Still Becoming One

Send a text We get asked for good marriage resources daily, yet we struggle to give good healthy recommendations. We discuss how you can evaluate different marriage resources and try to take the good out of some (and talk about a few just to throw away!) Still Becoming One Facebook Instagram Aldrich Ministries

Send a text Is this a sign that the marriage is done? If my spouse lets themselves go, what do I do? Is attraction my responsibility or theirs? Let's look at what attraction is and what you can do if you find yourself stuck thinking that your spouse isn't attractive anymore.  Still Becoming One Facebook Instagram Aldrich Ministries

Send a text Does it feel like you are constantly wrestling against your spouse? Feel like you are always battling each other? Maybe there is another source of attack you need to consider.  Still Becoming One Facebook Instagram Aldrich Ministries

Send a text Parenting is hard, add in any challenges, emotional, developmental, or otherwise, and all of a sudden the task is even harder. What does it mean to take care of each other when parenting in these extra-need situations? How could you support families or couples around you who might be dealing with these challenges? Still Becoming One Facebook Instagram Aldrich Ministries

Send a text Is your marriage on life support? If you have been asking for changes for months or years and you are ready to give up hope - hold on! Before you give up maybe there are ways that you can get your spouses attention and finally work toward the intimacy you desire.  Still Becoming One Facebook Instagram Aldrich Ministries

Send a text Your story matters. What does that even mean? Why is it essential that we get to know our own story? I mean, I lived it; shouldn't I already know my story? These are just a few of the questions we hear when we discuss story work in coaching. Today we will give you the why, and what of story work and a small taste of why we think it is so important. For more information visit our w...

Send a text When was the last time you went away with just your spouse? No matter the answer, that question brings up many thoughts and emotions. Whether it’s uncertainty on how to make this a priority or excitement for the next getaway. Friends, we get it. Getting away is not an easy thing to do, but it is a significant priority to have in your marriage. That sacred time alone makes space for rel...

Send a text "We are so different," "We married so young," "I don't even know myself" These are all statements we hear from individuals and couples who are in desperate places in their marriages. They feel like they have changed so much that they don't even know their spouse anymore. What is happening? Is the 7-year itch a real thing? How can marriages last a...

Send a text Kids are a wonderful challenge in every marriage. We love them dearly, and yet it is hard to juggle what they need and the needs of your marriage too. We often hear from couples who put their marriage on hold because their kids need them.   We believe that kids raised in a marriage-positive home don't feel the lack of time nearly as much as they feel the positive effects of a heal...

Send a text Life transitions in marriage are unique and challenging times for any couple, and yet life throws those transitions at us quite frequently. Getting married, having children, losing a parent, moving, changing jobs, and having kids move out, all of these can be challenging times of transition for any couple.  We share what major life transitions we are making in 2023 and how we are tryin...

Send a text Stumped on how to find that present that will really wow your wife or knock your hubby's socks off? You've searched the wish lists and still haven't found the right thing?  Our Christmas Gift Guide will get your brain thinking in the right direction with lots of practical ideas and a new way of thinking about Christmas Gifts.  We will help you discover that perfect gift...

Send a text It's the most wonderful time of the year! Most of us adore the joy and family time of the Thanksgiving and Christmas seasons, and yet holidays also bring with them some unique challenges. Almost all of the couples that we are coaching will spend some time this month planning and strategizing how they can survive the holiday with extended family. Let's face it; there are joys...

Send a text Marriage might be challenging, but if you pay attention to the dashboard lights, it can be the paradise you have always dreamed of. What are your dashboard lights? Well, for us, they are the things that tell us we need to pay attention in our marriage BEFORE something goes wrong. What is your marriage "low pressure" gauge? In this episode, we talk about what sends off alarms...

Send a text We all have those days when the flu or corona finally hits, and we feel lousy. When sickness hits your marriage, how does it impact you? Is the man cold a real thing in your home? How you care for each other in these times might vary differently from your normal. Join Kate and Brad as they talk about how they have navigated their needs and stories to lean on each other in times of sick...

Send a text The idea of having a date night while married is never as romantic as it seems. The whole process of trying to battle each other's calendars to find the time, going through the process of finding a babysitter, and getting ready is enough to send anyone running. Let alone the battle to actually try to agree on what to do or where you are going to eat! You are exhausted before you e...

Send a text In a follow-up to the Growing Emotional Intimacy episode, we tackle an important question from a listener. You asked, and we are tackling it. “How do I learn to figure out my emotions if that isn’t something I have done before? I look at the chart and am still confused.”  You are not alone. For many people, identifying their emotions is not easy. God created us to all have emotions tha...

Send a text We all know Gary Chapman's wonderful book The Five Love Languages. It has been helping marriages for more than 25 years. We discuss three "advanced" ways to think about your spouse's love language and use these tools to really grow together. If you want to avoid conflict, or even if you are in the midst of it, these "Love Languages 200 level!" ideas might...

Send a text What makes you the best spouse? If you are about to be married or you've been married for years, we all dream of having the best spouse possible. So what is that? What would make you the best spouse? How can you become an excellent spouse? In this episode, we talk about several ways that we can work toward becoming the spouse that we all want. We don't just give the easy answ...

Send a text Marriage betrayal, or betrayal trauma is when a spouse with whom you have built trust significantly violates that trust. There can be multiple ways this happens, but the one we discuss in today's episode is sexual mistrust and betrayal. We share the three stages of trauma and give some of the steps toward healing that need to happen in order to navigate this very difficult journey...

Send a text There is one word in the English language that has done more damage to marriages than any other. Divorce. Not in the obvious way, but when it is spoken as a weapon. When it is thrown out in the middle of a fight to get the other person's attention. Many couples have had this issue and struggle to rebuild and prevent the D word from eroding the foundation of the marriage. In this e...

Send a text Every couple wrestles with fighting about their feelings. Sometimes we through them as weapons. Other times our feelings really need to be acknowledged, and they are ignored. What is true? What are just our feelings? How do we even understand all of that jumble of internal things and try to communicate about them?  Our emotions are important, but they don't always tell us the trut...

Send a text Everyone says that their marriage is important, that their spouse is a priority. But is it really? There will always be things that want to climb up your ladder of priorities and take the spot that your marriage should take. Whether it is work, kids, extracurricular activities, friends or even your church-keeping these things in their rightful place is so important and a constant balan...

Send a text The local church should be a place where marriages can learn, grow and even seek help when they are struggling. Yet most churches struggle to make marriages a priority. There are good reasons and dynamics that have created this. As one of the few churches with a Marriage Pastor, we talk about what that position can be. But we don't end there, we give some practical ideas that even...

Send a text The betrayal of unfaithfulness tears at the fabric of a marriage and leads every couple to ask, "is it possible to save my marriage?" There are no easy answers to this important question. In fact when people spout the easy answer they are most likely negating the hurt and pain that the betrayed spouse is experiencing. In this episode we will try to give you real answers that...

Send a text We can't wait! The beach is calling, and the mountains sound wonderful! We are just starting to get away and WHAM! Here comes the vacation arguments! Why does this happen every single year? Vacations have a way of bringing up some challenging arguments even while we are dreaming that the exact opposite will happen.  This week we give you some clues to why the vacation arguments ha...