Simply Resilient - A Podcast For Military Wives

Everyone's favorite advice when you're going through something hard like a deployment is "stay busy." This can be good advice and the advice givers have the best of intentions when giving it, but it can also totally backfire and do us harm instead of good. Listen in to today pep talk to learn the two different ways you can stay busy and why one can be harmful and one can be so helpful!

When we experience fear our instinctual response is: fight, flight, or freeze. As military wives of soldiers who deploy to war zones we often experience fear for their safety, but most of us don't know how to allow fear in a way that doesn't consume or cripple us. In this episode I talk about the differences between worry and fear and show you how worry typically does not serve you, while fear can...

Happy Valentines Day! In this episode we're talking about missing the love of your life. We're talking about how we tend to miss him even more on important days, particularly days celebrating love, particularly days where it feels like everyone around us gets to be with their love. One thing that I discovered on my husband's most recent deployment when it came to missing him was that I felt like I...

One of the hardest parts about our husbands being away for military responsibilities is when things go wrong. Whether it's something breaking in the house, something breaking with the car, everyone getting sick, naughty pets, or naughty kids...it can often feel like things either go wrong right after he leaves or that they only go wrong when he's away and not when he's home. Military wives will co...

This episode is for when you're in those low moments where you struggle to get out of bed, struggle to eat right, struggle to shower regularly, struggle to leave the house, struggle to find the desire to connect with others. Basically when you're struggling to do the things that you know would help you feel better and struggling to take care of yourself. Listen in as I discuss when to get help, ho...

Even if you love your in-laws and have a great relationship with them, they can sometimes drive you crazy. I find this to be particularly true for my clients when they are in a deployment. During deployment you tend to need them more and interact with them more, you often have to make decisions with them, sometimes they struggle with opsec, sometimes they promise to help and then don't follow thro...

There are times when we really need to cry, but we are so resistant to letting the tears flow. There are lots of reasons why we resist crying...maybe you're not a crier, maybe you think crying is stupid or pointless, maybe you're worried if you start crying you'll never stop, maybe you think crying is weak and you don't want anyone to see you that way...whatever the reason, I want to offer you som...

You're here because you frequently feel overwhelmed and today is one of those days. Everything feels like too much. It feels like you can't catch a break and you can't catch your breath. Things keep coming at you, one thing after another. You need a break! The problem is, we often can't get a break from the demands and challenges of our lives. So I'm sharing some of my tips and tricks with you tod...

It is so easy to be stressed about money. Whether we're stressed about spending too much, not saving enough, paying bills, not earning enough, or something else, for whatever reason stress is our go to emotion when we're having money problems. It's important to realize that stress is not at all conducive to problem solving. Feeling confident, capable, and abundant are all great ways to go into pro...

One thing I have learned throughout military life and by going through deployments is there is a big difference between being alone and feeling lonely. I don't like feeling lonely, no one does. But I have learned how to enjoy being alone and enjoy my own company. I have learned why I feel lonely when my husband is deployed even when it actually feels like I'm never alone because I'm surrounded by...

Today is the day you've been preparing for. The day you've been anticipating. The day you've been dreading. Today is the day you said the Big Goodbye to your husband and he left for his deployment. It doesn't matter how long he's going to be gone or where he's going or how many times you've done this, today is incredibly hard. Let it be hard. Reach out to the people around you who know what you're...

There are so many reasons why kids struggle. As military wives dealing with our husbands being away for long periods of time for deployments and trainings we are worried about our kids struggling. We are watching for them to be negatively impacted by their dad's being away. In this pep talk we talk about how important it is to remind yourself that it's ok with kids struggle. Not only will they str...

It is so frustrating when your husband is getting ready to leave for a deployment and you find yourself fighting more than usual and struggling to make the most of your final days and weeks together. Tune into this episode to learn more about why this happens and what you can do to help relieve this problem a bit,

It can be so easy to get stuck during challening times in our lives thinking that our life is unfair. Thinking that we have it harder than other people. Thinking that other people have it so easy...they're so lucky. There are times in our lives where the challenges feel like they are coming one right after the other and we can't even get a breath. In these moments there are a few things I want you...

You are tired. At times you even feel exhausted. You may be experiencing a lack of sleep because you are pregnant or have a baby up in the middle of the night, or you may need to get up early for work or school. Whatever the reason, let's see if we can get you some relief for your exhaustion. In this episode, we talk about improving your attitude toward the amount of sleep you're getting, acceptin...

It's 3 pm and your kids are driving you crazy. I'm talking bananas. Like every little thing they do is too much. You put on a show for them and go to your room for a 5 minute breather so that you can cool down and stop getting so frustrated and annoyed by their typical childish behavior. It's so hard to get it under control and it feels like the only thing that will fix it is a new day (but it's n...

In my Resiliency Training program in December I taught my clients about self confidence and I'm excited to share some of what I taught to them here with you. Self confidence is feeling secure in yourself and your abilities. Listen to this episode to learn how self confidence is different than just regular confidence. I also teach you about the three main components of developing self confidence an...

Today we are celebrating you, my listeners, pushing play on these podcasts episodes 10,000 times!! My gift to you to say thank you for listening, for sharing, and for coming back for more is a very silly blooper reel. When you listen to my podcast episodes you hear the final edited version that is mostly free of mistakes, ummms, false starts, mispronounced words, sneezing, sniffing, laughing, inte...

January is here and the holidays are all wrapped up, which usually means that a lot of us have started thinking about weight loss. I decided to share with you a coaching call that I did last year with a client who wanted to talk about weight loss. This will show you what it is like to do an introductory weight loss call with a life coach. As military wives we often have weight loss goals that are...

One way I define victim mentality is when we believe that our circumstances aren't neutral. When we believe that our circumstances are the reason we feel the way we do and that things in the world are out to get us, then we are in victimhood. When there's a victim, then there's a villain. In this episode, we take a look at what it means to indulge in victimhood. Sometimes we dip our toe into it, s...

Listen to this fun, festive episode to hear me read four of my favorite children's Christmas books. I read I Believe In Santa Clause, Why Christmas Trees Aren't Perfect, Christmas Oranges, and A Christmas Dress for Ellen. At the end of the episode I also share a bunch of fun/random/unique/interesting facts about me that I thought you would enjoy learning. Merry Christmas to all and to all a good n...

My daughter Kate joins me on the podcast in this episode to discuss why our brain is so good at seeing problems and focusing on them. This is just the way the normal human brain is designed to work, but the problem is whatever we focus on gets bigger and this can make it seem like there are only problems and no solutions when we're in the midst of challenging circumstances or if we're trying to ac...

Do you find yourself wanting to do all the things then get overwhelmed and end up doing nothing? Do you crash and burn on eating plans and exercise plans because you've missed days so now it's ruined? Have you ever noticed that your brain tends to favor thinking that things in the world are either just one way or the other? Do you often feel like the way you think about things is right and the way...

Do you have someone in your life who you wish you could forgive, but it just doesn't seem possible? Or maybe it seems possible and you've tried, but you've been unsuccessful so far and you're just not sure how to do it. Is there someone you were sure you had forgiven, but then when you saw them again all the same feelings of hurt and anger came right back to the surface almost as if it just happen...

Last week I had such a fun opportunity of interviewing Ashley Weinert from Counting Our Heroes Home. She runs an amazing deployment countdown subscription box business that focuses on the family on the home front. One thing I love about her subscription is it’s not just for the military spouse at home (although those types of boxes are awesome too), but it’s a box created with our military kids in...