Simply Resilient - A Podcast For Military Wives

I'm a huge fan of gardening and love being outside and working in the dirt. I do my best thinking when I'm doing activities like gardening. This analogy for brain being like a garden has formed over the years and the final piece of the puzzle fell into place earlier this year when I realized what the weeds in the garden represented and why they are able to grow so easily when we don't want them th...

Fear is a big part of this human life, and often even more so for us military wives. I have found that in my life fear has been a big part of some of the greatest things I've done and for that reason I decided that I wanted to be better at feeling it because I like the experiences that come along with it. Another reason I want to be an expert at feeling fear is that living with a small amount of f...

In this episode we talk about why it can be so challenging to parent toddlers and teenagers. Understanding everyone involved in this equation helps us have more love and show up as the parent we want to be. Understanding how toddlers and teenagers work, also helps us better understand how our lower brain works and can improve our self coaching experience. We also get into what our lower brain's de...

In this episode we talk about what shame is versus what guilt is. How easy it can be to get caught in the shame blame trap and what we can do to get out of it. Finding fault versus taking responsibility. I share some applicable examples and give you tons of solutions to help you become experts on processing shame. You won't want to miss this episode. Enjoy!

My son Bruce joins me in this episode to talk about impulse control and allowing urges. Listen in to learn what impulses and urges are, why it's so normal that we have them, and what we can do with them. Bruce and I talk about becoming best friends with our brains as we learn to be the master of our impulses and urges. What might surprise you is that we don't become the master of our urges by gett...

Have you ever had a lot on your plate and started feeling burned out? Have you ever been crushing it at a goal then you mysteriously lost momentum? Have you ever felt like you are using will power to stick with a plan or to get a lot done, but it feels like it won't last? I think we all feel these ways sometimes. In this episode I dig into what is happening in our brain when we're feeling like thi...

I was recently asked to share a message with a group of young women at a summer day camp about the importance of our roles and understanding what makes us feel fulfilled in our roles. I asked these young girls what roles they currently had or would have in the future that were important to them and they listed so many good ones: friend, sister, daughter, student, employee, babysitter, mother, wife...

I have had adult braces for the last 2 years and 3 months. In honor of getting my braces off this week, I'm doing a fun episode on the similarities between mental health and dental health. Enjoy!

In this episode you get to hear from one of my long term clients that I've been working with for over a year. She is so awesome to share some of her thoughts and experiences as she has navigated a deployment and military life in general. She shares what it was like before she knew how to manage her mind and what it's like now that she has so many tools and skills to help her take control of her li...

In this episode I discuss the 3 stages of awareness we experience when it comes to understanding how our brain works in models and then taking that understanding and applying it into our lives. I believe that awareness creates authority and having more authority over our brains and our lives is such a valuable thing.

In today's episode, my daughter Jane joins me on the podcast to talk about this important topic of understanding the difference between results and values, particularly in how it pertains to parenting. We discuss grades, modesty, boys, hygiene, and more. You won't want to miss this episode! Basically results are what we are trying to create and values are the reason why. If we get too focused on r...

In this episode I talk about a simple and powerful tool that I learned from Brooke Castillo that helps you balance the heavy of the worst case scenario with the hopefulness and possibility of the best case scenario. It's important to understand that our brains have a negative bias, which means we easily notice and focus on things that we believe went poorly (past), are going poorly (present), or w...

In this episode I talk all about my coaching program, Resiliency Training. Tune in to hear my top 5 reasons why Resiliency Training is like going on a cruise. I also give the details about the monthly theme schedule and answer quite a few FAQ's. Enjoy!

In this episode we talk all thing husbands and I teach you my favorite tool that I use to help me adore my husband, which is called Brainstorming Love. I share two examples of what brainstorming love looks like, one from 2002 Jessie and one from 2020 Jessie. When he's away and I'm missing him, this tool helps me lean in to that experience instead of resisting it. When he's home and sometimes drivi...

When we go through experiences and circumstances in our lives that cause us pain, it can be very helpful to understand which types of thoughts bring us clean pain (which serves us and helps us process the pain and accept the reality of our experience) and which types of thoughts bring us dirty pain (which usually means we're torturing ourselves on a loop, making the circumstances mean something ha...

Brad and I have a goal to raise our amazing little human beings that we have been entrusted with into incredible adults. Another way I like to think about it is that we want to teach our kids the tools and skills they need to be excellent future roommates. Knowing how to work hard is a crucial component of that goal. Join me on the podcast today to hear about how we are teaching our kids how to wo...

When we talk about relationships we usually think about our relationships with other people. Did you know that you have a relationship with everything in your life? Including yourself and all of the elements of your life? From previous episodes about relationships we have learned that a relationship with someone is made up of the thoughts we think about that person. Because of this we know that re...

Meet Karyn. She is an incredible military wife (her husband recently retired after a 30 year career). She has newly become a military mom (her youngest daughter recently joined the military). She is an educator/librarian who recently completed her Masters degree. She is a mother of three adult children (she recently lost her oldest daughter). She is fellow mind manager and lover of thought work (s...

Have you ever wondered why sometimes you feel so motivated and sometimes it's hard to find an ounce of inspiration when it comes to things you are trying to accomplish? Do you get discouraged when even though you are very smart and know exactly what needs to be done you sometimes just can't quite do it? Does it sometimes feel like the military is in charge of your life and and you don't have much...

In this episode I review my 10 tips to thriving during deployment. A free printable version of these tips can be downloaded from my website (www. SimplyResilient.net). I will be going into each of these tips this week in depth on Facebook live as part of my PODCAST PARTY! Make sure to check it out and enter for a chance to win one of five $100 Amazon gift cards.

I can't wait to be a grandma! I feel like it is the ultimate reward for the work I do as a mother. I know being a mom is 50/50 and being a grandma is 50/50, but secretly I kind of think being a grandma will be more like 80/20 LOL In this episode, I compiled a list of things that have been incredibly helpful and things that aren't for mothers of young kids from my experiences and others. I know whe...

Meet Kristin. She is an incredible military wife, step mom of 4, and a life coach. Kristin specializes in working with women who want to improve their relationships with their step children. She helps these incredible women like herself see how what feels mostly out of their control is actually almost completely in their control. She is working to create a positive, uplifting, empowering resource...

Whenever there is any uncertainty when it comes to our interactions with others, whether it be in their actions or in their words, our brain tends to default to assuming (aka guessing) that they have bad intentions toward us. Learning how to intentionally apply the benefit of the doubt in our lives is beneficial for all involved, but mostly for us. I have also found that as I have learned to wear...

Several years ago my dad wrote an e-book called The Pizza Principle: Unconventional Financial Wisdom for Unconventional Times. In this episode I share 10 tips from his book to give you a little preview. I recorded the audio of his book as a Christmas present for him last year. The audio version of The Pizza Principle is now available on most major podcast platforms. Go check it out! All of the lin...

Have you ever wondered why it can often be so difficult to ask for help? Did you know that you have a relationship with asking for help? Your current thoughts that are making it hard to ask for help are your relationship. Are you like so many of us and jump at the chance to help others, but can't stand to ask for help yourself? If you have a hard time accepting offers of help or asking for help wh...