Somehow Married

How many times are you supposed to say goodbye before you can actually leave someone's house? Is it rude to ignore someone you know at Walmart? And how late is too late before you're officially a terrible person? This week, Jonathan and Amanda are talking about the unwritten social rules that everybody seems to understand but nobody actually explains. From awkward goodbyes and fake invitat...

At some point in adulthood, you realize there are a lot fewer rules than you thought. Jonathan explains why he intentionally peed his pants in college just because he realized nobody could stop him, Amanda shares the haunted-house experience that ended in a porta-potty, and we get into bedroom clutter, dogs, pregnancy, random life goals, scary stories, coyotes in the woods, and Jonathan’s complete...

Apparently, we don’t all call things the same thing. This week we get into the words we grew up using that apparently sound completely ridiculous to everyone else — pallets, toboggans, bubblers, soda, pop, Coke, lightning bugs, and more. Jonathan also gives a report from the deer woods, talks about remodeling the bathroom, explains a very strange deer hunting opportunity on Nantucket, and we compa...

This week, Jonathan and Amanda are figuring out which one of them is worse at everything. Being late. Admitting they’re wrong. Spending money on random stuff. Picking where to eat. Oversharing. Telling stories that take forever. Following instructions. Starting projects and never finishing them. Some answers are obvious. Some are disputed. And some turn into completely different conversations abou...

Jonathan has emotionally retired. Amanda isn’t ready to cancel every outing just yet. This week, we compare the things we’re too old to pretend we like: loud restaurants, crowded festivals, complicated coffee, uncomfortable clothes, and spontaneous plans that apparently require a week’s notice. Also, why can’t a restaurant just serve food on a plate? Along the way, we call Amanda’s dad to settle a...

We don’t really have a topic this week—and somehow that made things even more chaotic. We’re catching up on life after our gestational carrier announcement, including the story of the moment we quietly admitted our newborn son was…not exactly cute yet. 😂 Jonathan also tells the story of opening day of deer season, when a bad decision sent him deep into a massive palmetto flat, out of water, exhau...

We're pregnant… sort of. After months of keeping a pretty big secret, we're finally talking about it. Amanda is pregnant—but she's not pregnant with our baby. She's a gestational carrier , carrying an embryo that is genetically unrelated to her for another couple who has struggled with infertility. In this episode, we tell the whole story: why Amanda wanted to do this, how we wrestled through the...

Having kids is the best thing we ever did… and they also ruined our life. 😂 In this episode, we're talking honestly about the things our kids have changed for the worse—and the things they've made so much better. From eating out and keeping the house clean to family dinners, getting outside, chores, driving, and figuring out who you even are after becoming a parent, we're getting into...

There are some things married couples just understand. 😂 After you've been married for a while, you develop your own language, your own routines, your own inside jokes, and somehow... your own set of rules that nobody else understands. In this episode of Somehow Married, Jonathan and Amanda talk about the weird, funny, and oddly specific things that married couples do that probably make absol...

How well do you really know your spouse? We put each other to the test with questions about marriage, childhood memories, fears, favorite things, future plans, and the things we still don't understand about each other. Somehow, that turns into conversations about hunting, parenting, aliens, conspiracy theories, and Jonathan's questionable plans for a new massage business.

You're going to fight with your spouse. That's just part of marriage. Jonathan and Amanda talk about how they've learned to handle conflict differently after years of marriage. Instead of fighting just to express frustration or prove a point, they talk about fighting with the goal of actually solving the problem and moving the marriage forward. They get into listening without interrupt...

Amanda has a mugshot. That's not a joke. In this episode, Jonathan tells the story of discovering that Amanda had a mugshot from when she was 13—and somehow that turns into a much bigger conversation filled with embarrassing stories, memories, marriage, family, and plenty of rabbit trails. It's another episode of Somehow Married , where Jonathan and Amanda talk about whatever happens to co...

