She's Just Not That Into You

Despite what all the romcoms and Disney movies lead us to believe, being single as a woman is not just an unfortunate condition to be tolerated, it's something that you can actively enjoy!  Research shows that by 2030, 45% of women are predicted to be single, and single women tend to be happier, healthier and live longer than married women. But even though most women nowadays are financially...

In this Book Club episode, we discuss The Wedding People, a popular novel by Alison Espach.  We discussed what we liked about the novel, especially how it touches on important feminist themes such as how modern-day wedding culture is toxic, the dangers of centring your life around a man, and the way a lot of women make themselves small because they lack confidence. We also liked how the novel comm...

In this episode, we discuss the importance of surrounding yourself with the right friends.   A study at Harvard showed that your close friends determine your life outcomes such as your physical health, lifestyle choices, career prospects, financial situation, and happiness levels, even more so than your spouse, your parents, or your siblings. Our friends have a huge impact on our life, but how do...

In this episode, we discuss how beauty standards universally affect women in every country all over the world, and how we can free ourselves. Beauty standards are highly subjective, shaped by the cultural and historical context of each specific society. But no matter where you live, how old you are, what your background is, how powerful you are or how much money you have, no woman on the planet ca...

In this episode, we talk about why women should never invest in a boyfriend, or a man they’re dating. What do we mean by investing in a man? We mean investing your time, energy and money into a man you are dating (and not yet married or engaged to), by doing things such as helping him build his career, helping him buy his house, supporting him financially, moving somewhere to suit his convenience,...

In this episode, we discussed 10 things we wish we'd known when we were 21, summarising all the life lessons that we learnt from our 20s.  We discussed everything from the importance of investing in your experiences and reading more books, to why you shouldn't compare yourself to others or feel pressure to meet social expectations.  It's a fun conversation where we share lots of our...

For our second film club episode, we discussed Black Doves, a Netflix Original TV series. It's set in London and centres on a strong female protagonist Helen Webb (played by Kiera Knightley) who leads a double life as an undercover spy.  This six-episode series is an interesting mix of action-packed spy movie, thriller and murder mystery, with a good dose of self-deprecating British humour, a...

In this episode, we interviewed Shannon Read, a female tattooist who specialises in tattooing women.  Shannon shared her experiences working in a male-dominated tattoo industry, which lead her to create her own female-friendly tattoo studio, and told us about everything she’s learnt from her 10+ years of experience tattooing female clients.  We discussed: women tend to underestimate themselves and...

In this episode, we talk about why wedding culture is toxic and misogynistic.  We’re not against weddings or marriage, but the way that most wedding ceremonies are performed feels outdated and misogynistic, and we rarely think to question this. We discussed: the father giving away the bride, pressure on the bride to meet certain beauty standards and look perfect for her wedding day, the extreme di...

In this episode, we discuss why women need to learn how to say no! Despite cultural differences between different countries, it’s still especially difficult for women to say no - in any culture! We explore how women are socially conditioned to be people pleasers and put others’ needs above our own, and discuss personal experiences of situations where we’ve both personally struggled to say no. We a...

In this episode, we discuss the powerful themes explored in the book Against White Feminism by Rafia Zakaria.  We reflect on what it means to confront white feminism, by discussing its definition and the cultural forces that shape how it's experienced and understood around the world. We talk about cultural differences between feminism in different countries, and discuss how contemporary Asian...

Giving up men is becoming a trend! And it all started with the 4B movement. In Korean, 4B stands for four “no’s”: no dating men, no sex with men, no marrying men, and no having children with men. It’s a bold feminist movement created by Korean feminists to break away from the toxic patriarchal system and build a community that truly centers on women and their needs. In this episode, we spoke with...

In this episode, we talk about everything you need to know about menstruation!    We discuss the stigma around periods, discrimination against women in medical healthcare, how society would be if it were men who got periods instead of women, misinformation about periods, how women's bodies change throughout the course of the menstrual cycle, why society's work culture isn't set up t...

