Stop Parenting & Start Coaching

Giannis Antetokounmpo (say that 5 times fast!), the all star forward and one time MVP of the National Basketball Association's Milwaukee Bucks is currently experiencing painful playoff adversity in more ways than one. At publishing time of this episode (April 29, 2024) he is hobbled by a late season injury that has kept him out of the series with the Indiana Pacers which has also contributed to th...

Moms/Dads--Halt...Stop. If you have not listened to Episode 41 on The 3 R's of Productivity , please throw it into Reverse and go listen to it first. And then... dial in to today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast where we do a semi-simulated coaching session of a fictitious (and totally plausible) Parental Unit who is proudly wearing The Badge of Busyness! Enjoy! -------...

Moms/Dads--we know you're soooooper BUSY! And we know you're often proud of it--haha! We get it and applaud your never ending efforts to excel and doing your best to help your teen athlete or performer excel! Bravo! Question: Should we proudly display the Badge of Busyness ? We're not saying it's a t errible thing, but...and this is a big but...is there anything we can do as high performing parent...

We're weighing costs and benefits and outcomes today on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast ! Let's address some very important questions that you as parents need to ask yourselves as you make decisions about support, incentives, and rewards with the intent of raising your teen's performance and creating a great life experience for them. And, as you decide on what type of support you p...

This episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast . is no joke (really)! Happy April 1st everyone! Today we explore a very intriguing question from one of our teen listeners (ha-this isn't just for parents!) who competes as a high school wrestler: Should I or shouldn't I "bracket watch?" What a great question! And what a timely question too as most of the world (even if you don't lik...

Welcome to a fiery episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast where we encourage you, ourselves, and all Parental Units on earth to toss those ever so destructive Blamethrowers into the trash heap! We're not gonna lie--today's subject makes us squirm a little and may make you a bit uncomfy as well! That's why it's soooooo necessary and so important for each of us to address head on. We...

Thank you for joining us as we attempt to counter a crazy delusion that exists in some parental circles on today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast ! This episode is built around an illuminating observation and quote from an NBA veteran and father, Jamal Crawford. Listen in to hear him describe a chronic problem in the AAU youth basketball circuit than can help you grow a...

In today's this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we are going to talk stop signs, ladders and the common "I Don't Know" answer. We dive in first by chatting about those red, octagon-shaped street signs and " The Ladder of Learning !" What is The Ladder of Learning ? You're going to find out (or remember it) in this episode. We all climb it throughout our life and it's imp...

Parents... Ever run into Stubborn Walls in your daily battles with a not so cooperative teen? Ever tried to connect with Stubborn Ones ? Ever been in the proverbial "I'm Right You're Wrong" power struggle with your teen (or anyone else!)? In this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we explore how you can learn to lead with humility in conversations with teens who are not so...

Moms and Dads--Ever feel like you're spinning out of control? How do you stay firmly in orbit in your role as a Parental Unit?! Prepare to launch yourself (sorry for the dad joke) into the nerd zone in this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast . We'll do our very best to land on the following questions (sorry, that was a bad one!): --Why is it critical you UNDERSTAND the grav...

CLICKBAIT WARNING! What do guinea pigs and perpendicular parking have to do with parenting a teenaged athlete or performer?! Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaat?! and... Have you ever parked like a banana? Huuuuuuuuuuuuuuuh?! OK, let's unpeel this banana and straighten up those guinea pigs between the lines or in other words, let's figure out how this one weird little perpendicular parking trick will help you to st...

What in the wide world of sports is "positional intimidation" and how does it effect your teen athlete or performer? And what is "pupification?!" Ok, the second term was created purely in jest but the first term is real and almost every teen will find themself facing it at some point in their playing or performing journey. Perspective and preparation will help them lower the stress and apprehensio...

Last week in Episode #30 of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we explored the "My Coach Hates Me" situation and in today's episode (#31) we stick our hands in the same hornet's nest, but now from a coach's perspective . In fact, speaking on "perspective", our goal is to encourage you as a Most Valuable Parent to entertain the idea of creating a perspective shift in this difficult sit...

