Shell Fischer's Podcast

A particularly difficult human challenge involves trying to balance a desire to be there for others – both those in our personal lives and in our society in general – and a desire to offer ourselves our own self-care. When these two needs are unbalanced, we and others tend to suffer because of it, largely based on the degree of the imbalance. Gratefully, the Buddha offered us many ways that we cou...

The Buddha was once asked "what is the most important thing for us to practice?" He answered: patience (or khanti, in Pali) and assured us that this skill or quality is something we can learn to apply to absolutely everything we struggle with in our lives - every person, situation, and even ourselves - in order to become much more peaceful, self-controlled, compassionate, and undisturbed by life i...

We all tend to seek out and hope for gain, status, praise, and pleasure, and resist or fear loss, disgrace, blame, and pain – even though all are inescapable, and visit each of us in different forms throughout our lives. And how we relate to these hopes and fears – often called the 8 Worldly Winds – often dictates how we experience our entire world. This talk explores how our meditation practice c...

Often during our meditation practice, we encounter a state known as "busy mind," which is when there's a kind of ongoing flow of anxious or repetitive mental chatter that tends to keep us locked in the realm of the past or the future, and therefore, mostly distracted from the reality of the present moment, or … the life we're actually living. This talk explores how this particular mind state is cr...

During difficult times, allowing ourselves to pause, breathe, and come back home to the present moment is exactly how we can regain our footing, become more grounded, and shore up our ability to more wisely respond instead of automatically react to whatever's happening. This talk offers us a variety of ways that our meditation practice can help us learn to rest our attention in awareness itself, a...

An essential aspect of our meditation practice involves training ourselves to very consciously and compassionately navigate the truth of constant change, instead of allowing ourselves to become so unconsciously distracted by the swirl of it that we end up missing out on the life we're actually living. This talk explores how we can use our mindfulness practice to discover more kindness, presence, a...

Instead of resisting, denying, or trying to ignore a big change in our lives or in our world, the Buddhist teachings invite us to open up to it and deeply acknowledge: "This Is It," and then ask ourselves: "now what?" Meaning, what's the wisest, most compassionate response to this change? How can I relate in a way that is going to open my heart, rather than shut it down? This talk explores how we...

Our common experience of doubt – in ourselves, and in our ability to make good decisions for ourselves, especially - is actually the very last thing the Buddha himself struggled with just before he became enlightened. In fact, his own awakening was his profound message to us: that we all have the innate capability to discover for ourselves what will lead us towards more happiness, and what will le...

Whenever we experience pain or suffering, our common tendency is to believe that not only is the cause of our suffering in some way wrong, but that our own  response to it is also wrong. And therefore, we tend to surmise that we, ourselves, are also somehow wrong. Happily, the Buddhist teachings are designed to help us notice this common pattern, and learn how we can bravely open up to our own suf...

The Buddha insisted that our relationships make up the "whole" of our spiritual life, and and urged us to use our mindfulness practice to become more aware of who we're choosing to associate with in order to assure our sense of peace and well-being. Happily, his teachings offer us numerous ways that we can use our meditation practice to better discern whether our relationships are offering us pois...

As opposed to the act of "striving," which involves a kind of unhealthy or stressful clinging to some sort of expectation, and typically arises from our more self-centered mind, or ego - the quality of aditthana (or determination, in the Pali language) almost always arises from the heart, as in, from our heart's desire. And because our heart is just naturally wise and compassionate, if we commit o...

Whenever we perceive that some sort of harm is being done – either by another person, people, or even on a more national or global level - how can we best confront this without nurturing aversion in our own hearts, or letting it consume us in some way? This talk explores the Buddha's teachings on how we can use our meditation practice to help us to say "no" or maybe "that's enough" without doing f...

This talk addresses the question: How can we flow between all the different roles, hats, or identities that we place on ourselves every day, and that kind, wise, compassionate presence within us that is actually free of those often-limiting identities, or beliefs about who we think we "should" be? The answer involves using our meditation practice to examine how we can begin to loosen our strong gr...

