Slay That Game

It is expensive to stay damaged. Has being broken broken your piggy bank? Research supports that trauma distorts your perception. So what have you gambled away to make someone or something stay?

They always say that when you stop looking is when you find it. In this journey we called life you meet people along the way, different people at different. The people you meet at your best if not the same as you meet at your worst. You decide when’s the best time to meet people and when you’re capable of making the best decision.

In this overstimulating world with a surplus of choices is very easy to get distracted. But is also easy to self sabotage by using avoidant behaviors. Moral of the story is a thin line between distracted and avoidant.

Are you willing to lose people, opportunities, or even yourself for what you don’t say? Is the discomfort of a sensitive conversation worse than the discomfort of unexpressed emotions?

How firm are you with your boundaries? Do you test your own limits? Often times we talk about other people pushing our boundaries but do we honor our own boundaries? It starts with discipline within yourself.

Along with you getting to know yourself and learning your triggers, one must know what makes them feel better. Life and people have a way of depleting you but what revives you?

Seven days into the new year and I’ve set a New Year’s resolution after years of giving up on the concept. The theme of this year for me is GREATER, good is isn’t good enough.

Exposure is everything. We all need those people in our life that have been where we’ve been and arrived at where we’re headed. I’m thankful for this incredible conversation with radio personality and my Uncle, Chris Shaw.

There’s talk that “the one” is unobtainable. Where are my hopeless romantics because the people are getting discouraged. I’m on the fence because when you feel as though something is missing “what if” always plays in the back on your head and no happy relationship can come from that. But what do you think?

There are things attached to your name but if you don’t show up as yourself and walk you walk…you’ll never get them.

This episode speaks about reprocessing your ideas about sex after having experienced sexual trauma. *If triggered in anyway reach out to a trusted individual or professional.*

In the midst of trading in the I’s for “us” be sure to keep some things and make room for yourself.

I surveyed my Instagram followers to see if and how their family structure effected their experiences.

Life doesn’t allow for comfort zones. So would you rather move or be moved? Sit on the side of the road and let life pass you by or patch up that tire and get back on the road. The choice is yours.

We sometimes count ourselves out before we give ourselves a chance. A fresh perspective maybe just the luck you need. Odds are you’re closer to a yes than a no.

One thing I’ve learned is that depression is common, everyone experiences it. I’ve experienced it a couple of times myself so with that and research I thought I’d share my knowledge.

Thoughts going into the New Year. Very thankful to have made it this far but there’s an uphill battle ahead of me.

With it being common to get hurt it becomes expected. So much so that we are desensitized to bad outcomes and terrified of good possibilities because they’re foreign. I’m here to tell you that you deserve the best case scenario.

I sat down with my school Dad and had a very beneficial conversation. Fortunately, I was able to record it. The full video is on my YouTube Channel @ DaeOfSlay.

This message is about humility. Pat yourself on the back for how far you’ve come. Now, take a breath to get ready for how far you have to go.

We have to understand that many of the things that happen to us in life is out of our control. We don’t have the final say so in a lot of things like getting the job, being accepted to the school, or being proposed to. You have become comfortable with being uncomfortable.

We all need a break, to take inventory of ourselves and acknowledge the things we’re exposed to. We don’t realize that we’re unconsciously being influenced by the things we constantly give our attention to. So when was your last break?

How do you move forward after ending this? Do you unconsciously allow your past to hinder yourself? If not what mindset protects you but allows you to walk into things with a fresh perspective? I’m sure we’ve all be out with someone that brings up their ex in comparison or reference.

We get so caught up in what could go wrong or what we’re trying to prevent from happening again that we don’t give things the opportunity to go right.

Why are we so comfortable when nothing’s for certain? #foodforthought