Stop Over-drinking and Start Living

Happy 'Love' month! I like to focus on self-love this month. I don't think anyone needs advice on how to love their friends and family more.. I think we could take a tiny fraction of the energy we spend loving others and focus it on ourselves. THAT IS NOT SELFISH. We have been programmed to believe that doing anything other than acts of service for other people is self-ish, especially as women. So...

In this week's episode I dive into the shame we carry about having issues with alcohol.   In the podcast I remind you that 1 - there is nothing wrong with you. You have a human brain that is literally wired to get addicted. And #2 our society has programmed us to associate alcohol problems to be the 'person in the gutter.' And the truth is, MORE people have drinking problems that we will ever...

Join me for a workshop that helps you evaluate the full month and decide what you want to do with alcohol as you start a new month. We discussed and reviewed the 6 tools I teach to help you stop over-drinking. We evaluated our wins, misses, and made commitments to ourselves on what we would do differently next time, whether you are still on a break from alcohol or not. I would recommend listening...

I recognize that being like me might seem ‘impossible’ to you.   It might also seem impossible to you that your  life could look like mine, full of big adventures, travel, successful business, amazing relationships, good health and alcohol free.   I want you to know that I get it.   Before I quit drinking and found life changing tools to help shift my perspective on what is pos...

This episode is a rewind from an excellent discussion I had with certified stop drinking coach for men, Patrick Fox. Join my colleague, Patrick Fox, the stop drinking coach for men, and I as we dive into how you can be more successful during Dry January or at anytime you are exploring your relationship with alcohol. We covered: How to handle partners/friends who still drink How to treat yourself w...

This episode is the Dry January Class I taught live last week. I taught coaching 6 tools to help you be successful this month whether you are doing Dry January or just have goals to cut back. #1 Intentional vs Unintentional #2 Prepare #3 Urges #4 Play it Through #5 Fix your Mindset #6 Evaluate Grab a journal and get ready to take notes, you don’t want to miss! Check out the retreat and coaching pa...

Happy 2024! What kinds of things do you make preparations for? Vacations?  Like, do you look at the weather to where you are going and make sure you have clothes and shoes you want to wear? Do you research some top attractions, check out some restaurants or hikes or tours and make plans? What about your work?  If you have a project due at a certain time, are you thinking about everything...

I'm so excited for Dry January and I cannot wait to support women who are taking on the challenge. In this podcast I explain how I can support you in doing Dry January. I tell you about the 2 FREE classes I am holding during the month. One in the beginning of the month to help set you up for success. One at the end of the month to help you decide what to do when Dry January is over. I also explain...

 In this episode of Stop Over-Drinking and Start Living , I welcome back my client Amy to share an update on her journey with alcohol and her experience inside my coaching programs and sober retreat. Amy first joined me through Alive AF! and later participated in my Sober Cancun Retreat and private coaching. In this conversation, she shares what it really took to stay committed to changing he...

Last week, I described implicit peer pressure (internal thoughts/feelings you have when you are trying to cut back or not drink and everyone around you is drinking but not necessarily outwardly 'pressuring' you to drink). This week, I discuss GOOD implicit and Explicit Peer Pressure. This is putting yourself in groups of like-minded people to help support your goals of drinking less or places like...

The topic of peer pressure has come up a lot lately, probably since we are full in the holiday season. This episode, I define the difference between Implicit pressure and Explicit pressure. Most of us experience Implicit pressure the majority of the time. This is the peer pressure where it’s more an internal pressure about fitting or or being left out. Explicit is the obvious, spoken words of some...

But I want to know if you are lying to yourself, others, and/or me. Listen, we all lie. It's part of the human condition. BUT, when it comes to changing personal habits you don't like (like over-drinking)...... you must commit to telling the truth. So cliche, but the old adage is true ... ' the truth shall set you free.' Tune into this week's episode and hear how to know if you are lying to yourse...

This episode gives you permission to not feel obligated to do all the things around the holidays that you normally do 'just because it's family' or otherwise. I discuss how you have free will and autonomy as an adult to decide if you do things or not. You don't have to do anything you don't want to do. And yes, some people won't like it and it's ok. If you do decide to do it even though you don't...

