Sol Movement & Ritual

Our four pillars to wholehearted living are connection, unconditional love, staying present, and healthy boundaries. Without boundaries, the first three are unattainable. Boundaries allow us to create limits for ourselves and others, and give us freedom to experience the first three pillars within the framework of those limits. In this episode, we explore ideas about how to set and hold boundaries...

We’ve all felt it. Routine changes, new starts, sickness, a new baby or a build up of stress in our lives, and the climate in our homes is off, even acidic. Every day seems to be a battle of opposing forces. Our “patience skin” is worn thin. Oftentimes, we get to this place and fight against it. We hold up a shield and try to stop the the impacting waves when often it is in the softening and ridin...

Ideas have the power to change us. While creating this podcast, we have had several ideas and philosophies that we have researched, tested and discovered to be truly transformative for us. They have made our lives better in SO many ways.  In this episode, we have put together some of our very favorite podcast pieces that we have found valuable. We talk about cultivating abundance, enthusiasm and j...

It is exhausting when we feel like we must entertain our children for every moment of their lives. Not only is it draining, but it allows us no time to actually get things done or care for ourselves. Luckily for us, kids instinctively know now to play independently if we give them the space they need to develop this skill. It allows them to be creative, use their imagination, and problem solve. In...

At some points in parenting it feels like our kids are misbehaving so often that we can’t help but just lose it. In this episode we answer some listener questions addressing what to do when our inner fire keeps flaring up and we end up lashing out at our children’s behavior. Sometimes, we learn better, so we do better, but our children are accustomed to the old way of doing things. We address some...

Technology is a wonderful tool, but it makes a poor master. In this episode, Felica talks with Diane Boden from Minimalist Moms Podcast about implementing digital minimalism in our homes. She offers a realistic view of life with screens and kids, embracing the messy middle of life and coexisting with them.  They touch on many concrete tips to make it achievable from independent play to hard conver...

For people who consider themselves to be artists, making time for creativity can feel as important as breathing. However, for the rest of us, we might dismiss the concept of cultivating creativity as something “cute” that only other people have time for. We might feel like creativity is simply an unnecessary luxury that doesn’t mesh with the practical responsibilities of life. Creativity is a key...

Adding a new baby can bring many emotions, for us and especially for siblings are essentially being dethroned! How can we help them through this transition smoothly? In this episode we talked with Hannah and Kelty of the parenting resource Upbringing. Certified in Simplicity Parenting, Positive Discipline and trained in Foundations of the respectful parenting approach, RIE, Hannah & Kelty empo...

Life often seems to be pulsing or pushing;  it has a hum beneath us telling us to go, making us honk in traffic and get mad at the slower person in line. This hum can create anxiety and stress in us and our children, but often, we don’t question it. In this episode, Felica talks with Carl Honore, author of In Praise of Slowness about how we can be free from that constant rushing hum.  Related Epis...

In a few weeks our kids will be home for the summer, and our daily schedules will change drastically. A lot of jokes, angst and dread can surround this time of year. Let’s start as we mean to go on! In this episode, we are sharing some of our favorite tips for designing our summer. We touch on creating and setting boundaries from the start, letting our kids be and resisting screen entertaining.  I...

Do you ever feel parent guilt? We get so many questions from listeners about the torn feeling that comes while trying to balance being a whole person ourselves while still serving our families with love. In this episode, we answer this question as we discuss how we can set boundaries for ourselves, protect our own personal time (shower time, bathroom, etc.) and learn to coexist with more ease with...

The search for simplicity and slow can be overwhelming. As we looked for where to start the prompting to go inside was reoccurring. In this we start with clearing and cleaning up our mind first. How can we free up our minds, create more mental minimalism to live in the present moment, while still accomplishing our goals and managing our lives day to day? Do you have too many big rocks in your jar?...

