Stella's Lived Experiences ❤️‍🩹

In this episode, I explore generational abuse through a trauma-informed lens, not as isolated incidents, but as a family system shaped by unresolved patterns of control, anxiety, and emotional insecurity. I reflect on growing up in an environment where emotional safety was limited, where rest and disagreement were not easily available, and where my role as a child gradually became managing the emo...

🎙️ Stella’s Lived Experiences | Episode: 19 Breaking the Lineage In this episode, I share my lived experience of growing up in a control-based family system, migrating abroad, navigating emotional and financial pressure, and ultimately choosing no-contact as an act of survival. This is not a story about blaming parents or seeking sympathy. It’s about understanding coercive control, parentification...

Experience, when used wisely, is a gift. Used recklessly, it can blur boundaries. The art of social work is not simply about having lived experience, but learning how to translate it into practice responsibly, ethically, and compassionately. At its heart, social work is about humanity. And humanity is not found in textbooks or manuals; it is found in stories, scars, resilience, and the countless w...

Welcome to my podcast, Stella's Lived Experiences; a space where small talk finds its way into big truths and deep conversations unfold like stories we’ve been waiting to hear. I’m your host, Stella Bordoloi—an author, social worker, creative stylist, a raw storyteller, and someone who believes that lived experience is more powerful than polished theory. My memoir, Phoenix of the Northeast, is wri...

"Take a breath. Feel your feet on the ground, the weight of your own body reminding you that you are here, alive, and yours. Outside, the world will always have something to say about who you should be, how you should live, and who you should love. But in this moment, all that matters is the choice you make for yourself. I didn’t arrive here overnight. I’ve stood in rooms where my voice was ignore...

They told me I had to be sharp to survive. That softness was weakness. But they never saw the wars I fought, the kind where you win - not by breaking others, but by refusing to break yourself. This is Chapter 10: Softness is My Sword. It is a story about the courage it takes to stay gentle in a world that tells you to harden. About the quiet resilience that doesn’t roar but still stands unshaken....

Welcome back to Phoenix of the Northeast: The Audio Memoir. I’m Stella Bordoloi — and you’re listening to Chapter 9: The Power I Took Back. This chapter is about the moment everything shifted. The moment I stopped making excuses for harm. The moment I stopped mistaking manipulation for love. Here, I name what so many women are conditioned to normalize — Partners who dim our light, betray our trust...

Welcome back to the Phoenix of the Northeast podcast — a memoir in motion, a sanctuary of truth, and a space where no part of us is hidden anymore. Today, we arrive at Chapter 8 — I Am Not Your Secret. This chapter is a door slammed shut. A mirror turned inward. A moment where I stopped accepting half-love, half-truths, and half-presence. Because let me say it plain: I am not something to be tucke...

Welcome back to the “Phoenix of the Northeast” podcast, where survival isn’t the end of the story — it’s the beginning of sovereignty. This is Chapter 7: Becoming Fire, Not Fuel. This is the part where I stopped trying to be digestible. Where I stopped letting other people throw their matches at me — hoping I’d burn for their warmth. You see, for so long, I was taught to be the fuel. To bend, to a...

Hi, I’m Stella Bordoloi—originally from the lush, culture-rich city of Guwahati in Assam, North East India, and born in Shillong, Meghalaya. Now based in sunny North Queensland, Australia. My journey is rooted in healing, truth-telling, and reclaiming power through lived experience. Outside of work, I’m a big believer in rest, beauty, and self-expression. I love curating cozy spaces with candles a...

Stella Bordoloi is a storyteller, survivor, and soul-led creative originally from Northeast India and now based in North Queensland, Australia. With a background in social work and a voice shaped by resilience, Stella uses storytelling to bridge personal healing with collective empowerment. Her work speaks to those who’ve lived through silence, survived emotional storms, and are now rising—fierce,...

Welcome to Phoenix of the Northeast, a memoir podcast by Stella Bordoloi — a story of reclamation, resilience, and rising from the ashes. In today’s chapter, titled “The Ghosts I No Longer Carry,” we enter the quiet after the storm — the sacred space where healing begins not by forgetting, but by finally putting down what was never ours to hold. These are the ghosts of childhood, of shame, of gene...

What happens when the love you were given came wrapped in fear, silence, and shame? In this searing chapter, Stella Bordoloi unpacks the blurred lines between love and survival in families where obedience is mistaken for care, and endurance is mistaken for loyalty. This is not a story of heartbreak—this is a story of awakening. Of realizing that what was labeled love was often just control. That w...

In this raw and unfiltered chapter, I revisit the rooms that raised me — not in comfort, but in quiet chaos. This episode explores how love can be conditional, how silence can be violent, and how a child learns to survive in a space that never felt safe. A home is meant to be a sanctuary, but what happens when it's the very place you learn fear?

"Alchemy of the Abandoned" — where discarded pieces of the past are transmuted into sacred power. This is the art of turning pain into gold, and loneliness into liberation. ✨🖤🔥 #PhoenixAlchemy #SacredTransformation #AbandonedNoMore

"Alchemy of the Abandoned" — where discarded pieces of the past are transmuted into sacred power. This is the art of turning pain into gold, and loneliness into liberation. ✨🖤🔥 #PhoenixAlchemy #SacredTransformation #AbandonedNoMore

The first brave little step... I hope this chapter ignites and sparks a little fire in your heart ❤️

Welcome to Chapter 1 of my Memoir. Let it speak to you gently in ways that warm your heart.

This episode speaks about embarking on a new podcast journey and what the future episodes are going to be about. Just a brief introduction and explanation of the intention behind it. Thanks for listening! 🎶 Lots of love.