Smart Dating Academy - The Podcast

Mindy is a successful entrepreneur, and a single mom of two teens.   Her parents were loving and supportive - and had a 'love hard' but 'fight hard' dynamic.   Listen to her story of how she was set up with her husband at 19, how she built a business with him.  Her gut started to tell her something was wrong, and she learned he was having an affair with Mindy's best friend (who was now their offic...

In this episode, Bela interviews Tripp Kramer, a coach who teaches shy men how to talk to women!   This conversation is riveting because we hear what he teaches guys about approaching women (ladies and gents, you're gonna want to hear this)! -How Tripp went from a shy introverted guy (at the University of Illinois) to a confident man -- and now teaches self-conscious men about meeting women! What...

Dating as a widow is certainly different than dating at any other point in your life.   Many have lost amazing partners, and the 'love of their lives.'  This is the story of Jody LaVoie, entrepreneur, Mom, mentor, CEO, and now, a smart dater.  Jody tells the story of how she met her husband Steve, how wonderful their love was, and how his life was brutally ended by an employee.  Jody steered their...

Is it possible to find love over 50?  Hell yes!!  Is it possible to find love over 70?  Hell yes!!  Kathy, from a rural town/state found love at 71, and shares her entire story of how she did it (online)!     Kathy was divorced after 42 years of marriage She lives in a small rural town, in a Southwest state and was a stay at home Mom She was blindsided by her husband when she went to surprise him...

Top 10 Things To Do When You’re Dating After Divorce 1.     Do the work – DO therapy / coaching.  Make sure you have processed the relationship, and most importantly, know what YOUR part in the relationship break up was 2.     Hire someone to help you 3.     Fix Your Picker – Have you noticed that your ‘picker’ is broken?  Get help around this – it’s due to social media, attachment, not knowing wh...

Cheating -- If you see someone's partner cheating, do you tell them?   This week's episode breaks it ALL down! What sparked this whole episode was a text Bela received from someone that said: "Have you ever had a client that was on a dating app, and saw someone else’s significant other/someone they’re dating on a dating app?  Do I tell the person?  I mean, I would want to know but now every woman...

How do you make sure you are having safe sex?  Whether you're out there dating, or thinking of dipping your toe into the pool, this episode with Dr. Lauren Streicher will tell you EVERYTHING you need to know (fact and fiction) about safe sex including: Do you have to have 'sex-sex' (intercourse) to get an STI?  Spoiler alert - no.   What should you do to 'get tested'? The Top 5 tests in Dr. Streic...

How do you create amazing personal and professional networks?   Today's guest, Larry Kaufman (the King of Linked In with over 30,000 contacts and author of the NCG Factor) wil tell us HOW he has cultivated deep, meaningful relationships with literally thousands of people through his method of authenticity, and NCG (networking, connecting and giving).  And it's not the 'ugh' type of networking.  In...

Bela talks to client Marilyn Dollar about how she found love after TWO bad marriages -- one was at the age of 17 (involving physical abuse), and the other was the father of her children (infidelity).   In a prior podcast episode, Sugar mentioned how a Smart Dating Academy Instagram Live episode with Marilyn changed her dating life, so we invited Marilyn to tell ALL of you the story that inspired S...

Part 2 of this episode is amazing!  Bela and Lindsay of Smart Dating Academy are back, discussing MORE secrets that have made their clients successful in finding love!   Here are some nuggets you'll hear: Where there is smoke, there is fire - Most of my divorced clients can point to something very specific early on that indicated something wasn’t right. People make time for things they want! There...

Bela chats with her long standing Smart Dating Academy coach Lindsay Anderson in a 2 part episode to review the secrets of her most successful clients!   Lindsay has been helping people find love for over 20 years, and has helped thousands of singles find love!   They will discuss the patterns that have HELPED their clients most!   You won't want to miss any of this, and here are some highlights o...

Have you ever wondered if someone was 'interested' in you?  Body language is a critical part of attraction - and understanding it can help you to not "blow" an opportunity!  And, you can understand how to BEST use it to your favor, and indicate your interest to someone!   In this episode, Bela discusses 7 key signs of attraction, with a whole section on what "men" vs. "women" do when they're 'show...

