SOUL FOOD

Remember when you would pick up the phone, call your friend and not feel bad about it? But today, it feels almost unethical not to message someone before you call.  Has time changed? Are we overthinking?  In this episode, Caroline and I dive into the gray area of the current ethics of messaging or calling inappropriately, who's to blame and how to navigate them. 

We firmly believe that the people around you will define your success or failures!  It is crucial to talk about the kind of relationships we intentionally curate to lessen our hard knocks and pull us out of bad breakups.  In this episode, Keith Tay and I talk about the types of people we need and are we making it easy for people to love us. 

Is there a secret potion I can acquire to be successful in life? Cause I would love to avoid failures! Is there a shortcut?  If only life was that easy... What I've come to learn, is there are rituals we can commit ourselves to, and success will be around the corner!  In this episode, it's so good to have Keith Tay back again, and we dove into a conversation about avoiding shortcuts and...

OH MY! WHY DO I FEEL THIS WAY? Is it disgusting or sinful to feel horny? That's what many would jump to conclusions about but never really converse about why humans have this complex feeling.  In this episode, Caroline and I dive into a conversation about what triggers a person to feel so. With so many questions about this, what we decide to do next is significant! 

Divorce is never fun, period! Especially when we witness a family fall apart.  What can we do? Is there a way out of this pain? Will this happen to me in the future?  In this episode, Caroline and I share the impact it will have on your mental and emotional health. With so many questions to answer, how we choose to respond is crucial to the healing process! 

WHY WILL WHY! Yes, that was my thoughts when I saw what happened. How could Will Smith cross the line?  Was there more than just a slap? Are there consequences that he will face?  Ok, but Chris Rock was wrong, no?  When it comes to a complex situation like this, I just had to get my buddy Bryan Chin into this conversation. In this episode, what we talk about is real and raw, purely...

So you considered yourself a good person, never had any ill intention, especially to your partner. But during arguments, do you find yourself always wanting to win at all costs? Even sleeping on the couch or not talking to each other for a few days?  In this episode, Caroline and I talk about our personal experience and identify some of the ways that might make your significant another feel l...

So you have found someone to love, and now the next big step is to introduce them to your family. "Dad and mom, meet Daniel."  *awkward silence* "I don't think the both of you should date."  Caroline and I have heard so many heartbreaking stories like this, and it is sad to see so many unnecessary heartbreaks.  In this episode, Caroline and I have a conversation on ways to handle this situation wh...

"But we never had sex..." You come home from work or school and can't wait to talk or hang out, sharing in detail about all that has happened with intensity.  It's been happening for a long while now.  There are so many emotions involved that you've got to wonder if this is a relationship, only to find out:  "Hey! we're more than friends, right?"  "Um, no."  So many have b...

OH MY GOODNESS!  Have you watched the series on Netflix yet? It is exciting and twisted!  So many things wrong with it, but we realize; there are so many things to uncover and debunk from the infamous world of Joe Goldberg.  Most of their actions in the series are questionable, but also many lessons to take away and build good lasting relationships.  In this episode, Caroline a...

We just celebrated Deepavali, and it was so good to meet grandma again. "Thank you Jesus for murukus and mutton varuval!"  As we're celebrating, we can't help but remember how some of our Indian friends still face discrimination. It also hurts that not too long ago, an incident happened over an inconsiderate Facebook post.  In this episode, I got into a conversation with my brother and s...

" Hi Pastor, can I date this girl?"  Oh my! it is a weird conversation when someone asks this question, and they might add, "I've prayed, and God told me she's the one!" I love it when people involve God in their planning, but to have a mentality on dating like this: it's misguided!  In this episode, Caroline and I talk about our pre-dating phase and the need for the right mindset when i...

We have explored the understanding of each other's blind spots, and the knowledge of it is to build, not weapons to prove your point or future fights.  So we talked about the importance of celebrating one another. But how do we do it?  In this episode, Caroline and I share what we intentionally recognize and celebrate. Tears were involved, but they're good ones! 

