Stop Sabotaging Your Success

Cindy Esliger addresses failure and our fear of it in this episode. Failure isn’t pleasant and we try to avoid it, but it’s necessary for learning and progress. Cindy unpacks all the ways in which avoiding failure over the fear of being embarrassed or called out holds us back from our own success. “Failure is life’s greatest teacher,” Cindy tells us. We dislike the negative feedback that can sprin...

Cindy Esliger addresses doing the things we want to do in this episode. She asks why we’ve been putting off those goals, dreams, or plans we have for ourselves. Perhaps it’s a promotion or a new position that we desire. It’s time to stop thinking and make the change.  Everyone has things they put off for another time. It’s not just you. But why are we putting things off and when will we do them? C...

This episode, Cindy Esliger addresses knowing your value and negotiating for the compensation you deserve. Women are more likely to be offered less than men and are discouraged from placing much emphasis on money. But Cindy has advice on how to change that mindset and navigate negotiations. Cindy identifies five reasons for negotiating job offers. 1) Nobody is doing you a favor by hiring you, 2) Y...

Cindy Esliger guides us through what it is that triggers our frustration. She reveals the surprising fact that what someone says or does may not be the thing that actually sets us off and gives advice on how to dig deep to identify our true triggers.  Cindy identifies how things that trigger us are often rooted in a desire for control that’s been denied us, deeper wounds beneath that, and feelings...

Cindy Esliger tackles the understanding that our thoughts form our belief system, therefore it’s the thoughts we cling to as indisputable facts about ourselves that are truly holding us back. She dissects how to start questioning and changing these thoughts. Cindy says that “a belief is just a thought you keep on thinking” and many of our victim mentality inclinations and limiting beliefs come fro...

Cindy Esliger addresses the sensitive subject of gender equality in today’s episode. Getting a seat at the proverbial table in the workplace is part of the battle but it isn’t the end goal, it’s just the beginning. Cindy lays out what’s at stake and how to reframe our thinking.  Cindy directly acknowledges that women are still more frequently undervalued in workplaces and their contributions more...

Today Cindy Esliger talks about all or nothing thinking and the pursuit of perfection. There is a give and take in life where some things must be good enough to allow us time to achieve perfection elsewhere.  Perfectionism stems from fear of not being good enough and the need to be perfect in all things actually gets in the way of success. Cindy highlights how perfectionist tendencies contribute t...

Cindy Esliger focuses our attention on the mindset shift required to reach our goals. We set big goals but lose steam before we make it happen, so Cindy has steps and strategies to help with focusing ourselves on what needs to be done every day.   When you think about your future goals, are you overwhelmed by the problems of today? Can you clearly see why you want your imagined future? Cindy offer...

Limiting beliefs and achieving hard things is the topic of today’s podcast. Cindy Esliger explores how the discomfort of doing hard things causes us to limit our belief in our own abilities. She has advice for how to approach difficulties with the mindset that we can overcome them. Doing hard things challenges us in ways that cause us to grow. The more we accomplish the hard things, the stronger w...

Cindy Esliger addresses decision making in today’s episode. She breaks down our tendency to avoid making hard decisions with strategic advice on overcoming our mental blocks about not knowing what we want.   Our belief that decisions are right or wrong creates a lot of pressure for us to make the right ones. Cindy acknowledges that this is part of why we prefer to sit in indecision rather than be...

Cindy Esliger examines silence in this episode: the times when silence can work in your favor versus the times when silence comes at a cost. She has advice on how to use silence effectively and how to overcome the impulse to retreat into it when speaking up would be beneficial. Cindy details how silence is most useful when employed in conversations, where it makes the other person feel genuinely h...

Cindy Esliger focuses our attention on leaving the past behind us and looking forward to who we are becoming. She addresses how worry and our own limiting beliefs can derail our ability to make better choices for ourselves. Cindy explores the reasons why we allow ourselves to dwell in the past. We embrace criticism and fix our attention on worst case scenarios. We keep ourselves in a comfort zone...

