my friends for the first time. We went to a house party and had a good time eating and drinking. The ne...

Dear Steve and Shirley, thirteen years ago I became friends with a newly-married, young couple at church. They have two children and they are good God-fearing people with large hearts. The only problem is that they are not book smart and the wife is lacking in the common sense department too. They both speak terribly and their subject and verb agreement is always off. Their spelling is even worse....

Dear Steve and Shirley, I recently started a new position as an assistant to the office manager. On my first day at work, I noticed that everyone in the office was looking at me and whispering. I thought that they were just checking me out because I was the new girl. Silly me! When my new boss got in, I went and greeted him. Everyone was still looking at me but now they were laughing. And then it...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 27 year old married woman with a two year old son that won’t stop cussing. Recently, whenever he gets frustrated or upset, he starts cussing. If he falls down and hurts himself, he cusses. If I tell him no, he cusses! I assumed he was hearing these cuss words from my husband, because I don’t cuss in front of him, so he is not hearing it from me. My husband swore to m...

Dear Steve and Shirley, my husband and I have been together for ten years and he has the biggest heart. His empathy towards his fellow man is what made me fall in love with him. However, his big heart has been a big problem lately. He does community outreach for struggling adults and last year he met a guy that was trying to get his life back on track, so my husband helped this man get a job and a...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been married to my husband for 8 years and we have a 5 year old and a 2 year old daughter. My husband has 5 other kids, not including the two we have together. Yes, I know that is a lot of kids, however, I want to try for another baby next year. I am 32 and he is 40 and he says he is too old to have more kids. I don’t have a son and would like to try for a son. I alw...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 60 year old man and I have been married for 16 years. My wife is 13 years younger than I am and we don't see eye to eye on a serious issue. In the beginning our sex life was great but over the years we simmered down a bit. A year ago I went through a very serious health issue and during that time our sex life suffered. I made a full recovery and when I was ready for...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a 33 year old single woman and my best friend is a 32 year old wild woman. She works as a bartender and she uses her job to as a way to hit on guys and most of them are in their mid-twenties. She also has sex with these guys. She says that guys our age can't keep up with her so she sticks with the twenty-somethings because they are great in bed. I try not to judge her,...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 70 year old woman with raging hormones like a 30 year old. I love making love to a man that knows what he is doing between the sheets. I met this man about a year ago from an online dating site. After 5 months of talking on the phone, we decided to get together. Now I’ve always thought of love-making as an art and if you are not an artist, I am not looking for a pain...

Dear Steve and Shirley, let’s get right to it. Here's my dilemma… I’m a 38 year old woman and I've never wanted to have children. Five years ago, I was in a great relationship and we were talking about getting married, but he wanted children and I did not. So we mutually decided to end our relationship. We could not deny that we were still in love with each other, so two years after we broke up, w...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a very happily married woman in my early 50s and I have an issue with my husband’s long-time friend and fraternity brother. My husband’s friend lives in another state for work, but he loves to come visit all his buddies in the city that my husband and I live in. When he comes to town, he would take turns staying at different friends’ houses. His first visit to our new...

Dear Steve and Shirley. I'm a 29 year old married woman. My husband and I have been married for almost three years. We met at work and we fell for each other rather quickly. We also began to have sex early on in our relationship. At first the sex was ok. It was what I needed then, but as time went on our encounters started to be a problem because he could not last long at all. He was getting all o...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been married over 20 years and thought everything was going well in my marriage. My husband and I are in our late 50s and our children are finally grown so we have more time to focus on each other. We are getting along well and our sex life is the best it has been in years. The other day I checked my husband's email to follow up on jobs he is applying for. He knows I...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 34 year old male who is currently dating a female that lives 200 miles from me. We make an effort to meet 3 times a month, mostly on weekends. I do love her, but I have a big problem that will interfere with the progression of our relationship. You see, I deal with multiple girls on the side during the weekdays. The girls come to my place and we keep it strictly sexu...

Dear Steve and Shirley, recently, I've noticed that there are lots of women that think they got it going on and don’t mind bragging on how fine they are. There is nothing that turns me off more than a woman that thinks she is God’s gift to the world. You know who I am talking about, the ones that walk around like their ish doesn’t stink. I was married to a gorgeous sister and the best thing about...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 27 year old college graduate and I recently moved back in with my mother to save some money and get my own place. My parents were high school sweethearts but they never got married. For over 30 years, they’ve been hooking up whenever they were single. They go on dates, vacations and they attend family gatherings, but they refuse to get married. I’ve asked my dad why...

Dear Steve and Shirley I met a gentleman seven months ago. I'm 45 and he's 37 when we met he lived 3 hours away so he decided to move to my area. It's been four months now since we've been in the same city and I'm starting to see issues with him. He didn't have a plan in place when he moved to my city and now he's living in a shelter because I told him he cannot live with me. He doesn't have a car...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I recently found out that my 17 year old son had sex for the first time. He's entering his senior year in high school and his girlfriend graduated last year. I overheard my son telling his friend about the whole thing and I was devastated. But there is another level to this story. I read my son’s texts and found out that his girlfriend’s mother knew about them having sex an...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been married for the past 5 years to a very controlling man. He worked offshore so he was gone from the home a lot and I was not allowed to work, so I was left home with nothing to do. I started getting more involved in the church and one evening after a stewardship meeting, I met a handsome man in the parking lot of the church. He was in town visiting his mother and h...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a single 46 year old, 6 foot tall black woman. I became single about 4 years ago and until recently, I’ve been enjoying dating and meeting new guys. I don’t look my age and I attract a lot of men that are in their twenties. With heels on, I’m taller than a lot of the guys I date, but they don’t seem to mind. I dated a few of the younger guys but mostly men my age, and...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am 29 year old newly engaged mother of 2. My fiancé is smart, loving, caring and crazy, just how I like it. The problem is he doesn't care for himself at all. He has a great job but he doesn’t have to dress up for work, so he puts little to no effort in his daily appearance. I am not sure how I overlooked this when we were dating, but now it’s getting on my nerves. He wal...

Dear Steve and Shirley as Nephew Tommy would say buckle up and hold on tight. There is no easy way to explain my situation. I am a 28 year old married woman. I married my high school sweetheart and we have six kids, but I'm not sure who my kid's father is. Here's why. Ten years ago I lost my parents in a bad accident and living without them was unbearable for me. I started drinking partying and ha...

Dear Steve and Shirley, my best friend and were really close for 10 years. We were more like sisters and we told each other all of our secrets. Last year, she played cupid between me and one of her male friends. The guy and I have been together since then and we are very happy. I never let my new relationship affect my friendship with her. Everything was great between my best friend and I until a...

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 40 year old mother of an eighteen year old son and I need your opinion. We have a computer in our den and recently, I came home from work early and my son was acting weird. He had grabbed a pillow from the couch and he was clutching it, trying to hide himself. It was a very awkward moment. I knew what was going on, but I asked if he was okay. He said he was fine and...