Still Choosing US

Send us Fan Mail Sometimes we say "I'm fine" when we're anything but fine. In this episode of Still Choosing Us, we're talking about the conversations couples avoid—the things we're afraid to say because we don't want to start an argument, hurt our spouse, create tension, or feel rejected. But what happens when we keep those feelings bottled up? Resentment. Emoti...

Send us Fan Mail Are You Fighting Your Spouse—or Your Emotions? Episode Description Have you ever finished an argument with your spouse and thought, “Wait… what were we even fighting about?” We have. In this episode, we get real about emotional regulation in marriage —because sometimes the argument isn't really about the laundry room, the unanswered text, the picnic, or whatever started the c...

Send us Fan Mail What happens when one little word— “my” —starts creating distance in a marriage? When Omar and Yami first built a life together, Yami already had a home, furniture, children, responsibilities, and a life she had worked hard to create. Without realizing the impact, she kept saying my house, my furniture, my money, my stuff. For Yami, those words represented security and protection....

Send us Fan Mail  Trust isn't usually broken in a single moment, and it's rarely rebuilt by a single apology. In this deeply personal episode, Omar and Yami share one of the most painful chapters of their marriage—when Omar left for a month after an argument and the emotional impact it had for years afterward. Drawing from Dr. John Gottman's research, they explore how trust is built...

Send us Fan Mail Is love enough to make a marriage last? In this episode, we challenge one of the biggest relationship myths—that love alone can overcome every obstacle. Drawing from our own 18-year marriage, we share why trust, respect, communication, emotional maturity, friendship, and commitment are the real foundations of a thriving relationship. If you've ever wondered why love sometimes...

When the Honeymoon Is Over explores what really happens after the excitement of a new relationship fades. Omar and Yami share their own 18-year marriage journey, explaining why the end of the honeymoon phase isn't the end of love—it's the beginning of building something deeper. They discuss common mistakes couples make, how to navigate changing expectations, and practical ways to keep pu...

In this episode of Still Choosing Us , Omar and Yami share a recent disagreement that highlights how easily communication can break down in marriage. They discuss common patterns such as criticism, defensiveness, stonewalling, and contempt, while exploring practical ways to improve connection through listening, understanding, and repairing conflict more quickly. The episode reminds couples that he...

 Why does "I'm fine," "Do whatever you want," or "We need to talk" so often lead to misunderstandings? In this episode, Omar and Yami dive into the hidden meanings behind everyday phrases that create conflict in marriage. Through personal stories, humor, and honest conversation, they explore how assumptions, past experiences, and unspoken emotions shape communica...

In Part 2 of our Money Conflict conversation, Omar shares his side of the story—how growing up in poverty shaped his relationship with money, spending, security, and identity. We unpack how financial fights in marriage are rarely about the dollars themselves, but the fears underneath them: not feeling safe, not feeling trusted, or not feeling enough. This episode is a raw, honest conversation abou...

In this deeply honest episode of Still Choosing Us , we open up about one of the biggest sources of tension in marriage: money. But what we’ve learned after years of ups and downs is this—most fights about money aren’t really about money at all. Yami shares her story of growing up with financial stability, structure, and control—and how those beliefs shaped her expectations in marriage. When life...

 In this episode of Still Choosing Us , we talk about emotional disconnection in marriage — how it happens slowly through stress, parenting, responsibility, and missed moments, not because love disappears. We share part of our own story and simple ways couples can begin reconnecting again through small daily choices that help you turn back toward each other. 

In this episode of Still Choosing Us , we share a real argument that happened just hours before recording — and honestly, it started over something small. A simple comment about a picnic turned into frustration, silence, and hurt feelings. But when we slowed down and talked through what actually happened, we realized the argument wasn’t about the picnic at all. It was about expectations, assumptio...

 In this episode of Still Choosing Us , Omar and Yami talk about the turning point in their marriage when their relationship shifted from dependence to intentional partnership. They share how unmet expectations, fear, identity struggles, and outside pressures shaped their early years—and how personal growth, faith, and self-awareness helped them move from needing each other to choosing each other...

 In this first episode of Still Choosing Us , Omar and Yami share the real story behind their 18-year marriage—one shaped by a blended family, financial struggles, communication challenges, trauma, faith, and seasons when they weren’t sure they would make it. Instead of offering perfect answers, they open the door to honest conversations about what it means to stay committed through hard moments a...