What are some SMALL changes you can make TODAY for BIG results in your dating life?   Bela goes through 8 ways that you can have positive changes instantly, and here are some things she will cover! What online parameters can you change for biggest results?  Bela will tell you the ones that MATTER and where her clients have had success!   Start playing the game 3 Blind Mice online (described in det...

Know the signs of a catfisher or con-person that aren't so obvious?  Bela and Ilene drop ALL the bombs here -- from their real life client experience, and highlights from the Tinder Swindler that could happen to ANY of us!   There's a little bit inside most of us that has the "Disney fairy tale ending" wish inside of us (both men and women).  And, that can make the smartest of us susceptible to re...

Rachel DeAlto, author of Relatable, and TV relationship expert and I discuss being "relatable", and why it's so much more than being "likable."   It's about someone wanting to connect with you on a deeper level, because you emit 3 things.   This episode will help you to have better relationships in dating & while making new friendships!  Here are some amazing things you'll hear in the episode:...

Sugar is a 46 year old woman working at a large multinational firm, who sits on many non-profit boards (including her alma mater, Purdue U)!  She was married to a man she met in college, and went through a devastating divorce after 10 years.  It took Sugar 8 years to get back on her feet.   She had a lot of anxiety & tons of self-doubt around doing this again, and she bravely started her journ...

What is Quantum Love?  It's a concept created by today's amazing guest, Dr. Laura Berman.   Listen to EVERY word, because it will take your breath away, and teach you how to ATTRACT the most amazing love into your life: Quantum love is the ideal combination of exciting and safe love - the type we ALL desire.   Dr. Berman tells us: 1) How she got into this work? 2) How she created the concept of Qu...

Want to make your face gorgeous and glowy all summer long?  Listen to this episode with Enisa, Smart Dating Academy's chief hair/makeup guru!   You can use these tips today and ALWAYS -- even in the dead of winter when you're going on vacation to somewhere warm!   And, if you like this episode, a link to MORE is below! Here are some of the gems you'll hear: "Good Makeup starts with good skin!"   H...

In honor of Independence Day, I'm so excited to share my own 7 tips with you about how to appear more attractive and INDEPENDENT on your dates, and in relationships!   These are things I practice in my own life, and I know that you'll learn some new things here, and be able to EXECUTE them as well!    1) Create a life for yourself that you love, and talk about the things that you love to do.   2)...

Dating anxiety is something even the best daters can feel sometimes.  What are some easy ways to help diminish the anxiety, so we can present the best / most authentic version of ourselves?  I called on my colleague Ilene Collins, dating coach extraordinare at Smart Dating Academy, to discuss this.  She's got a great background in mental health coaching as well, and this conversation was amazing....

Dr. Terri Orbuch is a renowned love researcher.  During this episode, she and Bela have an incredible chat that spans the biggest reasons for divorce, what makes for the happiest relationships, love vs. lust (how to tell which it is), and how to know if someone is 'the one.'   You will hear about:    Dr. Terri's NIH research project that has been following the same couples for over 30 years (how m...

Andrea Javor is just like you in so many ways.  She's beautiful, smart and successful (works in marketing AND as a divorce coach).  Andrea, like so many of us, had a broken picker.   Her parents are wonderful, and she's surrounded by love, but healthy romantic love had always eluded her.   She was divorced twice before she 'fixed her picker' and found love with Jason.  Listen to this sweet story,...

Weight gain is something most of us have struggled with, or will struggle with at some point in our lives - whether we are male or female.   Is it just me, or does it seems harder with each year to keep it off?   In this episode, I chat with one of the most renowned physicians in the US, Dr. Lauren Streicher about why we gain weight (especially in mid-life & menopause), and HOW to get rid of i...

What is Love Bombing vs. Love Seeking, and How Can You Take Control? In this amazingly informative episode, Bela and Dr. Katherine Helm discuss the VAST differences between a Love Bomber (bad) and a Love Seeker (good).  They address the following questions in depth: 1) What is love bombing? 2) Why is love bombing harmful? 3) What is the difference between a love bomber and someone who is romantic...

This is a WONDERFUL episode where you will hear Bela FIREHOSE you with the 7 things you NEED to do this summer to find love!  This episode will educate you and INSPIRE the heck out of you - you'll want to RACE onto the dating scene armed with these 7 things!!   7 Things you NEED For Summer Love!! 1)    Get Psychotically Optimistic about Love and that you WILL Find Love!!   Get rid of the cobwebs a...