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You are always changing. Everything is always changing. Nothing is static – ever! This notion can be frightening or totally empowering. That’s up to you.  Grab my FREE Mental Fitness Cross-Training Grid Join my new OWN YOUR POWER community for women Build Mental Fitness in 90 Days with my go-to Happy Packs Check out the Mental Fitness Collective pro page Don’t be shy! Connect with me – hello@carab...

There is a vitality, a life force, an energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all of time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and it will be lost. The world will not have it. – Martha Graham Grab my FREE Mental Fitness Cross-Training Grid Join my new OWN YOUR POWER community f...

I am just getting started as 58 years old. I feel it in my bones. I feel it in my heart. I’m so ready. I’m ready to step up and use my voice, use my energy, share my purpose in a way that fulfills me and fulfills my destiny. And I want to support you in doing this as well—if you’re feeling it. Grab my FREE Mental Fitness Cross-Training Grid Join my new OWN YOUR POWER community for women Build Ment...

The invisibility factor is real and it needs to change. In this Whisper, I share my story. I was a woman in her fifties (and not a tech investor). I was neither interesting nor sought after. It was a strange to walk through crowds and not be seen. The experience opened my eyes to what many of us “older” women feel. Grab my FREE Mental Fitness Cross-Training Grid Join my new OWN YOUR POWER communit...

Don’t die wondering if you left it all on the field. Don’t die wondering if you gave it all you got. Don’t die wondering if you truly “seized the day.” Don’t die wondering what it feels like to be fully alive. Today we talk about owning your power and the questions to ask to get you there. Grab my FREE Mental Fitness Cross-Training Grid Join my new OWN YOUR POWER community for women Build Mental F...

“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live alon...

Are you living out loud? I ask myself this question a lot. And then I wrestle with the answers. I look at all of the ways I am still holding back, playing small, shutting down, muting my enthusiasm. And I share them with you in these Daily Whispers. What does live out loud mean to you? Let’s find out!  Grab my FREE Mental Fitness Cross-Training Grid Join my new OWN YOUR POWER community for women B...

This process of the good life is not, I am convinced, a life for the faint-hearted. It involves the stretching and growing of becoming more and more of one’s potentialities. It involves the courage to be. It means launching oneself fully into the stream of life. – Carl R. Rogers – American psychologist  Grab my FREE Mental Fitness Cross-Training Grid Join my new OWN YOUR POWER community for women...

The Center of Your Being Always we hope that someone else has the answer,some other place will be better,some other time it will all turn out. This is it. No one else has the answer. No other place will be better. And it has already turned out. At the center of your being you have the answers. And you know what you want. There is no need to run outside for better seeing,nor to peer from the window...

What type of listener are you? Are you an active listener? Do you get distracted easily? Do you really focus on the person speaking? Mindful active listening is a great trait to have but it often takes practice to develop. In today’s Whisper, I review four ways to build the muscle of achieving the status of active listener.  Mentions: Active Listening – 4 ways to become a better communicator Grab...

W.A.I.T. Why am I talking? What kind of communicator are you? Do you speak deliberately and consciously? Or, do you sometimes get distracted and run off in unending stories? In other words, are you precise with your speech or do you unconsciously vomit on people? In this fun Whisper, we continue our investigation of looking at specific behaviors as a way to shed light on to how we are living. Toda...

How do you consume information? It’s a huge question! In this episode we talk about 1) being aware and 2) being more mindful about how/why/when we consume information including: news, social media, emails, texts and more. I’m not in opposition of information. All I am suggesting is to shine your awareness on your patterns. That’s the first step to change. Mentions: The Social Dilemma Center for Hu...

How you tend to your everyday life—cooking, cleaning and prepping—points to how you tend to other areas of your life like self-care, business, commitments, etc. Tending to the simple things in your home, your car, your garage, garden, desktop. These are all behaviors that we can look at. Because they are a reflection of how you’re doing other things. As you do one thing you do all things. Remember...