Have you got frustrated with your partner that it has driven you mad!  Well, I do!  Of course, I've driven my wife mad before, and I have to admit: I'm guilty!  In this episode, Caroline and I candidly expose some of the frustrations we have towards one another and the lessons that come from it.  We recognize for any relationship to work, we need to have crucial conversations t...

It's a whole new world with your upgrade from a boyfriend/girlfriend status to husband/wife!  There seem to be a whole new bunch of expectations and directions from our in-laws, and if not communicated, it will lead to a lifetime of struggle, hence the famous title: Monster-In-Law!  But it doesn't have to be that way! You can have a healthy and happy relationship with your in-laws as you...

"So... young man, what is your intention wanting to date my daughter?"  Or, "Hi dear, why do you love my son?"  These questions would be one of the scariest and but also most sacred ever. It comes with intimidating energy but also the protective nature and love of a parent. Yes, it is complex!  But worry not, as we learn in this episode how to tackle and handle this part of the rela...

The future is so hard to understand at times. We can be faith-driven, but the fear of losing out can get unbearable, in fact causing you the possibility of hating yourself and your partner.  It was all for love. You sacrificed your career, part of your dreams, and maybe even the ideal life!  Then as years go by, you ask yourself, is this all worth the sacrifice?  In this episode, we...

We’ve heard too many, “if only we were not far apart, things could work out.“  Or, “I’m sorry, but the distance is killing me!” How many relationships could turn out well, if and only if we were to understand the dynamics and secrets to LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS!  In this episode, we had a conversation with Kevin Loo and Esther, our pastors. A couple We know that has gone through it, m...

We have been taught from a young age to tolerate, and that tolerance is a foundation to peace and harmony. But what if it’s hard to tolerate? And now people are talking about acceptance? When do we learn to apply tolerance? How far should we be accepting?  Rojak Culture is a social enterprise aimed at uniting Malaysians. Their vision is to spark a movement through play, leading to the birth o...

Are you sure? Can we live a life where everything is treated the same for everyone?  Maybe each person or group has different needs, and how can we solve them to achieve an equal outcome?  Are these all even possible?  Rojak Culture is a social enterprise aimed at uniting Malaysians. Their vision is to spark a movement through play, leading to the birth of The Lepak Game.  In t...

Our human mind is so complex and beautiful, capable of astounding ideas, and yet we can’t help but ask our significant other, “how was your ex like?”  “Really? Do you want to talk about it? Is it right to even talk about it?”  Caroline and I believe that this question should not be avoided but discussed healthily. In this episode, we talked about the boundaries needed to avoid making dan...

You saw each other, had a crush and fell in love. But now you realize something. Maybe that person might not be the one for you, and ghosting is not an option!  Is it time to call it quits? Can we call it quits?  How to know if I am making the right decision?  In this episode, Caroline and I talked about the reality of a breakup when it's needed, especially in a toxic relationship!&...

Is there a method or equation that will answer this simple question:  Is she the one? Is he the one?  So many carry the fear of meeting mister wrong. What if I give my all to her and she breaks my heart? Some might even be afraid before, "Hi, how are you?" In this episode, Caroline and I shared our journey on how we discovered we're the one for each other and the secret potion needed for...

We all want to have good mental health. I've noticed a trend where many articles encourage the word "NO" for a pathway of building a healthier self. Maybe that might be the case, but I was worried if this would turn out to be a blanket statement for everything tough we might encounter. In this conversation with my good friend Lynnette Chai, a licensed counselor, she helps us understand the necessi...

Is there a proper way for someone to grieve? Can we ever move on? We know the people around us are thoughtful and loving, but why does it feel like an offense when they encourage us? But that doesn't mean we don't want them around.  In this episode, Caroline shared her experience of losing her mom and how hard it is to manage the wave of emotions. We are grateful for this conversation with ou...