Shower Talk! w/ Tina and Norm

We've said it before and we will say it again and probably a few more times. They are exe's for a reason! It is rare to go back to an Ex and have it work out. Sure, there's some miraculous cases that work out in Hallmark magic, but most times neither one of you have done the work to figure out why it didn't work the first go-round. If you haven't then you might as well shine up...

Are you a person that seems to always find the person that needs you in their life to help them get to where they need to be, and then once they are there they leave?? Congratulations, you already know this about yourself! What's next, you might ask? Well, you start by knocking it the hell off. Then you dig in and figure out why you feel the need to do it, because it comes from somewhere. Then...

People talk about being vulnerable, however they still maintain a "walls up" attitude when it comes to opening up. This does not work! It is a direct conflict and we get it, it's hard! It's a risk! You taking a chance on being hurt, again. The problem is, that's life and love. You can't move forward and find your forever person without being vulnerable, open and honest......

The weight and influence that we allow social media to carry in our lives is beyond ridiculous. From perceived slights to nuanced likes or dislikes, so many people take these as real and then allow it to create issues in their lives and relationships. Not only friend/work/love relationships, but also our relationships with ourselves. It controls our thoughts and emotions and a lot of times doesn&#...

How do you scale a mountain? One Step at a time! Sounds cliche, right? Well, the reality is, that it is true. The problem that we have is allowing the task to be overwhelming and we get in our heads and then we just never do anything about it and we stay right where we don't want to be! Doing it in smaller doses gives you a feeling of accomplishment and makes hitting those goals a little easie...

Holiday Time is difficult for a lot of folks. Navigating loneliness vs being alone, judgment from family and friends, and even social anxiety and awkward situations makes a lot us not want to go anywhere, however we get upset when we are by ourselves. We can't have it both ways! You have to get out of your own way and fight through some of what you're feeling and allowing yourself to think...

Collective Illusion is an interesting concept! It deals with conforming to a belief you THINK someone else has, ultimately sacrificing yourself or your authenticity, as well as taking on a belief JUST BECAUSE SOMEONE ELSE HAS IT. I bet you think that is weird, but IT...IS...EVERYWHERE! We discuss this concept in this episode and how messed up we think this is and why it's bad for you or your r...

With the change of seasons rapidly happening, we wanted to talk about different Seasons of a relationship and how the relationship evolves over time. Some folks want to stay in Spring and others want to live in the comfort of Winter! Where are you and what are you doing to sustain each of those seasons and those adjustments and changes that come along with them? Music by Brendhan "Maestro&quo...

Tina and I chat about the double standard of when someone is considered attractive or not, and what they allow them to get away with doing or saying! Some jokes are ok if the receiver thinks you're pretty enough, but if not, they are offended and want to take you to HR! GASP! Music by Brendhan "Maestro" Sears

We know, we know, but you most certainly won't do that! Too many people want to have a partner but they still want to live their lives like the other person isn't in it, or that the other person needs to 'fit' into their life, without any give or take. If you REALLY want love and a partner, you don't have to change who you are, but there are adjustments that get made, especiall...

When some say they Love, Love, we think what they are really saying is they are addicted to the process of falling in love, but then when that extra fun part wears off, they are no longer interested. They have run out of excitement and need to get their dopamine fix from somewhere else! Music by Brendhan "Maestro" Sears

That isn't entirely true, however you can't be lazy. If you want something, you need to work for it. If you have the expectation that shit is just going to come to you without putting any effort in, you're going to be disappointed and you will only have yourself to blame! You gotta step up! Music by Brendhan "Maestro" Sears

Might as well face it, you aren't putting in the work by just farming memes because they are just the "perfect" expression for your emotional state. It's ok to use them to help you on that journey, but if that's all you're doing, then you are going to stall out. Meme's don't replace the work you need to put in to get to where you want to be! Unless of course stand...

Limbo is no fun, unless it is accompanied by a Chubby Checker song, a cocktail and a stick! It is full of uncertainty, but life is filled with both big and small limbo moments. How do you deal with it, and how do you work through limbo? Sometimes, it's not up to you. You have to control and deal with the parts you can deal with and just Keep Going! Music by Brendhan "Maestro" Sears

Knowing who is and isn't your friends can save you a lot of heartache. Creating levels of friends and friendship can be a healthy way of dealing with those that are actually wanting to be a friend, acquaintance, or just someone who is looking to take something from you! Not everyone deserves all of you, and YOU get to decide how much each person gets and deserves. Music by Brendhan "Maest...

Let's talk about how we Self-Segregate ourselves. We see it all over the place! What does it mean?? If you ever feel upset because you aren't being included, you need to look at yourself and see if you've tried to actively participate with those around you. A lot of times we do it to ourselves, and we just don't realize it!! Thank you to @sorewellness.at.latan for helping us on our...

Once you see it, you can't unsee it! Manipulation is all over the place, in almost every thing we do. People assert their influence, in various levels, to get what they want. However, it isn't always with bad intentions! We talk about a number of places where it occurs so that you can start spotting it when it happens! Thanks to our friends at Sore Wellness at LA Tan in Wheaton for helping us with...

Old Ways are your old patterns, things you can slip back into if you aren't careful! It can be as extreme as falling off the wagon in addiction or just falling back into a relationship with an ex simply because it is familiar. The important part is to learn to recognize when it is happening and work to correct it, so you don't get too far down the wrong path!!! Thanks to our friends at Sore Wellne...

We don't know about you, but we can't read minds! If your partner can't read your mind, there is an easy solution...TELL THEM WHAT YOU'RE THINKING! I know, it's a novel concept, to actually communicate, but give it a shot, it gets easier the more you do it, and it will make for a stronger relationship. Music by Brendhan "Maestro" Sears

There's a hump joke in here somewhere! Sex lives always seem to be a sticking point or something for people to complain about, but are they talking with their partners? From portrayal in entertainment to real life, people think they don't get it enough, some people weaponize it and we even talk about something called Sacrificial Sex (one of Norm's favorites). Spoiler alert, it all come...

Yes, we all SPIRAL and get in our heads about shit, but WE DO IT TO OURSELVES! Rarely do your thoughts from a spiraling moment come true, but even if they do, why do you want to experience that over and over until it does come true?! We try to tell ourselves its to prepare for the impending doom, but that's unnecessary BS. Some preparation is ok and can be healthy, its the holding on to it and let...

Welcome to another fun episode of Relationship Roulette! It's a fun game where we pull cards created by ‪@acemetaphor‬ , that sparks discussions and debates over various relationship situations or challenges! Thank you to SoreWellness.com for partnering with us and helping us with a new fat loss journey, utilizing the Emerald Laser! Music by Brendhan "Maestro" Sears

What are your deal breakers in a relationship? Or when forming a relationship? If everything else is great, can they change or can some sort of compromise be made? It could be the key to your happiness and finding a long lasting relationship! Music by Brendhan "Maestro" Sears

Words are important, in many ways, but we are talking about the hollow words that are not backed up by actions today. Integrity is everything, and when the words don't match the actions, you need to look at that and decide if it is serving you. Doesn't matter if it is a love relationship, a friendship or in a professional setting, the words are nothing without the follow through in actions!

The deep end of the pool can be scary, but going in head first and doing the Deep Dive is necessary to heal and move on, as well as learning the tools to help you with anything else that may pop up in the future! Come on in, the water is fine!