Smart Dating Academy - The Podcast

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Today's podcast is with an amazing former client named Anushka, an Ivy League graduate who was having trouble finding love, listened to a podcast, found Bela, and started her dating adventure!  In this episode, you will hear:   How Anushka Found Her AMAZING Husband Online! Anushka's journey from childhood to adulthood and her struggles in finding love. Anushka's experience with online dating and h...

Listen to this chat with Sheri Salata, the woman who was Oprah's right hand Executive Producer when Oprah ruled the planet!  Sheri wrote a book called "The Beautiful No", and we chat about her life at Oprah, and when she decided to pursue her OWN life at 56 years old.  She will tell you HOW she did it, and has the BEST life she could imagine!   You'll love this inspiring episode, and want to HOP i...

WIll dating a friend ruin the friendship?  The answer to this question, as you might expect, is complicated, and there isn't a firm yes or no.    It's going to depend on you, and the person.    Before you get into the relationship, look at this person crucially.  Listen to this amazing podcast where Bela explains the eight crucial things to consider before jumping into a relationship with a friend...

Kristy is a professor at the University of Alabama, and had two things that are so familiar to many of us.  First, she had a wonderful marriage but lost her husband Dave to Glioblastoma too early.    When she was vulnerable, a man from 'high school' came back to sweep her off her feet at her most VULNERABLE time, and hear the story of what happened with the "Narcissist" - and how she got rid of hi...

In today's episode, Bela discusses how to "love bravely" with Dr. Alexandra Solomon.  She is a couples therapist, a Northwestern University professor, and a brilliant mind.  In this podcast we talk about: 1) What does it take to "love bravely"? 2) Why is relational self-awareness so important? 3) How to talk to yourself (hint - if you wouldn't say something to your best friend, you shouldn't say i...

Bela has a beautiful conversation with Dawn Anderson, Smart Dating Academy client, who lost her husband Mike in a tragic farming accident.  After a dark period of grief and change, Dawn reached out to Bela for a coaching session, and then worked with Smart Dating Academy to find "Moussaka Matthew" -- the new love of her life.   Listen to how she did it all, from her first sighting of Bela on Steve...

Today, Bela defines "infla-dating" which is a term that has swept the media!  She's breaking it down here, and infla-dating means dating with inflation in mind!   She will tell you: How inflation is impacting the dating scene? Tips for you to budget for dates Budget friendly date ideas for both singles & couples Bela & Andy's fun favorite date, starting when they got married! Join our free...

Welcome to the “Dating Super Bowl” week!! This week is a daily short episode answering one of your most pressing questions in less than 10 minutes! Todays episode is the best answer to the ever controversial question, “WHAT'S THE BEST WAY TO START AND END A DATE” Listen to Bela’s wise, broad thinking advice on this question and a new episode each day this week!! Join our free newsletter database b...

Welcome to the “Dating Super Bowl” week!! This week is a daily short episode answering one of your most pressing questions in less than 10 minutes! Todays episode is the best answer to the ever controversial question, “WHY ARE YOU AFRAID OF COMMITMENT?” Listen to Bela’s wise, broad thinking advice on this question and a new episode each day this week!! Join our free newsletter database by signing...

Welcome to the “Dating Super Bowl” week!! This week is a daily short episode answering one of your most pressing questions in less than 10 minutes! Todays episode is the best answer to the ever controversial question, “HOW DO YOU TAKE THINGS SLOW, SO THEY LAST?” Listen to Bela’s wise, broad thinking advice on this question and a new episode each day this week!! Join our free newsletter database by...

Welcome to the “Dating Super Bowl” week!! This week is a daily short episode answering one of your most pressing questions in less than 10 minutes! Todays episode is the best answer to the ever controversial question, “WHAT TO SAY WHEN YOU SEE SOMEONE ATTRACTIVE” Listen to Bela’s wise, broad thinking advice on this question and a new episode each day this week!! Join our free newsletter database b...

Welcome to the “Dating Super Bowl” week!! This week is a daily short episode answering one of your most pressing questions in less than 10 minutes! Todays episode is the best answer to the ever controversial question, “Who Pays for the Date?” Listen to Bela’s wise, broad thinking advice on this question and a new episode each day this week!! Join our free newsletter database by signing up here:  w...

