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"‘Just play hard to get.’ ‘If they like you, they’ll change.”Wait, who approved this nonsense!!! We’ve all heard some questionable dating advice, whether from well-meaning aunties, movies, or that one friend who’s somehow always in a toxic situationship and single who gives the ‘best’ dating tips. But what’s the worst of the worst? Why do people keep falling for it? In this episode, get ready...

#100 PEOPLE PLEASER Are you the type to say ‘yes’ just to feel like you belong in a friendship group? It feels like it is so important to get someone’s approval. Being a people pleaser sounds nice until you realize you’re running on empty, bottling up negative emotions, and lowkey resenting everyone… including yourself. In this episode, Caroline and I unpack the people-pleaser dilemma. What’s the...

Is the first kiss a big deal… or just another moment of romance? Some people treat it like a sacred rite of passage, while others..  “It’s just a kiss.” Different individuals and cultures have a different take on this. Some see it as a major milestone, while others think it’s just another greeting. So, does the first kiss really matter? Or is it just the movies making us overthink? In this episode...

In the previous episode, we tackled this very possible messy gray zone! Should you get out of the friend group after a breakup? Or should they? What’s the protocol here? And how do we handle it like the “mature adults”? In this episode, Caroline and I had the privilege to talk with Celine as she recounts and tells the experiences she went through. Buckle up! The stories are a good mix of sweet, so...

#97 When your ex is in the same circle with you So, you broke up with your partner… but does that mean you have to break up with their friends too? Like, hold up.. aren’t they your friends now? If anyone should be doing the unfriending, it’s your ex, not you. Because you’re fabulous and probably the better friend anyway.  Ever been caught in this messy gray zone? Should you get out of the friend g...

#96 TEACH ME SENPAI: HOW I WISH MY PARENTS TALKED TO ME.  Let’s be real… Who hasn’t been in that awkward situation where your parents start nagging before they even hear you out? And yes, maybe we messed up, but wouldn’t it be nice if they just sat down and listened first? In this episode, Caroline and I had an absolute blast chatting with Catherine about her relationship with her mom. We dived in...

Are you exhausted from never finding 'the one'? Maybe it’s time to stop dating losers! I mean, what even makes someone a 'loser'? Is it their habits? Their vibe? Or maybe… it’s us, holding on when we should let go. In this episode, Caroline and I are breaking down the red flags, the green lights, and the questions you NEED to ask yourself. __________________________________________________________...

ARE YOU A DIFFICULT PERSON? or do you find someone you love tough to handle? Oh man, this is a hard pill to swallow when it comes to our self-evaluation and finding out that we are so fixated on what we think is right and hold others victim to our views and opinions. What hurts? When we hear that we are different from the people we love. In this episode, Caroline and I talked about handling the fr...

Is there a RED FLAG that would make you say NO to the most good-looking, perfectly pleasing, well-behaved person? I mean, what dictates the success between two individuals who are in love: Body odor? Wearing sandals? Playing games? In this episode, Caroline and I got sincere with our experience, identifying what should be the actual RED FLAGS and saying YES to the person of your dream without imma...

Is it right or a mature thing to do when you block someone on social media? You find yourself in an unhealthy competition leading to comparisons, drowning in the toxicity of comments, or someone you know using your story against you without understanding the context. Worst, you might be stalked by a stalker! In this episode, Caroline and I talked about how if we are not aware, we might allow our s...

"But I gave her my best! Why is she saying that I don't love her?" Have your heard this before, or maybe you said it yourself? It's frustrating! In this episode, Caroline and I talked about how some couples fall into this argument when all they have to do is learn each other's love language.

"Bro... My girl doesn't let me play games tonight!" Is this phrase familiar to you? Well, I think boyfriends today out there might also tell their partner that gaming night is off! Are games bad? Are games good? So many people rage while they play, is that ok? In this episode, things got open and honest real quick as Caleb Lee and Daren Hee, my 2 favorite top gamers (in my opinion) s...

