Still Becoming

Can you genuinely care about someone… and still not be ready for the kind of love they’re trying to build with you? In this episode, we’re talking about the difference between love and readiness, the trap of falling in love with potential, and why choosing yourself sometimes means accepting people for where they consistently are—not where you hope they’ll be. If you’ve ever struggled to let go of...

In this episode of Still Becoming, we’re talking about the uncomfortable reality that having standards will absolutely cost you some people… but settling costs you yourself. Sometimes we stay connected to situations that require us to shrink, overextend, ignore red flags, or betray our own needs just to keep the connection alive. But peace, clarity, consistency, and alignment matter too. This epis...

Some connections feel intense… but intensity and compatibility are not the same thing. In this episode, we’re talking about the difference between chemistry, consistency, and real alignment — and why some of the strongest attractions can also bring the most confusion. Because sometimes what feels deep… is really just emotional inconsistency dressed up as connection.

If you’ve been on social media lately, you’ve probably seen it… men vs women, back and forth. But after a while, I had to ask myself… what are we really arguing about? In this episode, I’m breaking down why I don’t think this is a men vs women issue at all… and what’s actually underneath a lot of these conversations. Because wanting something different… and choosing from the same place… will have...

In this episode of Still Becoming, we’re talking about something that doesn’t get said enough… What do you do when nothing is technically wrong… but it still doesn’t feel right? So many of us stay in situations, relationships, and patterns not because they’re good… but because they’re “not that bad.” We wait for something to fall apart so we can justify choosing ourselves. But what if you don’t ne...

Lately… I’ve just been feeling exhausted. Not physically… but the kind of tired that comes from dealing with inconsistent low effort. In this episode, I’m talking about what it looks like to stop trying to figure it out… and start moving differently. If you’re in that in-between—tired of carrying connections alone—this one’s for you.

If you’ve ever found yourself confused in a relationship… constantly trying to figure someone out… this episode is for you. Because the truth is, a lot of the confusion we experience isn’t really a mystery. It’s just a lack of three things: consistency, clarity, and communication. In this episode, I’m breaking down what each of those actually looks like in real life — and why their absence creates...

Welcome to Still Becoming. In this short first episode, Tangela shares why she created this podcast and the heart behind the conversations to come. This space is for honest reflection about growth, relationships, patterns, and the lessons life keeps bringing back until we finally learn them. If you’ve ever felt like you’re in the in-between — not who you used to be, but not quite who you’re becomi...