"My coach hates me!" Is this a thing? Oh, it's a thing and it's not fun for player or parent (or coach, either). Ouch, this one hurts! "My coach hates me!" is a common refrain from performing teens the world over! So parents, how do we handle this difficult situation? How would you (or do you) deal with this fragile moment that borders on opportunity for learning and a full on train wreck?! We don...

The opening line for today's show was about sunshine but we must tell you it was sooooooo cold in the studio today--downright frigid! But, we warmed up quickly creating this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast for you. We hope you love it and find it useful. What do BHAG's, Pink Floyd, Steve Chandler, qualifying for the Boston Marathon and "moving futures" have to do with yo...

In the high performance coaching pool that we swim in, the phrase "trust the process" is mentioned every 3.8 seconds (ok, maybe an exaggeration there!). But...what if we get stuck on or in our feelings and "trusting the process" is not very attractive in the moment? Motivation is easy uh well, when it's easy! :) But what about when it's not? In today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coa...

Welcome back to The Stop Parenting and Start Coaching Podcast! And a hearty welcome to any new listeners--thanks for being here! In the third and final episode of The TRANSFORMING Stress Series, we hit on an absolutely critical subject! The all important, absolutely necessary process of creating your definition of success (for you and helping your teen athlete or performer to create their own). He...

It's January 1. Do you know where your resolutions are? Hopefully in the garbage! Wait, what? Did we just say that?! Uh, yeah we did. Btw, thanks for joining us for the first episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast in 2024! It's time to bang your pots and pans and light off some fireworks! Happy New Year!! It's also time to: --exercise more often --lose that unwanted weight --re...

Greetings to any new listeners and welcome back to those who've been onboard with us at The Stop Parenting and Start Coaching Podcast! In the second episode of The TRANSFORMING Stress Series, we bring some glass cleaner and wipe the egocentrism off our parental eyeglasses! This one is all about seeing things from your teen's perspective . Here is a quick peek at what you'll find inside this episod...

Welcome to the Transforming Stress Series on The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast ! In the first of three empowering episodes, we delve into the crucial topic of stress transformation. You, the Very Important Parent, play a crucial role in modeling leading the way for your teen athlete or performer. Your teen is watching you and how you deal with the big "S" word. Stress . YIKES! And, w...

Thanks for tuning in to this episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast . When a "season" or career ends we often wonder: "so, what's next?" We are so thankful to one of our listeners for asking us to address this common and challenging situation that most if not all parents of athletes and performers face: the inevitable end of your son or daughter's high school career. As both co...

Relax parents, it's not a medical emergency, it's an Emotional Regulation Expedition! That's right, on today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast we're taking a trip to the 'E.R.' ! As a parent of a teen athlete or performer you know emotions are intertwined into your parent/teen world. Emotions show up in your thoughts, conversations, and for sure in your teen's competitio...

Just curious Most Valuable Parents --do you say asterICK or asterISK? Ok, that's not really important, but what IS important is understanding the coaching* we are talking about in today's episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching* Podcast. We are not talking about your typical sport or performance coaching.* Football, voice, lacrosse, dance, etc. Nope, not that! When we tipped off with th...

Welcome to an unofficial "air quote" episode of The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast. We immediately dive into our description and explanation of what it really means to " stop parenting " and " start coaching ! This powerful, mind shifting concept is the pinnacle of our Parenting Success Pyramid . This is where we hop on the Fun Bus--let's gooooooo MVPs (Most Valuable Parents)! Moms an...

Hello high performing parents! Welcome back or welcome to, for new listeners, to The Stop Parenting & Start Coaching Podcast ! In this third episode of a Parenting Skill Series we dive into the last of the 3 E's in our Triple E Toolkit! It's always a good time to ENCOURAGE our teen athletes and performers. Note: If you haven't checked out Episodes 17 (Equip) and 18 (Empower) we think you'll lo...