In this episode, Bela interviews founder of "Divorced Girl Smiling" Jackie Pilossoph on her top 10 reasons you might not get asked out again (spoiler alert - some of them do NOT have to do with you)!!   A few are that your date decided to get back together with an ex, and they haven't done 'their work.'   For the rest of them, LISTEN to the episode for an in depth conversation on the reasons, and...

What is a Dating Board of Directors and how do you develop one?  Listen to this amazing mini-podcast jam packed with information on how to get amazing set ups from your networks!   Bela lays out the step-by-step process to do it and if you do, you'll potentially have a WHOLE new dating funnel!    Good Morning America Segment (talking about 3 Ways to Boost Your Dating Life - Including Dating Board...

In this mini laser focused episode, Bela answers one of the top dating questions -- how many times should I date someone before calling it quits?    Do not miss ANY of this episode, because you will learn about chemistry (what to do if you feel butterflies, and what if you feel nothing), how long you should let it 'simmer', and what red flags get someone thrown out RIGHT AWAY without question.  An...

In today's mini episode in honor of Peak Dating Season, Bela explains 10 BIG red flags that you're dating a PLAYER!   Here are 3 of them, and to hear them ALL, listen to this amazing mini-episode which will open your eyes WIDE! They're super smooth in their approach.  They know exactly what to say and what to do - how to flirt with you. They say they're "not looking for anything serious" or "just...

The biggest mistake people make is NOT having a dating funnel!   Listen to this short, info packed episode where Bela cuts through the brush to tell you: Why you should have a dating funnel Why everyone is dating everyone until you've had the EXCLUSIVITY conversation! How do you build a dating funnel?  Listen to yesterday's episode - pick an app, and have great photos and a great profile (if you d...

This week is a GREAT week as Bela is doing a mini daily episode from Monday through Friday, answering your most pressing dating questions!   What are the best dating apps for 2023 and why?   Tune in to hear the dish about Tinder all the way to Raya!    Tune in tomorrow to hear, "How to Create a Dating Funnel and How to Date Multiple People at the SAME TIME!"  Are you ready??  This show will get yo...

In this episode, Lindsay (SDA Dating Coach) and Bela discuss Peak Dating Season - which officially begins on 12/26/22.   We will talk about: What is Peak Dating Season?  Why does it happen? When is the busiest online day of the year and why? What you should do to get ready for it! Great photos (dos and don'ts of photos) Why YOU aren't the best judge of your own photos and should have someone in yo...

How do you get over the awful things that life throws at you?   This episode's guest, Dr. Neeta Bhushan explains the formula for that.  Her new book called, "That Sucked.  Now What?" is an explanation of HOW to get through the 'suck' and to rise again.    Bela and Neeta met over coffee at Whole Foods when Neeta was single almost a decade ago.   Neeta has experienced more loss by the age of 19 than...

 In an ever-changing dating world, it can be hard to stay positive.   We often have two choices, we can be optimistic or pessimistic.  The NYT reports that optimists earn more money, have better relationships, and even live longer!   Today, I will explain to you not only how to rewire your brain for optimism, but PSYCHOTIC OPTIMISM!   Psychotic optimism is something Smart Dating Academy is renowne...

Nicky's love story is amazing. She met Bela at a holiday party sometime around 2010 when she was in her 20s (Nicky was a colleague of Bela's husband Andy at the time). She was a successful professional who didn't have a lot of relationship experience, and pursued dating as she would her work life. Trying different things like matchmaking, speed dating, How About We, dating apps -- but had an epiph...

Bela chats with celebrity stylist and author Andrew Gelwicks about how a kid from Ohio grew up, moved to Manhattan, and realized he was meant to be a stylist. How did he get his first break?   What is it like to style Catherine O'Hara, Uzo Aduba, Bette Midler and so many more?   What inspired him to write his book, interviewing some of the most iconic/influential gay influencers, and what did he l...

In this amazing episode, you'll have your mind BLOWN by my chat with Dr. Roksana Badruddoja (Dr. Rokbad) about how fixing your picker is about MORE than just your attachment system and your relationship with your parents.  The way we show up in relationships can be 'wired' into us, and the trauma of generations before us can come into us without us even being aware of it!   My mind was blown, and...