In this episode, we share 10 non-negotiables that heterosexual women need when having sex with men!  We share why it’s important for women to have higher standards for sex than men do. We encourage women to work out what their own standards are, so that we can all be aware of what we really deserve. We discuss everything from contraception and STDs, to sexual pleasure, emotional connection, object...

Happy New Year! Our first episode of 2025 is about how to stick to your New Year’s resolutions. We discuss: why New Year’s resolutions often fail, the importance of setting realistic goals and expectations for yourself, and that it’s totally okay even if you haven’t made any progress on your resolutions in January. Don’t give up too soon! We also share our advice about: how to set goals, how to be...

Our first Film Club episode is a deep discussion of Coralie Fargeat’s provocative and visually stunning film, The Substance . The film won Best Screenplay at the Cannes Film Festival, and is a shocking exploration of the impossible beauty standards that our society places upon women. We discuss its gripping narrative, the symbolism throughout the film, and the way it explores themes like the objec...

In this episode, we spoke with Dian Zhou about her experiences appearing on reality TV show The Bachelor Japan Season 5.  Dian gave us an exciting glimpse into the behind-the-scenes of the filming process, including the best and worst moments!  We also discussed: pressure to fit Japanese beauty standards, social norms for how women are expected to behave, the friendships that she formed with the o...

In this episode, we’re covering everything you need to know about female masturbation—a topic that’s deeply personal and important, yet often silenced and ignored. We discussed: the stigma around female masturbation, differences between perceptions of male vs. female masturbation, lack of sex education about masturbation, differences in attitudes towards masturbation in different cultures, differe...

No matter where we are in life, we all face moments when we need to make big decisions that shape our future—whether it’s moving to a new country, changing careers, or deciding to get married. In these moments, intuition often serves as a guiding voice that helps us realise what we truly want deep down. However, following that inner voice isn’t always easy amidst the noise and distractions of our...

On the night of 3rd December 2024, Jiyoon was at a vintage bar in Seoul, enjoying a glass of whisky with her friends. But everything changed as soon as this one news headline appeared on her phone: “Martial law declared.”  Without hesitation, she left the bar and headed straight to join the protests at the National Assembly. Helicopters hovered above as crowds gathered, demanding that the governme...

Have you heard of Black Cat Energy? Maybe you’ve seen it on Instagram or TikTok—those catchy videos comparing “black cats” and “golden retrievers” in relationships.  If you found it funny, intriguing, or maybe just a little off, then this episode is for you! We’re diving into this viral trend that’s been dominating social media and asking: what’s really going on here? In this episode, we discuss t...

For our first Book Club episode, we’re discussing The Vegetarian by Han Kang, who was the first Asian woman and first Korean writer to win the Nobel Prize in Literature. We couldn’t think of a better choice than this powerful and deeply feminist novel for our first pick.  The Vegetarian tells the story of Yeong-hye, an ordinary woman living in contemporary South Korea, whose decision to stop eatin...

Can you imagine packing up your life after university and heading to South America to start a community project? That’s exactly what Sarah Abdoo did. After graduating from Oxford  University, she flew to Bolivia and began building connections that changed her life and the lives of the women in Cochabamba, Bolivia. Meet Sarah Abdoo, the founder of Adelante Mujer. Sarah’s mission began with small wo...

In this episode, we discuss why it’s so hard to make friends as an adult, cultural differences towards friendship in different countries, whether we find it easier to be friends with guys or with girls, how our parents influence our friendships, how a lot of people prioritise dating or meeting romantic partners over making new friends, and the importance of surrounding yourself with the right frie...

Our first guest interview episode is with Camila Fumarola, an illustrator from Buenos Aires, Argentina. Camila talks about her participation in the protests there that lead to the legalization of free, accessible abortions in Argentina.  We also talk about: feminism in Argentina, can men really be feminist allies, internalised misogyny among women, gender inequality for contraception, and what we...