Cindy Esliger explores imposter syndrome in this episode - that persistent fear that people will somehow find out we don’t know what we’re doing. We all have it. Cindy breaks down exactly what it is, the common symptoms, and then lays out strategies to help us overcome that self doubt. Cindy defines imposter syndrome as a psychological pattern in which we doubt our skills, intelligence, or compete...

This episode is about finding our people and the community we as humans so vitally need. Cindy Esliger talks about the key ingredient required for all relationships, why we are hardwired to belong, and explores the types of people we each need around us. “​​Connecting with people can be challenging, but your people are out there.” Cindy acknowledges that we carry a lot of fear with us due to past...

Cindy Esliger addresses the subject of fear in today’s episode. She acknowledges that fear is natural and something everyone feels, and she discusses how to move forward past the fears that may be holding us back. She has real insight about how to handle fear and how to learn to manage doubt. Cindy first offers four tips for embracing your fear. One, get on with it. Two, show some compassion. Thre...

Cindy Esliger addresses how to examine your career in terms of opportunities and advancement. She has sound advice on how to make yourself more competitive so you can take responsibility for your own career. It’s time to learn how to expand your skill set and work your interpersonal strengths to overcome professional setbacks.  Cindy names three main career roadblocks that can stall any career. De...

Cindy Esliger talks about the reasons why we undervalue ourselves at work and the toll that takes on our careers. She acknowledges that women have a harder time getting their work noticed and taken seriously. She offers sound advice on how to change our mindset about what we have to offer and on learning to self promote. Cindy shares from her own past experience in feeling uncomfortable with speak...

Cindy Esliger addresses how we all share responsibility for how we are treated and why worrying about the opinions of others is wasted energy. She acknowledges the struggles and obstacles women face that are different to those of men, and has thoughtful advice for everyone on how to manage people’s perceptions. Cindy understands that the social capital necessary for career advancement is often bas...

Cindy Esliger discusses the subject of boundaries, both personal and professional, in this episode. She introduces the idea that boundaries are not limiting but are instead about managing the finite resources of our energy and time. We create more success for ourselves when we are able to set limits to the demands placed on us.  Boundaries can include caring for our personal space, comfort, work e...

Cindy Esliger addresses differences and how differences are what make us stand out from the crowd. When we try too hard to fit in and hide our quirks and flaws, we may end up undermining ourselves. Cindy encourages everyone to embrace the difference and avoid trying too hard to contort into a box or please people at the expense of our authentic selves. Some of the differences she notes in the work...

Cindy Esliger directly addresses the myth about the workplace being a meritocracy in this episode. Specifically for women, the key to achieving promotions, raises, and accolades is not simply working harder with longer hours. The workplace is not like school with reward through smarts and effort, and Cindy details exactly what women need to understand to get ahead. Cindy explains how the corporate...

In this episode, Cindy Esliger explores the art of negotiation and how so much of our daily lives involves negotiation, sometimes before we even realize it’s happening. She explains essential truths about negotiation and relationships as well as how to approach such exchanges with confidence. Cindy points out that most negotiations occur between people with whom we already have an ongoing relation...

In this episode, Cindy Esliger addresses the thinking and fear holding us back from achieving the extraordinary success we want in life. She breaks down what we fear and how it impacts our belief in ourselves and our ability to dream big. Then she shines light on what steps can help us overcome these barriers. Cindy points out that none of us truly know our limits so when we downsize our dreams an...

In this episode, Cindy Esliger discusses how to let go of the emotional reactions we tie to our expectations of other people. She introduces four tips on how to stop trying to control others and details how letting go of that control will free us from expending energy on emotional reactions to the choices of others.  Cindy’s four key pieces of advice on letting go of control are deceptively simple...

Cindy Esliger addresses our desire to change by examining the power that thought holds in relation to changes we want to make. Thought patterns are powerful feeling generators that in turn drive our actions, so it’s vital to understand how thought creation works in order to achieve lasting change and success. Cindy details how our thoughts create our feelings. So when we change our thoughts we cha...