Right before the Buddha's enlightenment, a single memory from his childhood apparently not only led him to nirvana, but to the profound teachings of the Middle Way – the whole thing. Essentially, what he remembered was what contentment (or passaddhi ) had felt like to him, at age 8. This talk explores how the Buddha was led to this understanding, along with some of his teachings on how we can trai...

The Buddhist teachings are continually calling our attention to the truth of what is called  annica , or impermanence, because essentially, it's exactly what we tend to struggle with, in the form of both the fear of uncertainty, and the grief that comes with change. But instead of trying to avoid our fear and grief – which is our natural tendency - the teachings are asking us to instead pause, and...

As the Buddha's teachings remind us over and over, even though it's difficult, we never want to let another person's anger, disrespect, or cruelty harden our own hearts. Instead, we want our meditation practice to serve as a kind of guard for our hearts - a strong shield that can protect us against the power that other people's disrespect can often have over us. This new talk explores how we can d...

While the Buddha assured us that it's healthy to be aware of all our different intentions, he also suggested that once we've planted the seeds of our plans, our practice becomes surrendering to any determined outcome whatsoever – to truly let go, of all of it. This talk on Shoshin, or "Beginner's Mind," is aimed at helping us to let go more and more often by inviting us to see all things as new –...

When we practice what the Buddha called The Middle Way, we start to realize with more clarity that contentment resides at the  center of our wanting and not wanting, our indulgence or deprivation. We learn that nothing is really happy or unhappy in and of itself - no person, thing, or situation, and that our joy or sorrow depends entirely on how we are  relating to our experience. This talk explor...

In order for us to practice well, we need to learn how to create and then dwell in a quality the Buddha called Noble Silence – something that is precious and multi-faceted, like a jewel, and not simply about being quiet. This talk explores all the many reasons why it's necessary and essential for us, along with offering practices that can help us to experience it more often, and slowly learn to li...

In the Buddhist teachings, the practice of dana (or generosity) is considered the number one heart quality that we are urged to cultivate, in order to discover more joy, and less suffering in our lives. This new talk from Shell explores how we can use our mindfulness practice to become more kind and generous not only to others, but also to ourselves, by honestly revealing and investigating all the...

As the Buddha tells us, rejecting, avoiding, or pushing away the  reality of the moment - which might be unpleasant - is one of the main ways that we create suffering (or dukkha ) not only for ourselves, but also for others. In the Pali language, this quality of aversion is called dosa . And because it tends to cause so much unnecessary pain and stress in our lives, the teachings urge us to use mi...

Most of us tend to grapple with what is considered an ancient human torment: the challenge of trying to balance a need for self-care, along with a strong sense of feeling responsible for helping others, and the world in general – a particular push and pull that can often be so painful. Happily the Buddha was also aware of this struggle, 2600 years ago, and offered us some very sage advice about ho...

In the Buddhist teachings, the Buddha urged us to very consciously be on the lookout for harmful qualities he called "The Near Enemies," – qualities that all "pretend" to be the heart-qualities of kindness, compassion, empathetic joy, and equanimity, or, The Divine Abodes, considered the highest, most beneficial emotions in the Buddhist teachings. In this talk, we explore how we can use our practi...

The Buddha was once asked "what is the most important thing for us to practice?" And his answer was simple: patience (or khanti, in Pali). Happily, this vital quality is something we can learn to apply to absolutely everything we struggle with in our lives - every person, situation, and even ourselves - in order to become much more peaceful, self-controlled, compassionate, and undisturbed by life...

In the Buddhist teachings it is said that there are 8 different "winds" or conditions that we either hope for, or fear - all of which are constantly blowing into our lives, just like the wind. These 8 are the main things that we tend to preoccupy ourselves with, and consequently become stressed out about. In this talk, Shell explores how we can use our practice to more clearly see and acknowledge...