Do you speed throughout your day scurrying around from one project to the next? In this 5-part mini-series on Whispers, we will be exploring the old sage reminder, “As you do one thing you do all things.” We’ll turn a hyper awareness on everyday human behaviors because —like walking—because they leave clues to how we are living.  Grab my FREE Mental Fitness Cross-Training Grid Join the next round...

In this quick bonus episode, I honor the life of Mr. Fantastic—a special man who read the memo on how to intentionally live life well every day. Enjoy. Grab my FREE Mental Fitness Cross-Training Grid Join the next round of IN THE ARENA – monthly masterminds building community, confidence and consistent mental fitness practices. Now offering the INNER PATH or the IMPACT PATH Step 1 in building ment...

What are your big rocks – the things you value most in life? And, do you prioritize these rocks in your daily schedule? In today’s Whisper, I riff on Stephen Covey’s famous lesson about focusing on the big rocks instead of gravel and pebbles. Mentions: Your Big Rocks with Stephen Covey Grab my FREE Mental Fitness Cross-Training Grid Join my next round of IN THE ARENA – 4-week masterminds for women...

Do you have a swim buddy, an accountability partner? Having someone to check in with on a daily or weekly basis is like having a secret weapon. It can be the nudge you need to raise your game. In today’s Whisper, I encourage you to find a Swim Buddy who is going to hold you accountable to staying consistent in your actions and focused on your goals. Grab my FREE Mental Fitness Cross-Training Grid...

What are you doing daily to stretch yourself? How are you pressing the boundaries of your comfort zone? Challenge. It’s the only way we grow. As a yoga teacher and strength coach, one of my favorite things to do is to hold people right there at the edge where their body is shaking a little bit, when their eyes open wide. It’s there, on the verge, where we get stronger in all aspects of our lives....

Nothing else matters but our state of being. Nothing. And we can’t skip steps. If you want to leave an imprint on this world and share your genius, if you seek to realize your potential, you simply cannot skip this step.  Grab my FREE Mental Fitness Cross-Training Grid Join my next round of IN THE ARENA – 4-week masterminds for women focused on building community, confidence and cross-training for...

You can’t get there without doing this. You can’t be of service to others without being centered and stable first. These are recent words from my meditation teachers. In these uncertain and often chaotic times, we must have consistent daily practices that build stability. Without the capacity to find our center in the storms of life, we will continue to be pulled around involuntarily by the errati...

What if you stopped being so predictable? What if you shook things up? What if you were the opposite of what you usually are? What would happen? This is something I also dared myself to do. This week I’ve been sharing little dares—behaviors to stop doing—just to see what happens. It’s been fun. And it’s about to get interesting! What if you stopped being so predictable? Mentions: Podcast – Spontan...

I came across an article in The Atlantic called, No One Cares. It captured my attention. Caring about what other people think can be debilitating. It’s been so for me. Today’s dare is to experiment with what would happen if you stopped caring about the supposed critics. This isn’t any easy feat but it is one worth trying. In today’s Whisper, I offer a simple practice to give it a go.  The Atlantic...

What are your tendencies to force things to happen? How do you manipulate people or situations in order to make outcomes shift in your favor? This is a cringe-worthy topic. This week I encourage you to look at how you force things to happen with your family, then at work. What else are you forcing events, dinners, appointments, meetings, friendships? And the big practice… what if you stopped? Let’...

Are you a fixer? Is your tendency to always try to make situations better? Do you try to make people behave a certain way so that you’re not uncomfortable or inconvenienced? Ouch! These are tough questions to answer. It’s okay, I was a fixer too. I finally admitted to being addicted to fixing. And when I broke myself of this habit, my life changed. I encourage you to give it a try.  Mentions:Podca...

A few years ago I did my first Silent Retreat. I stopped talking for three days. It blew my mind. I couldn’t believe I had waited 40 plus years to stop talking for a few days. I started applying the idea of “stopping” to different behaviors. I’d ask myself questions. What if I stopped consuming news for three days? What if I stopped worrying about my kids? What if I stopped fixing, forcing, doubti...