Stop Overthinking

Do you ever look in the mirror and have strong dislike for something you see? This episode is some of my personal journey with thoughts about my body and how thought work and life coaching helped me move from body hate and shame to acceptance and healing. Work with me: www.coachwithkristen.com Follow me: https://www.facebook.com/coachwithkristen https://www.instagram.com/kristen.odegaard.coaching/

The human experience is more than just being happy... it's feeling Good AND Bad. It’s easy to believe the either/or mentality.  It’s this or that.  Good or Bad--  especially with feelings many are led to think there are ways we should feel and feelings that are bad or not as worthwhile.  However, all feelings have a purpose and “just wanting to be happy” simply isn't is not feasible and wi...

Personal boundaries essentially protect your physical and emotional space, and help keep you safe.  Boundaries are healthy when you take responsibility for your own actions and wellbeing, and refrain from taking responsibility for the actions or wellbeing of other people. At this point, you may not know what your boundaries are or what they should be.  In that case, it’s hard to even recognize wha...

It’s hard to know where kindness ends and people pleasing beings… especially if you’ve never known differently. People Pleasing is all about seeking validation and acceptance. It happens when we are trying to make other people feel good about us and like us and approve of us -- at our own expense. And it's a very hard habit to break or change because of how we evolved as humans and how we have...

Decision Doubt can happen in two ways-- agonizing before making a decision or after it's already made. It's pretty common since our brain likes to offer us alternatives. Additionally, for people pleasers and perfectionists add the layers of attempting to manage others' emotions and thinking there is a "right" answer. Listen in to learn about how crowd sourcing opinions and lo...

Women often tell me how they lack confidence and doubt themselves. Listen as I describe self confidence as your ability to believe in yourself without any evidence or history of the thing that you want to do, and how to manage your mind and emotions to build your self confidence.

Perfectionistic tendencies frequently develop from the desire to feel loved and accepted… and the fear of not belonging. This may be subconscious, deeply rooted, and even passed down from one generation to the next. Perfectionism and overachieving may keep you small, or afraid of being seen, or chronically disappointed. Listen in to learn what some of the most common traits of perfectionists and h...

Much of what we think and say are thoughts and stories --not the neutral circumstances. Listen in as I talk about how we discern the difference between actual circumstances (facts) in our lives, and the stories that we tell ourselves about them. When you start looking at events, what people say, how people act more neutrally- your brain has the opportunity to calm down.  You gain authority and som...

We have it so mixed up with feelings.  So many of us are taught, "They make me…" and we blame others for how we feel. We don’t ever really learn how to identify feelings.   We think people are wrong to feel certain ways in certain situations. We don’t know what to do with the feelings we do have. We categorize half of our emotions as "bad" even though they are part of the norma...

Do you feel like you are being pulled in so many directions there isn't time for what you want and need?  Do you feel unfocused and scattered? This is a pretty typical experience unfortunately, especially for busy, working women.  The good news is you don't have to continue this pattern.   In this episode I share a process for you to audit how you spend your time and energy, both in...

It's a common thought about other people, situations, or even yourself. Underneath the unfairness of how it's supposed to be are thoughts about how you think it should be. The problem is the word "should" has the power to tear down people, relationships and dreams. Thinking that something SHOULD be a certain way is setting you up for frustration, disappointment, judgement, maybe...

"Just because you think it doesn't mean that it's true."   Thoughts are sentences in our mind- but that doesn't make them true or helpful or the only thing that is possible.  Listen in as I talk about how I came to discover mindset coaching and the power of thoughtwork. This one concept that literally changed my life and is foundational with my coaching practice.