We can't play games together. 😂 We talk video games, marriage, parenting, childhood freedom, technology, food, and what it's like raising kids in a world very different from the one we grew up in. From ridiculous childhood games to discovering that competition may be ruining our marriage, this episode goes everywhere—as usual.

You love your spouse. You know your spouse. And somehow... you're still discovering where all the emotional landmines are. 😂 In this episode, we talk about the things you don't always discover about each other until you're deep into a relationship—insecurities, sensitive subjects, sarcasm, arguments, and learning when a joke is funny versus when it actually hurts. We also talk about h...

Would your spouse remarry if you died? That innocent question somehow turned into a conversation about life insurance, hunting trips, wealthy 80-year-olds, Words With Friends rivalries, and everything in between. This week on Somehow Married , Jonathan and Amanda do what they do best—follow one ridiculous rabbit trail after another while talking about marriage, family, and the everyday conversatio...

One simple question... If you say you don't want any food... are you still allowed to steal bites from your spouse's plate? This week's Marriage Court is officially in session, and Jonathan and Amanda could not disagree more. Along the way, they talk about: Last week's grocery store verdict Whether their listeners should be called "Losers" Amanda's elite Facebook dete...

Are we getting old... or are we just finally growing up? 😂 This week on the Somehow Married Podcast, we talk about the reality of marriage in your 30s—Sunday naps becoming sacred, kids who refuse to let you sleep, staying up late, getting older, and realizing your body isn't quite what it used to be. We also share stories from our trip to Lake Tahoe, debate whether 30 is actually "old,&q...

How well do you really know your spouse? This week we're playing a game that asks one big question: Can our marriage survive these scenarios? From hypothetical situations to everyday marriage frustrations (including Jonathan's ongoing battle with Amanda's Apple Watch), we laugh our way through the questions while discovering what really matters in a relationship. If you enjoy honest co...

Is watching a TV show without your spouse basically cheating? This week, we're settling one of marriage's most ridiculous (and surprisingly serious) debates. We also talk about Amanda falling asleep during every show, Taylor Swift's wedding, Adam Sandler, listener questions, and a handful of rabbit trails that somehow all make sense by the end. If you've ever argued over Netflix, t...

This week, we're talking about something we've both been thinking about lately: Do kids really need us to entertain them all day? We talk about boredom, creativity, Bluey, social media, parenting expectations, and why maybe our parents were onto something after all. Plus, we somehow end up discussing fireworks, video games, holidays, and whether married couples should cuddle all night.

Before we got married, there were a lot of things we assumed were completely normal. Then we compared notes. In this episode, we talk about the family habits, traditions, and everyday routines that seemed perfectly normal growing up—but turned out to be surprisingly uncommon. It's a conversation about marriage, family culture, weird assumptions, and the funny moments that happen when two peopl...

Can two people love each other deeply and still feel unloved? In this episode, we talk about love languages, quality time, personality differences, and one of the biggest misunderstandings we've faced in marriage. For years, we were both trying to show love. The problem was that we weren't showing it in a way the other person could actually receive. We also discuss: • What really counts as...

What actually counts as quality time? In this episode, Jonathan and Amanda discuss one of the most common relationship questions couples ask: what does quality time really look like? Does working out together count? Running errands? Watching a show together? Along the way, they talk about communication, parenting, making friends as adults, apologizing when you're wrong, and the random conversa...

Should your kids see you argue? This week, we discuss healthy conflict in marriage, what children learn from watching their parents, raising sons and daughters differently, apologizing when you're wrong, and why trusting your spouse is one of the most important parenting decisions you'll ever make. Plus: water parks, squirrel hunting, birthday parties, and Jonathan's ongoing battle aga...

This week on Somehow Married, we talk about the lessons, habits, and weird personality traits we picked up from our parents without realizing it. From learning how to handle criticism and conflict, to why Amanda’s parents always had the “house with all the bikes in the driveway,” this episode turns into a funny and surprisingly honest conversation about marriage, parenting, family dynamics, and be...