I know what it’s like to be stuck and over-drinking and not believing in myself and feeling overwhelmed and anxious and often resentful AND using alcohol for all the good times, too. I know what it’s like on the other side of that, and it’s worth every single penny, no matter how many hours it takes, all the uncomfortable urges you have to work through, and learning how to fail and keep going.. IT...

Oh boy, are you in for a treat today!? I am sharing behind the scenes what's been happening with us on the parenting front. We had a big breakthrough last week and realized that our main focus on parenting was a bit 'off.' And we made a shift, and now our entire family is notably more engaged and happier. I also realized I was people-pleasing around my kids. I was relying on them to be happy and t...

This episode is a class I taught this week. I covered WHY we over-drink. It's because you've trained your brain to DESIRE alcohol with repetitive drinking in response to your feelings. AND, we continue to over-drink because of our primitive motivational triad, avoid pain, seek pleasure, and conserve energy, in addition, we have our conditioning and culture at play. During the masterclass, we discu...

Are you being proactive in drinking less, or is your relationship with alcohol more REACTIVE to how your day is going or how you feel? This episode is EXCELLENT to learn about the benefits of being proactive to maintain an alcohol-free life or someone who doesn't over-drink. I share a lot of my own personal journey in this episode, and you don't want to miss it. Also, real tools you can use today...

Please join me in welcoming Kristi Coulter to the Stop Over-Drinking and Start Living podcast. Kristi Coulter is the author of the memoirs NOTHING GOOD CAN COME FROM THIS and EXIT INTERVIEW: THE LIFE AND DEATH OF MY AMBITIOUS CAREER. Her writing has appeared in New York Magazine, the Paris Review, Elle, Glamour, and many other publications. She is a former Washington State Book Award finalist and...

Have you ever wondered what kind of results you could get if you did more? Or maybe you have noticed lately you are sort of half-ass doing the work to stop over-drinking. Well, this episode is for you! This episode will light you up to consider GOING ALL THE WAY and do what it takes to repair your relationship with alcohol. In this episode I share about a workshop I attended last weekend called Fi...

When we decide to pursue any goal, we need to get good at failing. Any goal or project we pursue comes with setbacks, unexpected events, and a whole slew of obstacles. But, somehow, we forget about that in the pursuit to stop over-drinking. Failure is a part of the process. But many of you are scared to fail, and that fear holds you back from pursuing what you want. The thing about the fear of fai...

Oh boy.. parenting!!! Parenting is no f'ng joke. It's the hardest thing I have ever done, even harder than stopping over-drinking. It's relentless, exhausting, overwhelming, and filled with guilt. You are constantly judging yourself and worried about your kids' future. And then you get these tiny little nuggets of good times, and it will fill you for a while, and then when you feel like you can't...

This week is a great episode, as I just came back from a getaway! I share my experience of not over-eating on a recent vacation and how you can have an even better time on vacation or weekends without over-drinking and overeating. It's all about being intentional and focusing on how you want to feel. Do not miss this episode; even if you don't have travel plans coming up, it will help you with wee...

One of my amazing clients shared that she turned to her journal when she was having some chatter instead of pouring wine. She wrote it would have been easier but not BETTER. And I couldn't agree more. We are programmed for easy. But easy isn't better for most things. Our society wants now, fast, and cheap, and if we don't get things now fast and cheap, we don't like it. But the growth that needs t...

This week, I am joined by Certified Recovery Coach Colleen Kachmann. Colleen and I share some of our stories on how we ended up as non-drinkers and the work we did to get us there. It was a casual conversation that will help open you up about your own relationship with alcohol and what might be or what might NOT be working for you. We discussed: -How to listen to your body when it comes to alcohol...

We are scared of missing out. So much so that we go to great extents to NOT feel like we are missing out. But what if we SHOULD feel like we are missing out? When you listen to this episode, it will change the way you think about it. And you won't be afraid to miss out on those extra drinks, pieces of cake, or extra social situations you really don't want to go to! Allowing yourself to feel the mi...