Stop Sabotaging Your Success

Cindy Esliger looks at exploring our curiosities and experimenting with what interests us to find our passion. Instead of pushing our inner voice down to quiet it, she encourages us to listen to it. To pursue our hunches and instincts to find the things that will resonate with us. We are often told to follow our passion but passion isn’t something we start out with, passion is what comes through e...

Cindy Esliger addresses having an intentional path and not leaving our futures to chance. What has to change in order to make what we want to have happen possible? Cindy leads us into exploration on how our stories are still being written, and how we can control the writing. The question “what would have to change for me to be completely fulfilled” is posed early on in Cindy’s talk. The answer ill...

Cindy Esliger talks about how facts and emotions intertwine. How we feel about a situation affects how we perceive the facts of that situation. Cindy wants us to understand how awareness and acceptance of where we are will affect our perception.  The saying “it is what it is” bothers Cindy because it feels as though we are being told to simply accept the way things are instead of thinking they cou...

Cindy Esliger addresses the subconscious need to obtain permission to move forward on our goals. We are socialized from youth to seek permission from someone in charge. But now that we’re adults, are we letting that hold us back from making choices that benefit us?   We don’t actually need anyone’s permission to make the pieces of our work and lives fit well together. Job constraints may not be as...

Overcoming adversity is what Cindy Esliger addresses today. How we handle feelings of doubt and fear when we come up against obstacles is a necessary part of growth. Challenge is part of our roadmap to success so Cindy walks us through how to cope with adversity.  We are more or less hardwired to avoid adversity. Our brains, programmed for survival, try to steer us away from adversity to help us s...

Cindy Esliger asks us to look at who we are becoming by reflecting on how far we’ve come. Who are we really when our facades and defenses are down? When we can answer that, Cindy says, we can look ahead and make the right choices about who we are becoming.  We are defined by the choices we’ve made so Cindy walks us through exploring what those choices have been. Our choices should be in alignment...

Cindy Esliger talks about second guessing ourselves at work. Are things said to us just annoyances to dismiss or are they things to take seriously? Or are we beginning to think everything is a sign? Cindy wants to address how making career decisions out of fear leaves us susceptible to gaslighting.  What’s said to us is often neutral but we interpret the words with our own emotions based on past e...

Cindy Esliger examines what we need in order to move out of toxic workplaces and into spaces that do not crush our souls. There are options besides simply suffering for a paycheque and part of the power to move forward already resides within us.   Perhaps the toxicity is due to failures you’ve been part of in your work, perhaps it’s a poisonous boss or unsupportive atmosphere. We stay put, Cindy s...

Cindy Esliger talks about connection in this episode. She focuses on the ways in which people assess our communication styles for likeability and competence. Connection and charisma become very important tools that Cindy shares advice on cultivating.  Likeability depends on how well we connect with other people and the easiest way to do so is through honesty and sincerity. Cindy’s advice encompass...

Cindy Esliger addresses workplace resilience in this episode. How do we manage our own behaviors more effectively so stress doesn’t take over? Cindy has advice for developing a resilience mindset, one that won’t allow negative thoughts to derail our work.  The definition of resilience is the ability of something to bounce back to its original form after pressure or stress is applied to it. That’s...

Cindy Esliger talks about letting go of the fixation on how you’ll achieve goals and instead focussing simply on the next step in this episode. Requiring a full roadmap before embracing a new idea often stops us from stepping outside our comfort zone. Cindy has advice on how to break free of the fixation on how. New projects and goals are unknowable paths and that lack of linear foresight can make...

Cindy Esliger examines the inescapable nature of fear and how confronting and transforming it is the only way forward. Everyone feels fear, but successful people simply refuse to let it prevent them from doing what they want to do. So Cindy unpacks some ways to start managing our fear.  Fear is essentially our body’s way of signaling that we’re venturing outside our comfort zone. It alerts us to p...