Do we ever forget the pain from our past relationship?  It's pretty crazy how people can experience a wave of emotions after ending a relationship years back!  In this episode, Caroline and I got a little vulnerable and talked about the danger of not grieving properly after a breakup and how to deal with those feelings today. 

It is sad to hear that someone ends a relationship due to the "feeling" they have about their partner, that they're "just too nice!"  So, is being too nice a weakness?  In this episode, Caroline and I discuss this peculiar behavior and how it affects the health of relationships! 

Do you remember that defining moment in your teens when you realize your friend (that's a girl) isn't your "bro" buddy? There's something magical about high school romance!  In this episode, I had a fun conversation with Derrick and Julian discussing what it's like in the high school dating scene. They were gracious and kind enough to have me share my thoughts about the thrill, the boundaries...

Someone somewhere is looking for love, out of the friend zone and to the endzone.  I remember when magazines were my guide in getting the girl. And oh boy! There were good tips, and some were just blatantly wrong.  In this episode, Caroline and I shared our views of how dangerous it is when we are not intentional about the information we are consuming and what it's like to prepare before...

We live in a world where the possibility of packing up and leaving is attainable. A new job, new relationship, new opportunities!    The grass is always greener on the other side, as many might say. But what is the fine line between quitting and pressing on?  In this episode, Keith Tay and I talk about the reality and beauty of opportunities and the importance of having the right mi...

Frequently I would hear couples talk about how relationships would only work if it's split 50/50. If that's the case, is SACRIFICE necessary?  I tried to find a synonymous, kinder word to describe SACRIFICE.  But no word captures the realness and authenticity when we SACRIFICE for someone we love.  In this episode, Keith Tay and I talk about toxic behaviors and the simple yet forgot...

"Hi, babe!" "sayaaaaang!" "LOVE!"  Does it give you goosebumps when you hear couples call each other like this?  I'm sure you've heard it before and or still doing it, which is fine! But some who have been dating for years might say, "wait till the honeymoon period is over, and you won't be this sweet anymore!"  Do you agree?  In this episode, Caroline and I shared our love lan...

We can't help to wonder; If there are so many BUTS for a relationship to start, will anyone be dating at all?  We agree that it's crucial to find the right person, and please do not jump into a relationship right away cause we only live life once. But come on! She's a 10, but what if there's a better one out there? Or he's a ten, but he lives far away. Caroline and I had a conversation on the...

BOUNDARIES... Ugh!  Carrying a rebel personality, I find this word restrictive. I tried to find synonymous words to replace and bring comfort, but it still limits and confines!  But I learned over the years a borderless relationship invites chaos and confusion very quickly!  This episode was recorded live at SOUL! Caroline and I shared our troubles and stories of how to set a boundary, not as a la...

Some might say, falling in love is the easy part!  There is some truth in it. After a couple of months, you discover another side of each other!  Some beautiful, some ugly, and some left you wondering why you dated that person in the first place!  In this episode, Caroline and I shared how your culture and behavior could break or build your relationship.

I believe that building the future starts today!  But I am also left confused and hurt when I hear someone elder say: "all you young people don't know what you're doing!" or "I've eaten more salt than  you've eaten rice."  I am certain that with the experience of the past and the knowledge of the now collaborate, beautiful things take place!  In this episode, Andy Yeoh and I ta...

Yes! mistakes have been made, and now you are left in this complex situation. Do I forgive? Can I hurt that person back?  They are your best friend. How could they betray you like this?  All of you are in the same community left confused and hurt!  In this episode, Andy Yeoh was honest and raw about his journey as we talked about this sensitive topic. How do we move on? What happens...

The frustration when you check your message, only to find out that person has "seen" the message or blue ticked you!  Is this a new bad habit of the 21st century? We know a couple of relationships that have ended badly.  In this episode, Caroline and I dive into the gray area of the current ethics of messaging and leaving others hanging, who's to blame and how to navigate them.