Shift Your Story, Change Your Life

Half the time, you don't even clock that you're doing it. You tell yourself you're done scrolling, and somehow it's twenty minutes later. You pour the third glass of wine you didn't really want. You stand in the kitchen eating something you're not even hungry for. And the whole time, there's this quiet voice going, why can't I just stop? We've been taught to call these things bad habits, and to tr...

Business self-sabotage is extra maddening because half the time, you are painfully aware of what you are doing while you are doing it.  You open the laptop, stare at the post, rewrite the caption seventeen times, convince yourself the offer is not clear enough yet, decide maybe the whole business needs to be reworked, and somehow end up doing everything except the one thing that would actuall...

“I feel like I’ve tried everything.” If you’ve ever said that sentence, you know the exhaustion underneath it. By that point, you’ve probably read the books, listened to the podcasts, tried the routines, downloaded the apps, deleted the apps, re-downloaded the apps, bought the planner, journaled the childhood wound, tracked the habit, abandoned the habit, and restarted the habit more times than yo...

You know what is almost more annoying than the pattern itself? Knowing exactly what you are doing while you are doing it. You can be sitting there watching yourself say yes when you meant no. You can feel the resentment forming before the sentence is even finished, and somehow the words “of course, no problem” still come out of your mouth. You can know you need to look at the money, open the invoi...

You know the plan. The one where you decide that starting Monday, you’re going to wake up earlier, drink more water, journal, meditate, walk, stop scrolling, eat more protein, fix your finances, clean your house, finally get consistent, launch the thing, and somehow become a completely different person by Thursday afternoon. No big deal, right? The problem isn’t that you want more for your life, i...

The frustrating thing about worthiness wounds is that they rarely look like blocks at first. They look like being disciplined, capable, responsible, self-aware, and weirdly unable to let yourself actually enjoy what you worked so hard to create. You get the thing you wanted, and instead of feeling settled, your brain starts scanning for what could go wrong. You finally meet someone good, and sudde...

The frustrating thing about visibility blocks is that they rarely look like hiding at first. They look like editing the post one more time, waiting until the offer is “clearer”, or telling yourself you’re just being strategic. You convince yourself you’ll show up when you feel more confident, more polished, more ready, more whatever. But sometimes the reason you freeze when it’s time to be seen is...

The frustrating thing about money patterns is that they rarely make sense on the surface. You can be responsible, pay your bills on time, and know how to save, and still, the second there’s extra money sitting there, something in you starts itching to move it, spend it, invest it, fix something with it, give it away, or make it disappear. Because some part of you may have learned that having money...

The reality is you already know what you're doing. You can see the pattern clearly. You've journaled about it, talked it through with your therapist and your best friend, and maybe even built a whole career helping other people with it. And yet, you're still stuck in it. Self-sabotage doesn't look the same for everyone, and that's part of why it's so easy to miss in yourself.  For some people...

This week’s episode is part two of the Shift Your Story, Change Your Life podcast anniversary Ask Me Anything series, and this conversation gets more personal.  In part one, we talked more about life, relationships, family dynamics, and the messy human things so many of us are navigating behind the scenes.  In this episode, we shift into deeper questions about my own journey, my business...

This week, I’m sharing Part 1 of a special Ask Me Anything episode to celebrate one full year of the podcast. I invited listeners to send in the kinds of questions they would ask if we were sitting down together over coffee or tea, and the questions that came in were thoughtful, honest, and deeply real.  This episode opens up conversation around things so many women carry quietly but live wit...

This week, I’m joining Jamie on the Managing Mental Health Podcast for a grounded an honest conversation about hypnotherapy, subconscious healing, and why so many people stay stuck in the same patterns even when they understand them logically. Jamie, a fellow mental health professional, came into this conversation openly skeptical of hypnotherapy, which made this such an important episode.  W...