In an age when materialism is rampant and we are craving simplicity in our lives, the logic of minimalism offers us a beautiful alternative. In this episode, one of our favorite minimalists and authors, helps us move towards minimalism in our lives by giving us some very applicable concrete tips on where to start making shifts in our lives. Related Episodes Essentialism / How to Do Less But Better...

We all have the same 24 hours in a day. And yet, somehow, it often seems like others somehow are doing more, accomplishing more with their time and we are left feeling like failures. We have people who need us, responsibilities to fulfill, and what can seem like an endless to do list that we are never caught up on. This can lead to us chasing after achieving and we end up in a space of burnout and...

Most of us say that happiness is something that we want, and society is all too willing to volunteer a recipe for finding it. If only we had the right size house, in the right neighborhood, with the right job, then we would be happy. In this episode, Jess Klaznick helps us recalculate happiness as she shares her family’s journey to joy. She found that after achieving the recipe that society offere...

In a time when we feel like we need to do more and more, it is easy to become overwhelmed. In this episode, we discuss many tips that we have used as an antidote the the issue of constantly being busy we addressed in the last week’s episode. We offer you tools that help us stay present and take time daily to align our actions with our vision for our life. Related Episodes Finding Motivation to Cla...

When we have a child who is misbehaving, it is easy to see him or her as a “problem child”. We don't want to crush our child, but also don't want to be so loose that our child becomes a tyrant. The paradox is that as we see our children for their worth and raise them in their own power we can begin to feel feelings of frustration, that we aren't listened to or disrespected. This can cause us to sw...

Even though it can FEEL like there is one right way to parent in any situation; in our hearts we know that isn't true. We can feel the parenting advice that aligns with our personality. We can see the change in our child when we are acknowledging them for who they are. Parenting is not a one size fits all for us or our kids.  This week we are distilling concepts from the book The Child Whisperer b...

When most of us think of our experiences with conflict in communication, we feel emotions ranging from mild discomfort to full fledged panic or dread. In this episode,  we explore our approach to conflict with Clair Canfield, a brilliant professor on the subject of communication. He models what he teaches throughout this conversation and he offers us amazing tools to help us improve our relationsh...

Connection is a foundational pillar of our parenting philosophy on Find the Magic along with boundaries, unconditional love and presence; we view connection as the vital, healing salve that can repair wounds and refill our empty buckets. In today's episode, we break down how we can connect with our kids, ourselves, and our spouse.  Filling our own bucket first allows us to connect with others. We...

Dinner can be the most joyful part of our day but often the preparation and pressure of getting something on the table brings stress instead of enjoyment with our family. If you strive to meal plan, make homemade meals and enjoy dinner time tune in! In 2021 we are focusing on being essential, minimizing the extra energy expenditures that cause us friction and burnout. In this episode we have a wid...

Todays episode is our first Magic Moment! A shorter episode with quick wisdom to start your day. Felica shares the feelings of overwhelm, burnout and anxiety she has been experiencing and ways she has found to allow space for these feelings. She dives into what little things she believes may be weighing on us as parents/ mothers specifically and how we can see them more clearly. As we clarify them...

In this rapid fire listener question episode, we address what to do when your kids have playmates who play in ways that you don’t approve of. We also delve into some options you have when your child seems to want to do everything you DON’T want  him or her to do while still maintaining connection. We also share the specific affirmations we do with our children each day. Related Episodes Patience W...

Being reactive and angry in our parenting is a feeling that weighs on many of us. There are times when your child does things that all children do like: expressing uncomfortable emotions, making big messes, wasting food, screaming/shouting LOUDLY, stalling endlessly while getting dressed, leaving the house, or getting ready for bed...and we lose our cool. As we embark on this journey of authentici...

In this episode, we had the honor once again of discussing different aspects of intimacy with the incredible Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife. She uses her extensive knowledge and wisdom about the subject of sexuality to help us navigate many different situations, such as when partners differ greatly in their level of desire for each other, how to journey through betrayal trauma, and she even gives tip...