Single Mother Survival Guide

Today I chat about getting rid of your stuff before, during, and after divorce. Divorce is expensive, and when you sell old stuff it can help alleviate some of the financial burdens, plus it helps you to declutter and it can also be a therapeutic and helpful way to help you move on with your new life. Getting rid of all the "stuff" that you and your partner have accumulated throughout your relatio...

Today I talk about different support options people wish I had known before they decide to get a divorce. Divorce settlements aren't fun for anyone; sometimes they can take months or even years. This is a life-altering decision about your future. So really considering what is best, especially if you have children, and considering various support options to ensure the best possible outcome for you...

Are you considering a separation or divorce? In this episode, I share six things people wish they had known before getting a divorce in relation to communication and relationships. Good communication is a vital ingredient of a strong marriage. The problem is that some people aren't good at it. If there's a breakdown in communication, it's much harder to build and maintain a happy relationship. Get...

Are you considering a separation or divorce? In this episode, I share some of the things people have mentioned as what they wished they knew about the more significant impact of divorce before actually getting a divorce. Here, I share five different viewpoints to give you a different perspective on things and to give you some things to consider. Getting a divorce is not something that is usually d...

Transitioning from wife or partner to single mother is not easy. The pain from a loss of a relationship is never an easy time. There will be days when you feel you can't handle it alone. I want to assure you, first and foremost, that you can do this! Be proactive during this time. The beginning is always the hardest, but you can take it one step at a time, and soon you will find out what works for...

In this episode, I chat with you about the six mindset transition milestones of a divorce. The transition of moving from a partnership, or marriage, to being a single parent is a process, but how quickly you get through it is dependent on how willing you are to let go and engage in the process. This is important so you are not stuck in the pain forever.  The six milestones will help you become mor...

Today I talk with you about the emotional journey and transition from being in a partnership or marriage to being a single parent. All divorces start with a relationship, and like any kind of loss, the end of a marriage may trigger various reactions. In this episode, I share the phases that may help you understand where you are now and provide some advice to help you navigate this difficult time....

No one enters into a relationship with the intention of separating from their partner someday. So it's no surprise that a separation or divorce can become a rollercoaster of emotions even for the most level-headed individuals. It's a big adjustment! Until recently you had shared hopes and dreams with your partner, and suddenly it's all gone. It's easy to feel overwhelmed and confused and as if you...

In this week's episode, I talk about managing emotions. When you're a single mum, you may encounter twice the stress, twice the frustration, and twice the burnout that traditional father and mother parenting may experience. It is important to tune in and manage your emotions well because you have a huge influence on your child's development. Learning to manage your own reactions is one of the most...

This week we are celebrating our 6 th podcast anniversary! Greg joins me on the show this week. It's just us having a chat on how the show has evolved over the years. We reminisce about our memorable travel moments, past guests and learnings, planning for our wedding, life in Goondiwindi, and Greg's top relationship tips. Even my daughter pops in to say hello! This show started as a small passion...

Today I talk with you about emotions. How we live and interact with others is influenced by our emotions. It could even be said that we are ruled by our emotions. We make decisions based on whether we are happy, angry, or sad. It's important to understand how your emotions are expressed and the impact they have on your actions because they can help us navigate life with ease. In this episode, I ta...

You can probably recall situations in your life that have made you uncomfortable. Right now, you may already be trapped in a cycle of avoidance without even knowing it. Avoidance in general are actions a person takes to escape from difficult thoughts and feelings. It may cause panic and anxiety when not managed properly. And you may find yourself restricting your life as you avoid people, events,...

In this week's episode, I talk about emotions, managing emotions, and how they can affect our body if we avoid dealing with them. When emotional trauma occurs, there is the choice to either deal with the emotions effectively or avoid them. For many people, avoidance becomes their primary coping mechanism, because the trauma is too painful to deal with at the time. Or it may be because there isn't...

Moving forward after a crisis can be really tough. And becoming a single mum can definitely be a crisis. A crisis can also be something such as struggling with anger, loneliness, fatigue, financial worries, and a whole array of emotions that you might be going through. And when we're dealing with a crisis, we might be carrying all the stress ourselves, carrying it on our shoulders, as we embark on...

In this week's episode, I talk about asking for help. As single mums, we often struggle to ask for help. You might feel you want to do it all, but it can be very exhausting. Others may not have trouble asking for help. But for those of us who do, I share my thoughts on why many of us are reluctant to ask for help. I also talk about practicing discernment on who to ask and when the appropriate time...

This week on the show, I have Isabelle Silbery joining me. Isabelle is a reality TV star who shined into the limelight as one of the members of 'The Silberys' in Gogglebox Australia. She is the youngest member of 'The Silberys' alongside her mother (Kerry) and grandmother (Emmie), bringing multi-generational women's relationships and voices to TV screens every week. They have recently written a bo...

In this week's episode, I talk about boundaries from a single mum's perspective. This is a very difficult time for many single mums as they transition to single or co-parenting after separation. Having healthy boundaries enables you to learn to say no to situations that do not align with your values. Today I discuss some traits of someone with rigid boundaries and someone with healthy boundaries a...

In this week's episode, I talk about worry and how to manage it. As mums, we can all relate to feeling worried at one time or another.  We tend to have a lot of things on our plate as we juggle issues that come with separation, home, and work-life. In this episode, I talk about the different things we often worry about and I share tips on what we can do to deal with worry, and specifically five wa...

In this week's episode, I talk about habits and how they can be used as part of your goal-setting process. I believe that setting goals can help create the life that you want. These habits that I talk about have helped me achieve many of the goals I have set for myself, and because of that, I am able to live life more purposefully toward the life I want to live. Today I introduce ten habits that w...

In this week's episode, I talk about decision-making and the questions you can ask yourself to help you reflect when you are making your decisions. Getting into the habit of asking yourself these reflection questions can help you gain clarity and creates that inner dialogue to help you examine your own thoughts and feelings before making the tough and big decisions that will need to be made when y...

In this week's episode, I talk about the four biggest mindset mistakes single mums can make when making decisions and some tips on how to avoid them. Do you recognise one or more in yourself right now?  It's something I've identified in many of my single mum coaching clients.  It is my hope that this episode helps you overcome these mindset mistakes, helps you explore all your options, and ultimat...

This week's episode is very special for two reasons – It's my 300 th episode, woohoo! This is the first time I have my partner Greg joining me on the show! In this episode, Greg and I chat about dating, new relationships, and the blending of families.  We cover: How we got back into dating after separation. Things to consider before dating again. Setting boundaries when dating. The top 3 words to...

In this week's episode, I discuss finding joy in your everyday life. I often get messages from other single mums out there who tell me how lucky I am that I found my happiness and that I have support from my loved ones in my single mum journey. What many people don't understand is the importance of having the right mindset. Going through separation or divorce can really bog you down; it is a diffi...

In this episode, I talk about understanding our conflict triggers. A trigger is something that gives us an immediate, intense reaction. They come from within us and are about how we react to a situation. Generally, they come from a real threat, or more commonly, a perceived threat; a FEAR (false evidence appearing real). Conflict triggers are strong emotions that can cause rifts, resentments, and...

In this episode, I talk about the ten steps to take when embarking on the divorce or separation journey and becoming a single mum. Navigating life as a single mum can be, at first, overwhelming. You might be feeling sad, scared, or even relieved. I know it can be scary tackling a new and uncertain future. But life can get even better and you can be fulfilled and thrive in life, even as a single mu...