Cindy Esliger talks about transformation and empowerment in this episode. She refers to the inner wisdom we all possess that already knows what to do if we’re only willing to tap into it. Are we ready to start playing big to work at living up to our full potential?  Cindy shares from her own career journey and struggles; detailing how she never did find the mentor she desired, forcing her to rely...

Cindy Esliger examines the disconnect between the increasing expectations of leaders and the lower levels of engagement in the workforce. Work is becoming less meaningful because leaders feel pressure to deliver more and there are fewer people to do that work. What part of this equation can we change so we can create the career we want? The continuing trend of trying to do more with less was meant...

Cindy Esliger addresses the need to gain emotional distance from what others are going through and project onto us. We need to learn not to take things personally. Most things are not about us and Cindy has advice on how to obtain the calm needed to keep things in perspective. People all tend to live in their own worlds, wrapped up in whatever they’re going through. When they lash out or project t...

Cindy Esliger talks about our vision for our future in today’s episode. What is it that we want to do and where do we see ourselves? She has some sage advice on how not to let worry and disbelief get in our way when reaching for our futures. We tend to get weighed down by the practical questions of ‘how’ when we envision our future and that realistic concern keeps us from truly dreaming. But what...

In today’s episode Cindy Esliger talks about that feeling of job dissatisfaction, the slump, that often comes in the middle of our careers. She identifies why the initial excitement of the job fades and offers up advice on how to regain our original enthusiasm.  There are many reasons for mundanity to settle into our job routine: that day in, day out feeling that pushes us towards unhappiness, str...

Cindy Esliger addresses the stories we share and the stories we tell ourselves in this episode. Sometimes these stories become rigidly fixed in our minds when they’re actually only our perspective on things. Cindy shares how to take another view of our stories and open ourselves to more perspectives. When a story we’re holding onto doesn’t serve to help us grow or open us to new options, it’s time...

Cindy Esliger asks “Are you giving away your power?” at the start of this episode. The question sets the tone for addressing the ways in which we allow control of our lives and careers to be held by someone else. She then guides us through the steps to reclaiming our power. The impact external factors have on our lives is only as great as we are willing to allow. We give our power away to the opin...

Cindy Esliger examines complaining that doesn’t strive for solutions in this episode. Those people who whine and complain about how things are but resist solutions are the people holding us back. Cindy talks about how to look for possibilities instead of complaints. We all need to vent and get things off our chest from time to time, that’s healthy. But when we complain repeatedly about the same th...

In this episode Cindy Esliger talks about the blame game. We want to know why things go wrong and we like distancing ourselves from the problem, which often leads to blame. Cindy gets into how this causes issues and how to break the finger-pointing habit. We lean into a tendency to talk in circles around a problem, passing the buck and assigning blame, when really we should know how to take respon...

Cindy Esliger speaks to the reality of office politics in this episode. Women with high levels of political skill are more likely to achieve career progression in male dominated organizations. The workplace is not based on merit, so Cindy imparts advice on how to find savvy tactics that work for you. It is possible to participate in the game of influence with integrity and it’s important to learn...

Cindy Esliger discusses the art of persuasion in today’s episode. Everything is a negotiation and well refined social skills are a necessity for advancement. Persuasion is a key psychological component of life. In order to persuade someone, Cindy details the three key characteristics related to persuasiveness: authority, honesty, and likeability. Confidence, eye contact, and honesty are all import...

Cindy Esliger introduces the power of persuasion and influence in this episode. Cindy describes how honing good communication skills and learning to listen well will aid in gaining greater influence over someone else’s thinking. There are eight common barriers we face in successfully influencing people. Cindy lists all eight and breaks down why each is ineffective. She suggests that with new ideas...

Cindy Esliger addresses the glorification of busy in this episode. She asks us all to stop bragging about how busy we are. Focusing on spending our time thoughtfully, and achieving balance in our lives with more personal time, will lead to being happier and healthier. There has been a steady glamorizing of being busy; we love to tell each other how busy we are. Cindy says “being busy is a disease”...