Shot By Qupid

You met them in the spotlight… but would you still want them with the lights off? 👀 This week on Shot by Qupid , Ajay sits down with Raheem and Youssra to get into nightlife, personas, and the fine line between being desired and actually being known. From drag alter egos and DJ energy to dating apps, ego, and expectations, we’re asking the real question — are people into you… or the version of yo...

What happens when attraction crosses the line into fetishisation? And how do you date when people want the fantasy more than the real you? In this episode of Shot by Qupid , Ajay sits down with Darren and Amrik to unpack queer dating, identity, and the messy realities of being desired but not always truly seen. From sauna culture and secret hookups to navigating fetishisation and non-binary visibi...

From risky glances across a bar to refreshing the Grindr grid — how did queer dating go from eye contact to algorithms? In Episode 2 of Shot by Qupid , Ajay sits down with Yogesh and Paul to unpack how dating has evolved, what we’ve gained in convenience, and what we may have lost in courage. Was it hotter when you had to leave the house? Has swipe culture made us more connected — or just more ava...

Can dating yourself actually change your love life? In Episode 1 of Shot by Qupid , we unpack self-love, solo dating, and how learning to enjoy your own company can transform the way you date and connect. Ajay sits down with Chris to talk about navigating shame in queer spaces, travelling solo, and unlearning the idea that being alone means being lonely. Together, they explore how choosing yoursel...

Welcome to Shot by Qupid — the LGBTQ+ dating podcast where love is messy, dates are wild, and Cupid’s got terrible aim. 🎯 Hosted by Ajay Pabial (he/him) , creative, social entrepreneur, and seasoned survivor of situationships, this podcast dives headfirst into the most chaotic, outrageous, and unhinged queer dating stories out there. Expect: 💘 Dating disasters 📲 Ghosting, red flags & emotio...