Stable Moments Podcast

Heal Yourself Heal the World Course: https://stablemoments.com/heal Many children who have experienced foster care, adoption, abuse, neglect, or developmental trauma carry complicated relationships with their memories. Some memories are painful. Others are joyful but feel confusing because they are connected to people or places that others have labeled as "bad." As caring adults, mentors, foster p...

What if mentorship isn’t about getting it right… but about staying responsive? In this episode of the Stable Moments Podcast, we explore what it really means to be trauma responsive in mentorship and why flexibility, curiosity, and connection matter more than perfect planning. Many mentors feel pressure to create the “perfect” session, but children who have experienced foster care, adoption, abuse...

Worried about saying the wrong thing to a child who has experienced trauma? You’re not alone. One of the biggest reasons people hesitate to become mentors or work with foster and adopted youth is the fear of messing up. But here’s the truth: you don’t have to be perfect to make a difference. In this episode, we talk about the power of repair in trauma-informed mentorship — what it is, why it matte...

Our Stable Moments color-coded activities may look simple on the surface, but they are intentionally designed to build specific life skills in kids who have experienced unstable beginnings. In this episode, I break down one of our most powerful activities: Build a Bridge. This trauma-informed mentorship activity helps foster and adopted youth develop: 🟠 Independence 🔵 Responsibility 🟢 Self-Wort...

Many children who have experienced foster care, adoption, abuse, neglect, or abandonment haven’t had the opportunity to discover who they are or what they’re good at. Instead of exploring interests and strengths, they learned how to survive — often by giving the “right” answer rather than the true one. In this episode, we talk about why developing a sense of self is so important for children with...

Some of the most powerful moments in a Stable Moments session happen between the activities — in the greeting, the transition, and the quiet spaces where connection grows. 💜 In this episode, Rebecca shares 10 simple trauma-informed practices — called Mini Moments — that mentors can use to build trust, support regulation, and strengthen key life skills with kids who have experienced trauma. These...

🎵 Music + Mentorship = Magic 🎵 In this episode, we sit down with Crystal Luk-Worrall, a London-based music therapist and EMDR practitioner, to explore how music can support children in foster care and adoption through trauma-informed mentorship. Crystal shares why music matters, how it helps regulate the body and emotions, and five simple ways mentors can use music to build trust, connection, an...

When I first became a mandated reporter, I thought it was simple: if a child disclosed abuse or neglect, I’d pick up the phone and call it in. But working with kids in foster care taught me that reporting isn’t always black and white. Sometimes disclosures are about survival, longing for home, wanting to leave a placement, or even seeking attention. In this episode of the Stable Moments Podcast, I...

Trauma-informed mentorship isn’t just a trendy phrase—it’s a powerful approach that meets kids from foster care and early adversity with empathy, consistency, and connection. In this episode, we break down what trauma-informed mentorship really means, why it matters for kids who’ve experienced developmental trauma, and how the Stable Moments model is providing a practical framework for healing. We...

How do you respond when a child in foster care says, “Can I live with you?” Or when they lie, steal, or share something deeply personal? In this episode, we’re diving into real-life trauma-informed responses for the “sticky situations” that come up when working with kids who’ve experienced trauma—especially those in foster care. You’ll learn: ✔️ What to say (and what not to say) in tough moments ✔...

At Stable Moments®, we make a bold claim: we are ending the foster care crisis — one mentor at a time. In this episode, I'm sharing an important presentation about the real roots of the foster care crisis and what it actually takes to end it. While systemic change is necessary, true transformation happens when we invest in the individual child — helping them heal, build self-worth, develop life sk...

Ever wonder why emotional regulation is so hard for kids with developmental trauma? Or how your energy might be the most powerful tool in helping them regulate? In this week’s episode, we’re diving deep into co-regulation—what it is, why it matters, and how mentors and caregivers can show up intentionally for kids who've experienced foster care or early trauma. Here’s a quick glimpse of what we un...

In this episode, we dive into the power of Meaningful Moments Cards—a trauma-informed tool designed to help mentors build trust and foster essential life skills in children, especially those in foster care. 🌟 We explore the six core life skill categories these cards focus on: 💙 Emotional Awareness 💪 Self-Regulation ✅ Responsibility 🌱 Independence ⭐ Self-Worth 🤝 Healthy Relationships Discove...

In this episode, we dive into why your personal healing is the foundation of effective, trauma-informed care. From understanding the ripple effect of your own healing to breaking down barriers that hold you back, this episode will inspire and empower you to do the most important work of all—your own. ✨ What We Cover: What is trauma-informed service and why it matters. How unresolved personal trau...

Welcome to Stable Moments! In today's video, we're diving into essential life skills for young adults transitioning out of foster care. Our mentorship sessions are designed with trauma-informed, color-coded activities, but we understand the unique needs of youth preparing to enter adulthood. 🌟 What You'll Learn: Tailored Activities: Discover age-appropriate life skill activities specifically for...

Explore the complex reasons behind why children with developmental trauma steal and learn effective strategies to address and support their needs. Check out our trauma-informed mentorship model at www.stablemoments.com

In this episode, I'll be delving into the concepts of Big T and little t trauma in the realm of trauma, especially as they pertain to our work with kids in foster care. Join me as we explore how understanding these distinctions can better equip us as mentors to support these children. We'll start by examining the origins of the Big T and little t terminology and how it has evolved over time. Throu...

In this episode we dive into Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACES) and their profound impact on human development. Join as we explore how ACES shape both physical and mental health outcomes throughout an individual's life, particularly in the context of foster care and adoption. In this episode, we uncover the significance of trauma-informed approaches in addressing complex trauma experienced by ch...

In this episode, we dive into the therapeutic power of mentorship for children with complex trauma. Explore 4 transformative ways mentors can heal trauma by showing up, demonstrating genuine interest, navigating relationships, and being positive role models. Discover the magic of mentorship in fostering resilience and healing for kids in need. 🌟 #ChildMentorship #TraumaHealing #MentorshipMagic 🔗...

In this episode we explore why children with complex trauma lie, and the Fact or Fiction activity we can use to support children who lie as a coping mechanism.

In this episode, Joan Ulsher shares how her traumatic childhood led her to be a child advocate and shares her new book Misplaced Childhood empowering others to become child advocates. After foster care, Joan is returned home and subjected to more abuse. How can she be saved? Misplaced Childhood chronicles one woman’s powerful journey to overcome a tragic past and use her “lived experiences” to ins...

Many parents, mentors, and program directors feel the need to fix the foster kids we serve. It’s natural, but we don’t fix here, so I’m going to dive into what we do do, and how we can support everyone while just being in the thick of it.

On this week's episode we dive into some sticky situations submitted by Stable Moments locations. Many people ask "how does the approach look in action?" Here are some practical trauma-informed responses listeners can use when they are faced with sticky situations.

Up to 70% of children in #fostercare have #fetalalcoholspetrumdisorder, which is a condition caused by exposure to alcohol in the womb and can lead to physical, behavioral, and cognitive impairments. FASD is often underdiagnosed and many children with #FASD may be classified under other diagnoses such as #ADHD or developmental delay. On this month's Episode Laura Hernandez informs us of the impact...

In this episode I break down how to build objectivity and open mindedness so you can show up more for those you serve, whether it be children in foster care, their parents, your volunteers or just people in general.