Split Resilience: Putting Kids in the Middle of Divorce

Think adult kids are immune to divorce? Think again. In this episode, researcher Joleen Greenwood unpacks the hidden impact of gray divorce on adult children and what helps families move through it with more honesty, boundaries, and care.

In this conversation, I sit down with Dr. Irwin Sandler, co-creator of the New Beginnings Program: a decades-long, research-backed intervention proven to strengthen parenting, reduce conflict, and support children’s mental health after divorce. Irwin and I walk through how the program began, what the early randomized trials revealed, and why the six- and fifteen-year results still feel astonishing...

What happens when you take one of childhood’s most invisible wounds, growing up through your parents’ divorce, and turn it into purpose? In this powerful episode, I sit down with Joey Pontarelli, founder of Restored and author of It’s Not Your Fault , to unpack the emotional, spiritual, and practical realities of life after family breakdown. Joey shares his own story of pain, healing, and redempti...

In this episode of Split Resilience , host Tammy Sutherns sits down with Laramie Gorbett of SAFE Alliance to talk about hope, healing, and community. Laramie shares her journey of working with survivors of gender-based violence and explains how SAFE Alliance has been a lifeline for families in Austin for over 50 years. They also dive into Touch-a-Truck , SAFE’s signature family event where kids ge...

In this deeply honest and insightful episode of Split Resilience , I sit down with Steven Spears, a family therapist with both personal and professional experience navigating divorce and childhood trauma. Together, we explore what children really need during separation, how to protect them from high-conflict dynamics, and why resilience isn’t about being “tough”—it’s about feeling safe and seen. S...

In this powerful episode, I sit down with identical twins, licensed mediators, and boundary powerhouses Jan and Jillian Yuhas, co-founders of Divorce Family Mediations . With their signature blend of insight, strategy, and empathy, they break down the nuanced (and often misunderstood) concept of coercive control in co-parenting relationships—and what it really takes to protect children through div...

This conversation delves into the complexities of coercive control, psychological abuse, and the journey of healing for survivors. The speaker shares personal experiences that intertwine with their professional advocacy work, emphasizing the importance of recognizing signs of abuse, the impact of trauma on parenting, and the development of a protective parenting program. The discussion also highli...

Keywords: divorce, parenting, relationships, counseling, trauma, communication, co-parenting, family dynamics, emotional health, child safety Summary: This conversation delves into the complexities of relationships, particularly during times of transition such as divorce. We discuss the importance of maintaining healthy communication, understanding the impact of trauma on relationships, and the ne...