This week’s episode is a deep conversation about identity, what it actually is, how it gets formed, how it shapes the way you think, choose, show up, and move through your life, and why so many people stay stuck even when they consciously want something different. This episode explores what happens when your conscious mind says you want a new relationship, a healthier life, a thriving business, or...

This week’s hypnocoaching session is with a woman who came in thinking she had a money problem. On the surface, that made sense. Her business was not where she wanted it to be, financial pressure had been building for a long time, and there was a real ache underneath it all, the kind that comes from wondering when life is finally going to feel less heavy.  But as we moved through the session,...

What if the stories you were taught about money, success, and security were never actually designed to make you feel safe? In this week’s episode, I sit down with money coach and wealth strategist Jill Emanuel to talk about the money beliefs we inherit, the debt cycles so many people silently live in, and what it really takes to create lasting financial change. Jill shares how she grew up believin...

This week’s hypnocoaching session is with a woman who has spent much of her life feeling distracted, bored, and restless, someone who has followed the pull toward movement, change, travel, new opportunities, and new beginnings, again and again. What looks on the surface like a focus issue is actually tied to a much deeper pattern. She shares how, since she was young, she has struggled to stay with...

In this episode, Safiya and I talk about overthinking in a way most people never do as a strategy your system learned a long time ago to try to keep you safe. We get into the kind of overthinking that doesn’t actually help you make a decision or solve a problem. It’s the kind that loops and causes you to replay what you said, with 500 outcomes, and still leaves you feeling tight in your chest and...

This hypnocoaching session is with a woman who has done big things in her life, but money is still the place where she quietly holds back. She’s been the power behind the throne, helped create success, even had a project nominated for an Emmy… and yet she’s under-earned for years. Not because she’s confused or unskilled, but because somewhere inside, it still doesn’t feel fully safe to shine and g...

In this episode, I’m doing something totally different than anything I’ve done on the podcast before: a Bridgerton breakdown, through a subconscious lens. Because I can’t watch a show like a normal person. My brain is always scanning for the patterns running underneath the romance, the longing, the push-pull, and the “why can’t I just…” energy. So today, we’re looking at Season 4’s Benedict and So...

This week’s hypnocoaching session is with someone who’s not lacking confidence in the way people usually mean it. She can do hard things, show up when others ask her to, and make things happen. But when it comes to actually believing in herself, in a deep, steady, I-trust-me kind of way, something shifts. And that shift isn’t because she’s incapable.  It’s because self-belief comes with a fee...

In this episode, Safiya and I get honest about one of the most frustrating patterns this time of year: deciding you are “finally” going to be consistent, starting strong, and then quietly falling off and blaming yourself for it. We talk about what is actually happening underneath that cycle and explore why inconsistency is usually not a willpower problem at all.  It is often a nervous system...

This week’s hypnocoaching session is with Erika, a former corporate leader who walked away from the safety of a steady career to build her own leadership and team culture coaching business. On paper, she’s exactly the kind of person you’d trust to walk into a room and lead it. Years of experience. A track record of growing teams. People who’ve worked for her are still reaching out to say how much...

In this episode, Safiya and I explore clutter in a way it’s rarely talked about, not as a cleaning problem, an organization issue, or a lack of discipline, but as a subconscious strategy. We talk about why clutter often isn’t accidental, and why simply “getting motivated” or buying another storage bin never actually solves the problem. Because for many people, clutter is doing a job. This episode...

This week’s hypno-coaching session is with Tianna, a woman who has built her life around being capable, reliable, and deeply devoted to taking care of others. On the surface, she’s successful. She has built a business, gone viral, helped countless women, and carried enormous responsibility in both her personal and professional life. But underneath all of that effort, there’s a familiar frustration...

In this episode, Safiya and I explore one of the most misunderstood reasons people stay stuck: the subconscious fear of change. We talk about why change can feel exciting at first, and then suddenly feel heavy, exhausting, or impossible once you actually try to follow through. Not because you’re lazy, but because your subconscious mind is wired to prioritize safety over growth. This conversation u...